Don't Walk on Eggshells, Walk in Christ

When a narcissist says they have to walk around on eggshells around you they are telling you what you have to do around them.

Narcissists always accuse others of what the narcissist is doing and the others are not, they accept only total agreement with them for you to be seen as smart and of value to them.

As I was growing up I always hated that the narcissists in my life were completely unreasonable in any discussion with them. In fact, there was never a discussion, there was only their raging and demanding and my attempt to get them to listen but they never would.

Because of my experience with unreasonable narcissists, I wanted my life to be different when I left that system of controlling narcissists. I wanted to be able to discuss things with others in calm ways expecting both parties to be able to engage lovingly without anger. This was never possible in my family of origin. If there was disagreement even on the smallest level there would always be blunt and snarky responses to demean the one who differed from them, having their own ideas.

Never was there a discussion in which both parties were treated with respect and valued as being someone who might have some points the narcissist never thought of.

It was this way because the narcissist was hell-bent on appearing perfectly right all the time. Any challenge to their assertions was met with total contempt. Any attempt on the part of the one who disagreed was met with cannon fire, never with contemplative allowance for differences.

A narcissist is a deeply insecure person who cannot feel of value unless they are being elevated above others. They are not able to feel secure without the complete validation of those in their sphere. Sadly they interpret their insecurity as confidence but it is just the opposite, it is self-effacing, since it reveals their insecurity with every occurrence of anger and rage.

These narcissistic traits of insecurity and self-devaluing used to aggravate me but as I grew in knowledge and wisdom I realized what it was and feel pity for those who think the only way to be of value is to demean, mock and dismiss others they wish to feel superior toward.

Remember too, the narcissist knows what they are doing because they only do it to those they wish to believe are inferior to them. They never treat those they elevate as superior to them in these ways. They hide their real selves from those they wish to impress.

If the narcissist knows their target understands them and is not intimidated by them they will avoid them and turn their attention toward gossiping about them in order to cause others to treat the target the same way the narcissist treated them.

We know this is not entirely the narcississt but rather the devil working in the narcissist to believe the target deserves it for a reason no one could discover or calculate.

The devil did this in the garden with Eve. Eve had no reason to distrust or dislike God but she was easily convinced by the snake that God was withholding something from her that she would like to have. He convinced her that God was doing something wrong or unkind and this was reason enough to completely disregard Him.

The devil has been doing the same things the narcissist does from the beginning of the existence of mankind. He couldn't find a reason to hate man but was so jealous of them that he had to convince those God loved to hate God.

This is also why when we do kind acts for narcissists they find a reason why it was foolish or there was an ulterior motive to do the kind act allowing them to hate their target without good reason.

If you are a target of the narcissist it won't matter what you say or do that is good, the narcissist will find a reason to negate it, diminish its meaning or gossip to make others believe you were foolish for it.

What a blessing to know that we can walk with God realizing that we are targets of the devil but unaffected by his tactics. The most satisfying thing for the devil and his minion the narcissist is to cause us to react in frustration to what they do to us. This is why God told us not to respond to their capers.

He said to respond the opposite of what they expect, with calmness, unfettered confidence and godly resolve to remain kind and loving even if they do not. We can show them the respect they did not show us, however, this does not mean we will remain their friend or companion. God also tells us to remove ourselves from angry people who cause trouble.

Luke 6:27-28 "27But to those of you who will listen, I say: Love your enemies, do good to those who hate you, 28bless those who curse you, pray for those who mistreat you."

Proverbs 22:24 "

"Do not make friends with a person given to anger, Or go with a hot-tempered person,"

God has given us good guidelines for dealing with those who will not obey the word of God concerning love, joy, peace, gentleness, kindness, and self-control. Those who spurn all these godly traits cannot be our companions in life.

May the Holy Spirit and God's Word guide us all in the decisions we must make to remain faithful to Christ. Let's not become like those who hate God by using their same schemes that are motivated by the wicked heart of the devil.

What they do is on them, what we do is on us!!!

They Dig for Information but not for Our Good

Narcissists are interested in what is going on in your life to gather data to have something to gossip about. They are nosy asking things most people don't bother to ask about.

I have had family members do this! I know it is data gathering because they show no interest in me otherwise. They call once in a while to ask questions but have no comments when you answer them.

When we ask the narcissit questions to see how they are doing they don't share anything with you. They believe you will gossip about them the way they gossip about us.

Beware of those who lack empathy and interest in anything having to do with us but want to have information about us. They are fake nice people who like knowing things to be able to formulate their own prejudices against us. They dislike having to make up total lies, they travel in half-truths to make themselves feel better about their gossip.

When we discover someone is like this it is better to avoid them. They are not our friends and will only attempt to ruin our human relationships as well as our relationship with Christ.

