Narcissists Want to Sabotage

Narcissists always sabotage any open and honest dialogue to prevent solutions to relationship problems.

Relationship problems are food for the narcissist, they love it when drama continues, even over the silliest things. If they can get us to be upset over which cup we used for the coffee, they will gain a sense of superiority and control that they were able to unnerve their target.

We see more of this all the time as we slide into the 2 Timothy 3 scenario. We are observing this dynamic in these end times, the intensity of hostility toward one another over the smallest slight or their perception that there was a slight, so much so that the honest and open person is left feeling as though they have been hit by a truck not knowing how it could have happened, as the narcissist rages at nothing, thinking they have something to rage about.

Narcissists are never about truth and mutual cooperation, but only and completely about control. Frustrating others is their highest goal, to elevate themselves. This mentality comes straight from the devil and his minions, who are busy ruining relationships and spiritual progress as much as is possible for them.

The good news is that we can be aware of their tactics and learn to avoid them. If we cannot avoid them we can learn how to thwart their tactics through prayer and scripture study. Knowing what they are is 80% of the battle. We cannot fight the enemy if we don't know what the enemy is doing.

It is true that knowledge is power, when we know what the aim is for the narcissist we can avoid playing their games. Calmness of Spirit can be ours everyday no matter what the narcissist is doing. When we see ourselves becoming weary, then is when we withdraw to refill our Spiritual battery to begin again when we are full.

John 6:55-59 "
55 For my flesh is meat indeed, and my blood is drink indeed.
56 He that eateth my flesh, and drinketh my blood, dwelleth in me, and I in him.
57 As the living Father hath sent me, and I live by the Father: so he that eateth me, even he shall live by me.
58 This is that bread which came down from heaven: not as your fathers did eat manna, and are dead: he that eateth of this bread shall live for ever.
59 These things said he in the synagogue, as he taught in Capernaum."

Acts 2:42
"And they devoted themselves to the apostles' teaching and the fellowship, to the breaking of bread and the prayers."

The more time we spend with the Lord in obedience, the greater our power to resist the wiles of the devil.

Christ is the Answer not the Psychologists

Want to wallow in self pity all your life, stay emotionally and mentally devastated, here's how to do that, go to a professional psychiatrist or psychologist.

It's called job security for the psychological profession, if they can keep you focused on your "feelings" while wallowing in agony every session without solutions, they will never be without a job.

There are some people who have been schooled in psychology who understand the difference between helping or just pandering. They have realized that many people seeking counseling are looking for excuses and pampering rather than solutions. However these are few, most in the counseling profession do more damage than good while keeping their patients sick.

Christ is the answer to everything, if someone is not willing to counsel according to God's principles as described in the Bible, then they are not worth the time.

Want to get well spiritually? Turn to Christ!

Encouragement is not Praise

Encouragement is not praise!

When we encourage a runner in a race, we don't praise him for how far he has come, we spur him on to go further.

We have been praising "Ad Nauseam" this generation while building up pride that is unshakable in them. This generation is becoming more hardened than ever in their hearts because of this.

Proverbs 16:17-19 "…17 The highway of the upright is to depart from evil; He who watches his way preserves his life. 18 Pride goes before destruction, And a haughty spirit before stumbling. 19 It is better to be humble in spirit with the lowly Than to divide the spoil with the proud.…"

Jeremiah 18:12
"But they will say, 'It's hopeless! For we are going to follow our own plans, and each of us will act according to the stubbornness of his evil heart.'"

Matthew 13:15 "Matthew 13:15
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FOR THE HEART OF THIS PEOPLE HAS BECOME DULL, WITH THEIR EARS THEY SCARCELY HEAR, AND THEY HAVE CLOSED THEIR EYES, OTHERWISE THEY WOULD SEE WITH THEIR EYES, HEAR WITH THEIR EARS, AND UNDERSTAND WITH THEIR HEART AND RETURN, AND I WOULD HEAL THEM.'"

John 5:40-42 "…40 yet you refuse to come to Me to have life. 41 I do not accept glory from men, 42 but I know you, that you do not have the love of God within you.…"

For all those who refuse to hear the Lord, repent from this hardness of heart before it is too late.

