The problem with this is that we are not called to change a person's heart, only to speak the truth in love and leave their decision to God.
Sure, someone could treat another person disrespectfully enough that a weak person would give in and change their behavior around their persecutor, but it would only change behavior, not the heart, and only around that one person.
Someone who is in sin will not listen better because we bludgeon them with disrespect. Speaking the truth in loving warning and leaving them to decide is God's manner of rebuke.
Many instructions in God's Word guide how we do things with others.
One principle is that we speak the truth in love, meaning we approach someone because we love them, not just to make them do what we think is right. Our concern is about their walk with God or lack of it.
Another principle is that when we have warned in love, and the person will not listen, we are to walk away and remain absent from their lives until they make the right choice.
God also tells us to be discerning in our friendships that we make no friendship with a rebellious and angry person.
Ephesians 4:15
"15 but speaking the truth in love, we are to grow up in all aspects into Him who is the head, that is, Christ,"
Most people focus on the word love as though it means to be very careful not to offend, but it really means we approach them with the heart that wants to help them avoid disaster. We ought rather to focus on both the love and compassion for the person's heart, to help, not to act superior to them.
2 Corinthians 2:4-6 "…4 For through many tears I wrote you out of great distress and anguish of heart, not to grieve you but to let you know how much I love you. 5 Now if anyone has caused grief, he has not grieved me but all of you— to some degree, not to overstate it. 6 The punishment imposed on him by the majority is sufficient for him.…"
Feelings are not relevant; snatching them from disaster is the goal.
Galatians 6:1
"Brothers, if someone is caught in a trespass, you who are spiritual should restore him with a spirit of gentleness. But watch yourself, or you also may be tempted."
Ezekiel 3:18-19
"18 When I say to the wicked, ‘You will certainly die,’ and you do not warn him or speak out to warn the wicked from his wicked way so that he may live, that wicked person shall die for wrongdoing, but his blood I will require from your hand.
19 However if you have warned the wicked and he does not turn from his wickedness or from his wicked way, he shall die for wrongdoing, but you have saved yourself."
2 Corinthians 2:6-8
"The punishment imposed on him by the majority is sufficient for him. So instead, you ought to forgive and comfort him, so that he will not be overwhelmed by excessive sorrow. Therefore I urge you to reaffirm your love for him."
There are those we must avoid because they have no interest in resolving the trouble they caused.
Proverbs 22:24-25 " 24 Do not make friends with an angry man, and do not associate with a hot-tempered man, 25 or you may learn his ways and entangle yourself in a snare.…"
If someone repents, we are to forgive and treat them as though the offense never happened. If there is no repentance, then the relationship remains broken until confession is made and they are forgiven.
Luke 17:3-4
"Watch yourselves. If your brother sins, rebuke him; and if he repents, forgive him. Even if he sins against you seven times in a day, and seven times returns to say, ‘I repent,’ you must forgive him.”
Very few relationships today are reconciled because people are more comfortable not bothering to admit their flaws or offenses. They would rather it just go away on its own or pretend it never happened. This never makes for a quality and loving relationship.
When we love someone, we want to make sure things are right between us because they are more important than the pride that prevents someone from confessing their bad attitude or behavior.
It takes humility and strength of character to confess a flaw; those who are prideful and weak cannot do it.
1 Thessalonians 5:14
"And we urge you, brothers, to admonish the unruly, encourage the fainthearted, help the weak, and be patient with everyone."
