"Never get angry about something you cannot change" Ronald Reagan
Never take advice from those who have failed in relationship after relationship while never making any significant emotional or spiritual growth or broadening of their character.
If someone acts the same way at 70 as they were at 20 this is a person who will bring nothing of value to the relationship because they have not self-reflected to learn all their lives, what makes us think they will do it now?!! They do not understand important matters, they don't evaluate to discover the truth and they are easily offended by those who do not walk according to the narcissist's desires. These people will never have your back nor do they care to, they only want you as supply to elevate them, anything else is an irritant to them.
Understandably, most people will be acquaintances as we move through life. We can enjoy them while remaining superficial for a time. However, deeper more meaningful relationships will take time, effort, and understanding as we engage in all manner of trials and joys in life together sharing important matters while enjoying the input of our friends.
Those who have not grown emotionally and spiritually are not able to see why they lost someone, they only blame the one who became weary of their nonsense and departed.
These self-proclaimed special people become angry and full of rage that what they did chased someone away. They never self-reflected to understand they played a major role in why someone could no longer put up with their covert and sometimes overt manipulation tactics to cause frustration in their target.
When someone cares only about remaining in control and superior to others there can never be closeness or cooperation, there is no reciprocity. They do not help others in life unless it elevates themselves in the eyes of others and it is usually minimal when they do.
I cannot count the number of times I heard this very disturbing phrase from people; "at least I can say I did something" as though the minimum was enough to boast while making those who do this feel that they made a difference when in reality they made very little if any difference at all.
In other words, the narcissist does as little as possible for others to be able to brag but not enough to be a real help and they never do something if they are asked, they only do what they want. They will be very helpful to those they wish to impress and who elevate them continually, but they will never be there for those they see as beneath them.
A narcissist never wants to be inconvenienced by the problems of others so they use the excuse that it is not their responsibility.
I do many things that are not my responsibility because I love someone. I like to be a "wingman" as they say, someone who is there to support someone as they move through life. Even if there is nothing I can "do", I can always "be" supportive when there is a trial, a new adventure or anything else, even if I am not needed.
Narcissists love to boast to others they are excluding in order to show off to their target what the narcissist has that the target does not have. This is why social media has become so popular, most people love to parade themselves exaggerating their exploits and all the adventures they are having to create jealousy in others.
When I see most social media posts, I notice people saying subtly, "look at me, look at me." All of us do some of this to share happy things with our friends because we enjoy too when they share with us, but far too many use this forum to brag and parade themselves without regard to the people who are seeing the post.
This is the reason it is so easy to "delete" someone from our lives these days, people are merely objects to be used to enhance one's own image in these final days before Christ comes.
This truly is the "me generation" that is described in 2 Timothy 3. Those who do not love others but love themselves a great deal. These too are the people who will not listen to sound doctrine or godly advice. As God said, they heap up for themselves those who will say what they want to hear and reject those who say what is needed and righteous.
2 Timothy 3:1-5
Difficult (ragingly insane) Times Will Come
3 But realize this, that in the last days difficult times will come.
2 For people will be lovers of self, lovers of money, boastful, arrogant, slanderers, disobedient to parents, ungrateful, unholy,
3 unloving, irreconcilable, malicious gossips, without self-control, brutal, haters of good, 4 treacherous, reckless, conceited, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God, 5 holding to a form of godliness although they have denied its power; avoid such people as these."
2 Timothy 4:3 "
For the time will come when they will not tolerate sound doctrine; but wanting to have their ears tickled, they will accumulate for themselves teachers in accordance with their own desires,"
You may have already noticed that the parents who go along to get along, neglecting to impart truth and wisdom to their children will be those who are loved by their children and their families.
Those who bring truth and light with God's wisdom will be rejected, mocked, maligned and ignored in these last days. Count it as great blessing when you are not loved by the world.
John 15:18-20 "18 the world hates you, understand that it hated Me first. 19 If you were of the world, it would love you as its own. Instead, the world hates you, because you are not of the world, but I have chosen you out of the world. 20 Remember the word that I spoke to you: ‘No servant is greater than his master.’ If they persecuted Me, they will persecute you as well; if they kept My word, they will keep yours as well.…"
It is foolishness for us to attempt to change others. We can only tell the truth and remove ourselves when they will not listen. And, perhaps, someone may listen, learn, and change their ways, although rare in our generation. The very least that will happen is we learn to become steadfast and strong no matter what others are doing.
John 17:14
"I have given them Your word and the world has hated them; for they are not of the world, just as I am not of the world."
James 4:4
"You adulteresses! Do you not know that friendship with the world is hostility toward God? Therefore, whoever chooses to be a friend of the world renders himself an enemy of God."
Knowing God's Word concerning these things will keep us steeped in joy, peace, and comfort as we navigate through this dying world.
