The only way the believer can grow in holiness is to set aside pride, pray for a compliant heart and a teachable spirit.
We live in a world where many, if not most believers we meet are "hell bent" on preserving a false image of themselves.
Willing to bludgeon anyone who dares to challenge to the slightest degree their elevated view of their own importance, these people will fight and argue to win no matter what it takes to stay on top.
Lying, gossiping and demeaning of all kinds are their tools to keep Christ followers in a continual one down position. Satan has been very cleaver recently in building the self esteem of the culture, causing people to think that their own self image outweighs truth and goodness.
2 Timothy 3:1-5