It is common for narcissists to attempt to shape us into their idea of a successful person. To them a successful person is one who is just like them.
No matter how much they twist God's Word or defy kindness and love, they believe they are good people because they are special.
When someone thinks they are above others it is not possible to possess the fruit of the Spriit of Christ.
"22 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, 23 gentleness, self-control; against such things there is no law."
The first characteristic of the fruit of God's Spirit is love. We cannot come to Christ believing we are special and expect to be forgiven. To be born again we must admit our sinful nature, no one who does this thinks highly of themselves.
Anyone who hangs on to pride will not be born again.
James 4:9-10
…9 Grieve, mourn, and weep. Turn your laughter to mourning, and your joy to gloom. 10Humble yourselves before the Lord, and He will exalt you."
God will exalt us when we are humble but He will never exalt those who have exalted themselves.
2 Chronicles 7:14
"and if My people who are called by My name humble themselves and pray and seek My face and turn from their wicked ways, then I will hear from heaven, forgive their sin, and heal their land."
God will not forgive the sins of those who will not humbly admit they have sinned.
Proverbs 29:23
"A man's pride will bring him low, but a humble spirit will obtain honor."
Ezekiel 21:26
"This is what the Lord GOD says: 'Remove the turban, and take off the crown. Things will not remain as they are: Exalt the lowly and bring low the exalted."
Job 22:29
"When men are cast down, then thou shalt say, There is lifting up; and he shall save the humble person."
It is clear in God's word that those who attempt to remain superior to others will be brought low eventually. When anyone act superior to people they are also doing it to God. They are a god unto themselves and will not listen to God about anything. These people take the Scriptures and twist them into what they want to believe rather than asking God what He said.
1 John 1:9
"If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness."
God will not forgive those who are prideful and willful.
James 4:7 "Submit yourselves therefore to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you."
The devil wants people to embrace arrogance so that he can control their thoughts and their heart leading them deeper into haughtiness. A sense of superiority to people and to God leads those who are like this into bitterness and resentment when others do not accept their idea of themselves.
When we have become born again we do not want to offend God or people. Our desire is to become like Christ.
Galatians 5:24
"And those who belong to Christ Jesus have crucified the flesh with its passions and desires."
2 Timothy 1:7
"For God gave us a spirit not of fear but of power and love and self-control."
Those who love Christ have no need or desire to be superior to others.