Hebrews 3:15 "15 As it has been said: “Today, if you hear His voice, do not harden your hearts, as you did in the rebellion.”

Yes, Unoffendable!

"What often feels like an offense is really a door to your destiny. Consider Joseph, he suffered attempted murder, betrayal and slavery; he was unjustly accused and unfairly imprisoned. Yet in all things, like Christ Himself, Joseph entrusted himself to God (1 Pe 2:23). You see, our negative reaction to offense and injustice reveals where we are still controlled by our flesh. If you want to reach your destiny, you must become Christlike in your crisis. In a word, you must become unoffendable. --In Christ's Image Training - Francis Frangipane"

Look to Christ Alone

If we need the praise of men to feel validated, then we are not yet close enough to Christ.

We long to be with fellow believers who love Christ. However, we do not need anyone to validate us to remain steady and strong as we obey Christ.

We love people, but they are not our guide, the Holy Spirit is that. The Holy Spirit may use others to speak truth to us, but we do not place our trust in men, we evaluate what men say through knowledge of the Word of God.

Micah 7:5-8
"Put no trust in a neighbor; have no confidence in a friend; guard the doors of your mouth from her who lies in your arms; for the son treats the father with contempt, the daughter rises up against her mother, the daughter-in-law against her mother-in-law; a man's enemies are the men of his own house. But as for me, I will look to the Lord; I will wait for the God of my salvation; my God will hear me. Rejoice not over me, O my enemy; when I fall, I shall rise; when I sit in darkness, the Lord will be a light to me."

Far too many people are paying more attention to what men say than they do to what Christ says. When a man speaks we must always evaluate it, to see if the man is saying the same thing Christ says.

Many teachers in these end times add to the word of God, they interpret the Word in terms of our culture rather than what God actually meant.

2 Peter 1:20-21 

"20 Above all, you must understand that no prophecy of Scripture comes from the prophet’s own interpretation. 21 For no prophecy was ever brought about through human initiative, but men spoke from God as they were carried along by the Holy Spirit.…"

Diligence and Excellence is in the Character

Many home schoolers, have dropped cursive writing, they think that because spiritual matters are the most important, that other disciplines are not, but I think they go hand in hand. If we are "diligent people", it will be in all things, enhancing the spiritual.

It is he same with dress codes. There are many believers who think it doesn't matter how we dress because God looks at the heart. The problem with this thinking is the inability to recognize that our outer is evidence of our inner.

If we are diligent in our character, we will be that way in all things.

Proverbs 10:4
"Poor is he who works with a negligent hand, But the hand of the diligent makes rich."

Proverbs 14:23
"In all labor there is profit, But mere talk leads only to poverty."

Proverbs 13:4
"The soul of the sluggard craves and gets nothing, But the soul of the diligent is made fat."

When we see diligence in light of the whole of Scripture, we see that diligence and excellence, is not merely outward but is an inner character quality that does not come and go based on personal desires, but rather permeates through everything we do.

Growing in Holiness

There are those who are confused as to whether or not they should ever delete or block someone from their facebook or their lives. Here is what God says about it;

"Come out from among them and be ye separate." 2 Corinthians 16:17

"Bad company corrupts good character." 2 Corinthians 15:33

"What fellowship does light have with darkness." 2 Corinthians 6:14

In short, it is not only alright to remove contentious people from our lives and FB but it is a command of God.

The World and the Devil Destroy Families

The public schools and ungodly extended family are going to work against your values and what you want for your children. It is an impossible situation, surrounding children with mean and rebellious people who have contempt for our God and us, is a recipe for disaster. The first and constant influences in our children's lives are the ones that will shape their path.

1 Corinthians "15:33 Do not be deceived: “Bad company corrupts good character.”

2 Corinthians 6:16-18 "…16 What agreement can exist between the temple of God and idols? For we are the temple of the living God. As God has said: “I will live with them and walk among them, and I will be their God, and they will be My people.” 17“ Therefore come out from among them and be separate, says the Lord. Touch no unclean thing, and I will receive you.” 18 And: “I will be a father to you, and you will be My sons and daughters, says the Lord Almighty.”…"