God Will Avenge Us!

Do you want to test the character of someone you are thinking of marrying to see what is really inside?

Mildly and respectfully disagree with your potential spouse, if their first response to a disagreement is anger or rage, you have just seen that character is an angry one.

No one who is rational and reasonable will rage over a disagreement. Anger is the first sign of a disrespectful arrogant person.

One does not automatically become angry if there isn't already anger inside waiting for the slightest provocation.

An angry man/woman will see any disagreement or boundary as a personal attack, this is the reason they are easily provoked.

Proverbs 22:24-25

"24 Make no friendship with an angry man,

And with a furious man do not go,

25 Lest you learn his ways

And set a snare for your soul."

When an easily angered man rages over silly things it is likely we will respond in angry ways in return.

Ragers bring out the baser side of our nature. We do not easily rage at anyone, but if they are abusive to us we are more likely to retaliate. We do not want to be around people on a regular basis, who will provoke us to anger with irrational rage.

If we have to be around someone who is a rager then we can remain silent and refuse to engage with them. When we see them angry over a simple comment, that is our clue not to continue with this person.

Proverbs 15:18

"A hot-tempered man stirs up strife, but he who is slow to anger calms a dispute."

Proverbs 17:11

"An evil man seeks only rebellion, and a cruel messenger will be sent against him."

When we get to the point in which we no longer feel any desire or compulsion to respond or retaliate, we are in the better place.

Romans 12:18-19

"…18 If it is possible on your part, live at peace with everyone. 19 Do not avenge yourselves, beloved, but leave room for God’s wrath. For it is written: “Vengeance is Mine; I will repay, says the Lord.”

Even if the rager refuses to be at peace with us we remain at peace because none of the confrontations were our own doing. Let the evil person see only their own rage.

Preparing the Believers

We ought to be preparing our people for persecution and dedication to God to the point that the persecution does not diminish our faith but increases it, rather than giving them false hope that America will be a safe place.

America is on a slippery slope and has been for a very long time. Most Christianity in this country has been cultural and phony for as long as I can remember. My eyes were only opened to that in the past 20 years.

We are on the slide now and nothing can stop it. The best way to spend our time is to warn and pray that those who are not yet born again will listen to the warning and trust in Christ before it is too late.

Those who have been living a cultural Christianity will not hold up under severe persecution. They will lie and say God knows their heart while they deny Him to save their own lives, and, yes God does know their hearts, He knew all along those who are pretending to want Him but only wanted His protection without wanting Him.

As a whole, this country lives in a fantasy world of make-believe, as long as someone says something they believe it is so, merely by the saying of it. No evidence is needed only words, this is a frightening place for anyone to be, in a fantasy in their own minds.

We cannot fix problems or warn people when all we do is wish and talk.

Matthew 15:7-9 "…7 You hypocrites! Isaiah prophesied correctly about you: 8‘ These people honor Me with their lips, but their hearts are far from Me. 9They worship Me in vain; they teach as doctrine the precepts of men.’ ”…

The Abuser's Love Vs Jesus' Love

The Abuser's Belief System

Once again you are speaking the truth. All of what you speak about I have endured with narcissistic family members. The abuser says very covert things to dig at us and even using nonresponsiveness to poke at us. They will be attentive to their favorite accomplished person, at least accomplished in their own eyes, while demeaning the one of whom they are jealous. They want their target to believe they have nothing to offer when in reality they are jealous and want to undermine their target. They are pretenders, pretending someone who fawns over them is special while the rational person is treated as though they are foolish and stupid. Anyone who does not hold them in a superior position will be a target. These people absolutely refuse to work out a problem, because they like that there is a problem. They feel elevated and pretend you are the problem. When we have tried a few times to resolve a problem and are met with rage or victimhood tears, then is time to remove ourselves. Narcissists often create problems covertly or overtly but will make you the problem when you try to resolve it so the behavior stops happening. After many years of dealing with this we finally realize that we will never be able to fix it. Then we should be done moving on to more healthy relationships.

2 Timothy 3:1-5 "You should know this, Timothy, that in the last days there will be very difficult (ragingly insane) times. 2 For people will love only themselves and their money. They will be boastful and proud, scoffing at God, disobedient to their parents, and ungrateful. They will consider nothing sacred. 3 They will be unloving and unforgiving; they will slander others and have no self-control. They will be cruel and hate what is good. 4 They will betray their friends, be reckless, be puffed up with pride, and love pleasure rather than God. 5 They will act religious, but they will reject the power that could make them godly. Stay away from people like that!

Narcissistic Tricks

Narcissists will suggest things that will be harmful to you while pretending it will be good for you, they are controlled by devils. Satan wants us to do sinful things thinking they are good for us.

2 Corinthians 11:14

"And no wonder, for even Satan disguises himself as an angel of light."

Just as Christ turned to Peter and said; "get thee behind me Satan" while looking at Peter but speaking to Satan we ought to see the devil working in those who are narcissists.

