Women's lib has destroyed the unique character of the woman declaring that every woman should be like the man to be of value.
Women are valued when we are seen as important in the role God has given us.
Women's lib cuts their noses off to spite their faces, making no sense at all in terms of what is valuable. I can prove it by the following testimony.
In family gatherings, I was treated as though I were stupid without anything important to say because they had important positions in society, at least in their own minds.
If a woman was the household manager by wealthy people and received a hefty paycheck she was considered to have a career but a woman who did the same things for her own household without a paycheck she is seen as foolish and unworthy of encouragement.
My choice to be a homemaker had nothing to do with my abilities, it had to do with using my abilities in the home instead of seeking validation in the world. I received validation from God and my husband for the jobs I did, and they were diverse.
The devil has duped the modern woman to believe she must go outside the home to prove to the world her value as well as enjoy "boasting rights" about what they did that brought home a paycheck. Their jobs were no more valuable than all the things a woman does in the home, the CEO of her household, but the women of our day were lacking in household management skills to feel they had value in the home as much as any women who managed an office in the world.
The difference is that some women who are not happy at home don't do much there except clean and cook, there is far much more to keeping a household than menial tasks. The Proverbs 31 woman is one who has many important duties but never under a "boss." She is the manager of her home, she makes the decisions pertaining to many things. She takes into account the needs of those living in the household but she alone decides what is needed.
Her position was commanded by God not her husband. He benefits from her choice to obey God but he is no the manager over her. He is the leader in the family but does not usurp what God has given to the woman.
What does the manager of a home do?
The manager of the home purchases all the needs of the household. She sees to the clothing for everyone including her husband. She cleans and polishes or delegates others to do it. She manages the yard making sure it is pleasant and tidy. She paints the outside of the building on the property. She manages doctor appointments and sees to it that each one makes it to those appointments. She volunteers in the community, She goes far and wide for the goods for her household making sure everything that is needed is available. She finds the best buys, makes menus and shops for the food, she stands alongside her husband in his causes as well as counseling him when there is a blind spot. She works hard every day even when she is ill, she carries on, making sure everything is always taken care of. She prepares the household for winter, with plenty of blankets and warm clothing for everyone. She prepares the food, cans, and purchases the food. There is not enough time in a day to have time to play.
Because of her volunteer activities in the community, her husband is praised.
Feminism has devalued the homemaker because it is an entity that hates God and hates what He loves. The devil devised this false feminist mentality to discourage godly women from their role, making many of them self-absorbed, feeling a need to go out in the world and gain their fifteen minutes of fame as well as gain financially from it.
Women have worked from their homes for centuries earning money, but they did not leave their home-making behind to gain a dollar, they did it as they managed the household.
By the way, the Proverbs 31 woman did buy a field with her earnings but this does not mean she left the home five days a week to work for an employer, making her job a priority over her family. Her household was her priority and she was the boss over herself.
Having said all this, let's look at what God said of the Proverbs 31 woman.
The mother of King Lemuel taught him to look for the sort of woman who would bring great blessing to his life.
Proverbs 31
31 The words of King Lemuel, the pronouncement which his mother taught him:
Description of a Worthy Woman
10 An excellent wife, who can find her?
For her worth is far above jewels.
11 The heart of her husband trusts in her,
And he will have no lack of gain.
12 She does him good and not evil
All the days of her life.
13 She looks for wool and linen,
And works with her hands in delight.
14 She is like merchant ships;
She brings her food from afar.
15 And she rises while it is still night
And gives food to her household,
And portions to her attendants.
16 She considers a field and buys it;
From her earnings she plants a vineyard.
17 She surrounds her waist with strength
And makes her arms strong.
18 She senses that her profit is good;
Her lamp does not go out at night.
19 She stretches out her hands to the distaff,
And her hands grasp the spindle.
20 She extends her hand to the poor,
And she stretches out her hands to the needy.
21 She is not afraid of the snow for her household,
For all her household are clothed with scarlet.
22 She makes coverings for herself;
Her clothing is fine linen and purple.
23 Her husband is known in the gates,
When he sits among the elders of the land.
24 She makes linen garments and sells them,
And supplies belts to the tradesmen.
25 Strength and dignity are her clothing,
And she smiles at the future.
26 She opens her mouth in wisdom,
And the teaching of kindness is on her tongue.
27 She watches over the activities of her household,
And does not eat the bread of idleness.
28 Her children rise up and bless her;
Her husband also, and he praises her, saying:
29 “Many daughters have done nobly,
But you excel them all.”
30 Charm is deceitful and beauty is vain,
But a woman who fears the Lord, she shall be praised.
31 Give her the product of her hands,
And let her works praise her in the gates.
The Proverbs 31 woman has far more value than the modern woman who seeks her own vain glory and lust for money.
