Narcissists are always looking for reasons to execute the silent treatment. They will take the smallest thing and blow it into a monstrous problem when there needn't be any at all.
In order to feel superior to their target they must make problems where there are none.
Devaluing those they are jealous of, diminishes their sense of loss for not having what their target has. Jealousy is a huge part of the motivation of those who hate others to the degree that they must destroy their soul one way or another.
The devil did this in the garden and still does. He must destroy those whom God loves. His jealousy against God is what got him thrown out of heaven. He wants to destroy any good in anyone, as is also true of the narcissist.
Now the devil whispers jealous lies to people in their minds to cause them to be agitated with others. He uses their thoughts and fleshly nature to bring up the jealousy, even when there is nothing to be jealous of, he will create the thought to bring up fleshly insecurity.
Jealousy is often the reason people do mean things to others. Those who are jealous cannot stand the success or happiness of those who are their targets.
James 3:16
"For where jealousy and selfish ambition exist, there will be disorder and every vile practice."
Jealousy ruins relationships, it is best to avoid someone who is acting jealously toward us.
James 4:2-3
"You desire and do not have, so you murder. You covet and cannot obtain, so you fight and quarrel. You do not have, because you do not ask. You ask and do not receive, because you ask wrongly, to spend it on your passions."
James 3:14-15
"But if you have bitter jealousy and selfish ambition in your hearts, do not boast and be false to the truth. This is not the wisdom that comes down from above, but is earthly, unspiritual, demonic."
Jealousy is demonic and fleshly. If someone displays consistently tendencies toward jealousy, it is best not to share anything with them. If someone is jealous and realizes it, then they must pray to be delivered from it.
Remember too that "going no contact" with someone who will not change is not the same things as the silent treatment. This is self protection, knowing that we must turn someone over to God is not hatred or the silent treatment.
I wonder if this might apply to our country today? Yes, I think so!
Isaiah 1:14-16 "…14 I hate your New Moons and your appointed feasts; they have become a burden to Me; I am weary of bearing them. 15 When you spread out your hands in prayer, I will hide My eyes from you; even though you multiply your prayers, I will not listen. Your hands are covered with blood. 16 Wash and cleanse yourselves. Remove your evil deeds from My sight. Stop doing evil!…"
How many times have we spoken truth to someone and been met with anger that we rained on their parade? Lots of times. Our country loves its pleasure and fake emotional highs.
Loving people means doing what is best for them spiritually.
In this day of false preachers and teachers we are going to be doing more correction than ever before. It is the correction that is encouragement to keep going the right way.
This culture sees "flattery" as encouragement, it is not. Flattery is destructive rather than helpful. It causes people to bask in vein glory instead of hitting their fault head on to improve.
Proverbs 26:24-28
"Whoever hates disguises himself with his lips and harbors deceit in his heart; when he speaks graciously, believe him not, for there are seven abominations in his heart; though his hatred be covered with deception, his wickedness will be exposed in the assembly. Whoever digs a pit will fall into it, and a stone will come back on him who starts it rolling. A lying tongue hates its victims, and a flattering mouth works ruin."
Proverbs 28:23
"Whoever rebukes a man will afterward find more favor than he who flatters with his tongue."
Psalm 5:9
"For there is no truth in their mouth; their inmost self is destruction; their throat is an open grave; they flatter with their tongue."
Remember: The devil flattered Eve and she bought into it because she liked hearing it, look where it took her, she lost everything wonderful.
2 Timothy 4:2-3 " 2 Preach the word; be prepared in season and out of season; reprove, rebuke, and encourage with every form of patient instruction. 3 For the time will come when men will not tolerate sound doctrine, but with itching ears they will gather around themselves teachers to suit their own desires.…"