Matthew 16:22-24 "…22 Peter took Him aside and began to rebuke Him. “Far be it from You, Lord!” he said. “This shall never happen to You!” 23 But Jesus turned and said to Peter, “Get behind Me, Satan! You are a stumbling block to Me. For you do not have in mind the things of God, but the things of men.” 24 Then Jesus told His disciples, “If anyone wants to come after Me, he must deny himself and take up his cross and follow Me.…"

In other words, it was Satan who was influencing the thoughts and words of Peter and is also influencing the thoughts and words of the narcissists around us.

When we realize a narcissist is back at their old tricks again, we must be discerning. We must not allow those controlled by the devil to goad us into sinful responses. The wisest thing to do is to remove ourselves from them if it is possible.

Narcissists are fools who attempt to control us through manipulation and false accusations. Just as Peter rebuked Christ, correcting God, so too the narcissists attempt to make our good decisions look bad or evil.

Proverbs 18:2

A fool takes no pleasure in understanding, but only in expressing his opinion.

Proverbs 1:7

"The fear of the Lord is the beginning of knowledge; fools despise wisdom and instruction."

Here is what we are in for when we attempt to discuss anything with a fool. Those narcissists in my life never at any time wanted to discuss something to discover the root of a problem, they only wanted to fight to win. They cannot discuss calmly and rationally a problem without attempting to demolish you as a person. God tells us to get away from such people.

Proverbs 29:9

If a wise man has an argument with a fool, the fool only rages and laughs, and there is no quiet.

2 Timothy 3:1-5

"3 This know also, that in the last days perilous (ragingly insane) times shall come.

2 For men shall be lovers of their own selves, covetous, boasters, proud, blasphemers, disobedient to parents, unthankful, unholy,

3 Without natural affection, trucebreakers, false accusers, incontinent, fierce, despisers of those that are good,

4 Traitors, heady, highminded, lovers of pleasures more than lovers of God;

5 Having a form of godliness, but denying the power thereof: from such turn away.

Codependent Responses to Dysfunctional Family Problems

I stopped trying to help resolve relationships in our dysfunctional family. The narcissists in the family see every attempt to resolve things as a personal attack rather than seeing it as an opportunity to have a meaningful discussion to make things better. Narcissists don't care if things get better as long as they win over those they wish to dominate through manipulation.

We are not responsible for the feelings, choices and actions of others who want us to take responsibility for their stuff.

Boundaries are an offense to narcissists. They see boundaries as rejection because they cannot place themselves in the shoes of others to understand them and their choices.

Controlling others is the goal of all narcissists. If they cannot control you then you are now a target for mean-spirited actions and attitudes.

Here is a very good video on this subject!

Avoid the Narcissists They do not Love You

Narcissists will suggest things that will be harmful to you while pretending it will be good for you, they are controlled by devils. Satan wants us to do sinful things thinking they are good for us.

2 Corinthians 11:14

"And no wonder, for even Satan disguises himself as an angel of light."

Just as Christ turned to Peter and said; "get thee behind me Satan" while looking at Peter but speaking to Satan we ought to see the devil working in those who are narcissists.

Matthew 16:22-24 "…22 Peter took Him aside and began to rebuke Him. “Far be it from You, Lord!” he said. “This shall never happen to You!” 23 But Jesus turned and said to Peter, “Get behind Me, Satan! You are a stumbling block to Me. For you do not have in mind the things of God, but the things of men.” 24 Then Jesus told His disciples, “If anyone wants to come after Me, he must deny himself and take up his cross and follow Me.…"

In other words, it was Satan who was influencing the thoughts and words of Peter and is also influencing the thoughts and words of the narcissists around us.

When we realize a narcissist is back at their old tricks again, we must be discerning. We must not allow those controlled by the devil to goad us into sinful responses. The wisest thing to do is to remove ourselves from them if it is possible.

Narcissists are fools who attempt to control us through manipulation and false accusations. Just as Peter rebuked Christ, correcting God, so too the narcissists attempt to make our good decisions look bad or evil.

Proverbs 18:2

A fool takes no pleasure in understanding, but only in expressing his opinion.

Proverbs 1:7

"The fear of the Lord is the beginning of knowledge; fools despise wisdom and instruction."

Here is what we are in for when we attempt to discuss anything with a fool. Those narcissists in my life never at any time wanted to discuss something to discover the root of a problem, they only wanted to fight to win. They cannot discuss calmly and rationally a problem without attempting to demolish you as a person. God tells us to get away from such people.

Proverbs 29:9

If a wise man has an argument with a fool, the fool only rages and laughs, and there is no quiet.

2 Timothy 3:1-5

"3 This know also, that in the last days perilous (ragingly insane) times shall come.

2 For men shall be lovers of their own selves, covetous, boasters, proud, blasphemers, disobedient to parents, unthankful, unholy,

3 Without natural affection, trucebreakers, false accusers, incontinent, fierce, despisers of those that are good,

4 Traitors, heady, highminded, lovers of pleasures more than lovers of God;

5 Having a form of godliness, but denying the power thereof: from such turn away.

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