Any church gathering that would blame the woman because her husband watches filth must be chastised, and the woman must leave that gathering.
The woman who is enduring this adultery and abuse by a husband who is lusting after porn should take steps to cleanse her house of it. Women are afraid to discipline their husbands by removing the devices that he uses to indulge in sin. She must pray for him while at the same time removing the demonic influences. And, if she has trustworthy godly friends, she should enlist those friends, men who can engage the husband to discipline him.
Women have been trained that they should never counsel their husbands, but that is what a helpmate does. She is to counsel him, and if he will not listen, then she must take steps to protect her household from demonic influence. She is the keeper of the home and must pray for strength to protect it and her children.
Sapphirah obeyed her husband to lie to the Holy Spirit, and God killed both of them. Sapphirah was judged for "conspiring with her husband" when she did the evil her husband wanted her to do.
When a woman does not protest when her husband sins, then she is allowing it and is counted as complicit in it.
Believers are called to discipline and chastise anyone in the church who is sinning in the Spirit of love, helping them to repent and become cleansed by God.
Women are to be "keepers at home", the Greek word oikourgos, meaning a guard or watcher of the house.
A woman cannot obey God when she is obeying a rebellious husband. And, a woman is not a help to the husband when she endorses his sin by ignoring it.
Acts 5:29 "29 Then Peter and the other apostles answered and said, We ought to obey God rather than men."
Titus 2:4-5 "4 and so train the young women to love their husbands and children, 5 to be self-controlled, pure, working at home, kind, and submissive to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be reviled."
A woman submits when her husband obeys God but not when he disobeys Christ. It is impossible to train our young women the right way with that demonic influence in the home.
Also remember, "more is caught than taught." When a woman allows it, the children are influenced by the filthy habits of the husband. The children must see the mother protecting them from filth.
Yes, women must pray for their husbands, and if they love them, they will do what they can to influence the husband to do what is right and repent of the sin.
Love does not coddle and enable; it fights (through prayer and a strong stand against) to defend what is true so that everyone involved will be cleansed of what destroys families.
