It is interesting how our modern culture thinks. Often I hear words like "think positively" as though a happy mindset will make everything right.
It has been my experience that facing the demons in our society that cause problems, calling them what they are, and resolving to ask God for cleansing is the real fix. Our hope is to destroy the sin so that it does not return.
Thinking positively is a way of fantasizing about how we wish things were without any resolution to the wrong things within our soul that need expunging. Even worse we hide things so that others will think we are special. Impressing others is always pretense that eventually erodes until the problem is exposed.
Let's take the analogy of "sweeping the dirt under the carpet." The first thing that happens after sweeping the dirt, which is out in the open, under the carpet only hides the dirt is doesn't remove it.
Every time we walk on the carpet a little more of that dirt under it sneaks out and eventually the floor not only has the first pile from under the carpet but it also has the dirt that piles up after other dirt came later. Nothing gets clean but the dirt piles up more under that carpet with every sweeping. Pretty soon the carpet is ruined as the dust seeps up through the fibers and wears out the carpet.
It never works to hide things or pretend fantasies to make ourselves feel better or to impress others. Eventually, we become too weary of constantly pushing the dirt under something to hide it. It will sneak out and destroy whatever it touches.
God is the Author of wisdom, He knows that confession of sin is the only way to scrub the sin from our souls so that it does not return. The more we confess and ask to be cleansed the more we grow in holiness. The pile of sin does not grow into a filthy mountain of dirt because each wrong attitude and each misstep is corrected to make the path clean and swept regularly.
1 John 1:9
"9 If we confess our sins, He is faithful and righteous, so that He will forgive us our sins and cleanse us from all unrighteousness."
Romans 6:19
I speak in human terms because of the weakness of your flesh, for as you presented your members as servants to uncleanness and to wickedness upon wickedness, even so now present your members as servants to righteousness for sanctification.
Definition of Sanctification: Being set apart for the Father's use. We have been cleansed and continue to be cleansed as we confess our individual sins to walk in holiness.
1 John 1:10
"10 If we say we have not sinned, we make him a liar, and his word is not in us."
Those who will not confess sins and believe they are too good to have any, will not grow in holiness nor will they be useful to God.
1 Peter 1:15
"15 but as he who called you is holy, you also be holy in all your conduct,"
Hebrews 12:14
"14 Strive for peace with everyone, and for the holiness without which no one will see the Lord."