Pray for those who are lost but remove yourself from them.

God clearly says we are to forgive when the offender is sorry. If the offender is not sorry and willing to change their behavior toward us then we are not to forgive. Forgiveness is for the purpose of reconciling a relationship not for personal feelings to avoid guilt. Confession of wrong and forgiveness are two sides of the same coin, both must be present in order for the relationship to be mended. The whole idea that we will become bitter if we don't forgive is a lie.

Luke 17:3-4 "Be on your guard! If your brother sins, rebuke him; and if he repents, forgive him. And if he sins against you seven times a day, and returns to you seven times, saying, ‘I repent,’ forgive him.”"

It is my belief that it is a sin to pressure others to forgive those who are not sorry. Why do we not see people pressuring the offender to be sorry? This is all backward and not Biblical. Also, there is false sorrow that is manipulation too, that we are not to forgive either. Those who say they are sorry but do not change their behavior. They are lying when they say they are sorry. Truly sorry people don't ever want to repeat their sin again. Some people say they are sorry because they don't like the consequences but are not sorry they did the deed.

Let's remember God's words; ""and if he repents forgive him."

If we are going to pressure others to forgive then we must also pressure the offenders to repent. This is God's formula for a reason, He wants people to learn from their sins and they can only learn if they are sorry about doing them, not just sorry about the consequences.

God will not cleanse someone from their sin if they do not want to be changed by Him. If the goal of saying "I'm sorry" is to manipulate people into accepting us back, then it is not true repentance.

Those who are sorry for offending others will always proclaim their own guilt without an excuse and without any expectations from the person to whom they confess.

When we forgive someone who is not sorry we are an enabler, the only purpose is to appear superior not a reconciliation of the relationship.

God's ways are higher than our ways, sadly psychology has twisted much of what God taught into ways that do nothing except focus on self.

The best thing we can do to protect our walk with God is to remove rebellious repeat offenders from our lives and stay close to those who love the Lord.

2 Timothy 3:1-5 "3 But realize this, that in the last days difficult times will come. 2 For people will be lovers of self, lovers of money, boastful, arrogant, slanderers, disobedient to parents, ungrateful, unholy, 3 unloving, irreconcilable, malicious gossips, without self-control, brutal, haters of good, 4 treacherous, reckless, conceited, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God, 5 holding to a form of godliness although they have denied its power; avoid such people as these."

God said to stay away from those who act badly, love themselves above others and refuse to repent.

Enduring in Hardship

Hebrews 12:5-7 "…5 And you have forgotten the exhortation that addresses you as sons: “My son, do not take lightly the discipline of the Lord, and do not lose heart when He rebukes you. 6 For the Lord disciplines the one He loves, and He chastises every son He receives.” 7 Endure suffering as discipline; God is treating you as sons. For what son is not disciplined by his father?…"

It Will Be Worth It: James 1:2-4
“Count it all joy, my brothers, when you meet trials of various kinds, for you know that the testing of your faith produces steadfastness. And let steadfastness have its full effect, that you may be perfect and complete, lacking in nothing.”

Romans 5:3-5
"Not only that, but we also rejoice in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance; perseverance, character; and character, hope. And hope does not disappoint us, because God has poured out His love into our hearts through the Holy Spirit, whom He has given us."

When we experience difficulties in life we know that God has our best in mind when we belong to Him. The lessons we learn from all our experiences are invaluable and will serve God in the Millennium when we rule with Him.
Those who resist the discipline of the Lord will miss the great lessons and the wisdom He has to offer through it all. Those who resist miss blessings and wisdom but worse than that their heart become prideful and bitter.

 
1 Peter 1:6-7
"In this you greatly rejoice, though now for a little while you may have had to suffer grief in various trials so that the proven character of your faith—more precious than gold, which perishes even though refined by fire—may result in praise, glory, and honor at the revelation of Jesus Christ."

These trials come in the all forms, illness, rejection from people and heartbreak over those who say they are Christians but have no love.

Matthew 5:11-12
"Blessed are you when people insult you, persecute you, and falsely say all kinds of evil against you because of Me. Rejoice and be glad, because great is your reward in heaven, for in the same way they persecuted the prophets before you."

2 Corinthians 12:9-10
"But He said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for My power is perfected in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly in my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ may rest on me. That is why, for the sake of Christ, I delight in weaknesses, in insults, in hardships, in persecutions, in difficulties. For when I am weak, then I am strong."

If we endure the hardships clinging to Christ we will come out the other side stronger than before, able to see the purpose.

Keep looking up, time is short and we will be going home soon.