Narcissists don't engage in real conversation of give and take to enjoy another person, their aim is to win, even when what they say doesn't make sense. Before they hear you out they are already forming in their mind the way they will refute you. It isn't about refuting information, it is about negating the target.
2 Timothy 3:21-5, Luke 6:28!
Expressing an opposing viewpoint with a narcissists is the same as firing the first shot over the bow of a battleship. Aggression is the only weapon in the arsenal of a narcissist.
Someone who expects to be able to reason with a narcissist on any level at all, has not yet encountered one. There is no reasoning with a narcissist, they love to fight, while truth doesn't matter very much, only winning. They count themselves as having won when their target cowers away in tears and complete defeat.
Narcissists hate to be interrupted but are famous for talking so long the target can't seem to wedge in words to be able to enter the one sided conversation, if one could call it a conversation. The tactic is to cause the target to become so frustrated they give up, affording the narcissists the victory by default.
The more covert narcissists use grunts and groans while you are speaking to indicate their complete disapproval of you as a person. They feel a sense of power if they can make their victim feel insignificant and foolish.
While I don't understand why a "Christian" would act this way and have many times wondered if they were ever born again, I am quite sure that engaging with them is of little value at all.
The biggest challenge to the believer is to be able to discern the narcissist tactics to be able to assess whether or not they will continue the relationship. There have been a few times in my life I have had to make the choice to remove myself from those who have only one thing in mind and that is to be more special than everyone else.
Perhaps loving these people from afar is the best course of action. We can pray for them, remain calm when we have to encounter them while making a hasty and polite get away when the opportunity arises.
Our goal as a believer is to grow in holiness, speak the truth in love and move on when we see the listener refuses us.
Ephesians 4:15 and Matthew 10:14
May the Lord Jesus Christ through the Holy Spirit guide our every action in the midst of the battle against unseen spiritual entities. We know that our fight isn't against people, it is against the devils that use the mouths of people.
Ephesians 6:12
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