We might say these gossip mongers and information gatherers are full of hate toward us, they are not companions who will engage with us in our walk with Christ. In fact, they often will demean our walk, mock truth and attempt to make us appear foolish.

These people are described in 2 Timothy 3. They pretend to be "Christians" but never utter the name of Jesus Christ. These people will be "conservative in their politics" but brash and unloving in their brand of Christianity. They do not follow Christ, they pretend to be "Bible believers" but add and subtract from His Word at will.

2 Timothy 3:1-5

Difficult Times Will Come

"3 But realize this, that in the last days difficult times will come.

2 For people will be lovers of self, lovers of money, boastful, arrogant, slanderers, disobedient to parents, ungrateful, unholy,

3 unloving, irreconcilable, malicious gossips, without self-control, brutal, haters of good,

4 treacherous, reckless, conceited, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God,

5 holding to a form of godliness although they have denied its power; avoid such people as these."

The World Despises Christ so it Despises Us Too

When you feel alone and despised by others remember what God said; it isn't about us, it's about the mentality of the world that condemns us.

John 15:17-19 "17 This is My command to you: Love one another. 18 If the world hates you, understand that it hated Me first. 19 If you were of the world, it would love you as its own. Instead, the world hates you, because you are not of the world, but I have chosen you out of the world.…"

Proverbs 29:27

"An unjust man is detestable to the righteous, and one whose way is upright is detestable to the wicked."

Isaiah 66:5

"5 Hear the word of the Lord, you who tremble at His word:

“Your brothers who hate you, who exclude you on account of My name,

Have said, ‘Let the Lord be glorified, so that we may see your joy.’

But they will be put to shame."

Those who love the world and elevate themselves will taunt believers hoping they will fall and be ashamed, but it is the worldly people who will be put to shame.

Those who love themselves above everyone and everything that is holy will be exposed by those who love the Lord. We can see what they are doing and it has no effect on us but keeps them trapped in sadness, gloom and anger.

John 7:7

"The world cannot hate you, but it hates Me, because I testify that its works are evil."

The world attacks us, not because of us, but because of Christ Who lives in us. Let Him carry the burden, let Him be our strength.

Trust no one and nothing except the Holy Spirit Only!!!!

If the KJV of the Bible never states within itself that we are to only read the KJV, then no one can assert that as a fact. To say that the KJV is infallible then it would state so within the writings of the prophets. Also, to say the KJV is infallible is adding to the scripture something which is not there.

I place my trust in Christ in everything not in any person, not in translators, and not in translated versions of the Bible. The only inspired version of the Bible was in the original Greek and Hebrew which we have copies of in our day.

I thank God that my trust is not in what man has done, but in what Christ told us through His Word translated through the Holy Spirit as we read whatever version He has given us to read.

The Bible has been translated in most languages today and not from a translation but from the original copies. It's what God has given us and we can trust them.

English is spoken only by 1.46 Billion people in the world today and there are 7.9 Billion people in the world today. Only a small number of the people existing on earth could read English. They must have a translation in their own language translated by men of God who are led by the Holy Spirit.

John 16:12-14 "…12 I still have much to tell you, but you cannot yet bear to hear it. 13 However, when the Spirit of truth comes, He will guide you into all truth. For He will not speak on His own, but He will speak what He hears, and He will declare to you what is to come. 14 He will glorify Me by taking from what is Mine and disclosing it to you."

The Holy Spirit is able to bring the understanding to the believer in any translation presented to them and what we read will glorify God not a translation and not a man.

Our modern Christianity in these last days places more emphasis on what man can do than it does on the Holy Spirit Who is capable of everything the believer needs.

Isaiah 11:2

"The Spirit of the LORD will rest on Him--the Spirit of wisdom and understanding, the Spirit of counsel and strength, the Spirit of knowledge and fear of the LORD."

John 14:26

"But the Advocate, the Holy Spirit, whom the Father will send in My name, will teach you all things and will remind you of everything I have told you."

At Pentecost, God allowed those hearing the word to hear it in their own languages spoken to them in the different language of the speaker.

He can do this too in every translation. He can give the understanding to those in their own language the truth better than the words written on a page.

God's Word is powerful, it is not words on a page, it is Jesus Christ the Word living in us Who enlightens what people write. Yes, those prophets who wrote the word didn't understand much of what they wrote because it was future prophecy and yet we understand it now because we are living in the prophetic times they wrote about.

The prophets had visions they wrote down but didn't understand. We can know now what they meant because we are seeing those prophesies come to fulfillment. That is a miracle in our lifetime, to be able to see what the prophets wrote but didn't understand.

There have been times when I thought I wanted to sit for many many hours, days, years, listening to the prophets when we get to heaven. I still think this but I also now think they may want to sit with us and hear how their prophesies were fulfilled and what they looked like in real time.

Bottom Line; trust nothing and no one more than the Holy Spirit!!!! That's it!!!!