My eyes were opened in the last few years when I encountered someone who expected that they should have whatever they want, even what everyone else had without having to work for it.
This person called himself a Christian and even knew portions of his Bible. Sadly he used his Bible to find loopholes for sin.
Here's the story: This young man got into a discussion with me about the nature of stealing. He thought that if a woman was waiting for a bus, put her purse down because it was heavy and then walked away forgetting the purse while getting on the bus, that purse was now available to anyone who found it.
A sort of "finders keepers losers weepers" mentality. You know, the mindset of a rotten spoiled six-year-old who was a bully.
So I asked the young man why he thought this, his answer was astounding.
He said that if the woman were stupid enough to forget her purse then she deserved to have it stolen. Then he explained that it was allowed to take the purse because the woman forgot it. I wanted to know why he didn't think perhaps the thief was stupid enough to take what didn't belong to him.
After listening to the young man I said to him; "I cannot be around you because I can no longer trust you. What if that purse were mine or my friends, I would know that you wouldn't go out of your way to return the lost property."
Then I said; "I would guess that if it were your wallet you would be angry that someone didn't return it to you." Again, his response was astounding, he said, "of course that would be stealing."
Does anyone notice the double standard of the runaway narcissist? They excuse bad behavior by blaming the victim but are enraged if the same thing were done to them. God calls this hypocrisy.
What is even more astounding than this one conversation is that many people think this way in our country today. It is not bad or wrong if you can get away with it.
Another example of this was a person who was showing me their new watch. This person's father had purchased a watch at Walmart. When he arrived home he couldn't find it in the bag. He assumed the watch was not placed in the bag by the clerk. Believing this he went back to the store, showed the receipt to the clerk and that it was not in the bag.
The clerk promptly believed the father and gave him another watch. Upon arriving home the second time he bent over in the car to get the keys he dropped and saw the missing watch under the seat. The first watch had fallen out of the bag and rolled under the seat of the car.
Here's the problem, the father gave the watch to his adult child rather than returning one of them to the store. I counseled the child that she should return the watch herself, that taking it was aiding in the father's stealing it. She could not wrap her mind around the fact that it was stealing to keep what one did not pay for.
This woman claimed to be a Christian so I rebuked her and encouraged her to return the watch. The next time I saw her she was still wearing that watch. So jokingly I said, that is wrong and I hope it breaks. About a week later I saw her again, she was not wearing the watch, feeling hopeful that she had done the right thing, I asked her where it was. She laughed a little and said that it stopped working.
Sadly she never believed me even after the watch was not working anymore.
So many people measure their sin by what they can get away with or who will accept the sin. Everyone in the watch woman's life thought I was being silly for telling her it was stealing to take what you did not pay for. Because of the influences in her life she went with those who allowed for stealing and rejected me for speaking righteousness to her. I was now the mean person in her life, but not only that in the lives of her friends.
When we walk with Christ every day, all that we do is evaluated in terms of what He would think about it. Most of the time we don't even have to evaluate right from wrong we just already know it by the promptings of the Holy Spirit.
Strong evidence that someone might not be saved is their lack of conscience over doing something that displeases and defies God's ways. Even their anger at being challenged to obey God is the next clue.
This mentality of entitlement is growing as we progress toward the end of the church age. Those who care nothing at all about God will believe if something falls under their eyes, it must belong to them as long as they don't get caught. But even then they will make up an excuse as to why they had a good reason to do it.
Proverbs 1:7
"The fear of the Lord is the beginning of knowledge; fools despise wisdom and instruction."
Proverbs 29:9
"9 If a wise man goes to court with a fool, there will be raving and laughing with no resolution. 10 Men of bloodshed hate a blameless man, but the upright care for his life.…"
Those who love God and have become wise will be the ones rejected in our age. Sinful rebellious people hate those who follow Christ.
Don't let it discourage you, just be full of joy that you are pleasing God and confess quickly when you discover you have not obeyed Him. Then the joy will return and more growth has occurred.
Tuesday, February 25, 2020
They Don't Believe God
The Corruption is in the Heart
For those who think we can "get our country back again", let me say this:
Our country is not coming back. The sin is so deep and wide it will not abate.
The corruption of the government is only a surface problem. The sins in the hearts of nearly all the people are so rampant it cannot be measured.
I have Christians becoming angry at me when I quote the Bible, God's word, against divorce and remarriage as though this practice of dissolving a marriage and getting a new "hook up" is their sacred cow. They value their freedom to do what they want above God's truth. They love what God hates.
The Christians in this country do not care what God says, so He is taking the country down, step by step and day by day. Our families are destroyed, even those who do not divorce and remarry are affected because the rest of the family pressures them to accept the divorces and remarriages of others in the family. Those who are maligned and tormented by others are those who believe truth.
The sin is in the Christian church, and they will not listen to the truth. They want their wall, their economy, their freedom and their king they think will save them, but they do not want God.
Even those who say they are Bible-believing Christians disobey more of God's commands than they obey. What part of them is bible-believing?
When more Christians become embarrassed and angry at the mention of the principles of the word of God, that is our clue about how much they love Him. He is nothing more than something to say to most Christians today. He is something to run to when nothing else is working out and He is someone they use to elevate self.
There are so many Christians and non-Christians alike using the same phrases, "we are praying for you", without knowing what prayer is or to whom we must pray to be heard. There are Christians judging non-Christians as being saved because they use these phrases without any evidence that these people are born again. The superficiality of the modern church is so full, it is considered mean to warn people about things that are not of God but only appear to be so.
The terminology of the Christians is being adopted by the world but they do not mean the same things. The non-believers don't pray, they just say they will, its like a greeting to them. And, if any of them do, they believe just thinking something is a prayer, they pray to themselves or false gods, but not through Christ to the Father.
If you were to ask the unbeliever who they pray to they would say to god, but they don't know Who God is, or if He even hears. We know this by how many will speak to the dead relatives as though they can hear them. They are "praying" to their relatives and count that as praying.
If you want to test my musings to see if they are right, just talk about Christ a lot all the time everywhere and watch the responses of those hearing. It may surprise you that you will become a pariah (an outcast), someone people begin avoiding.
2 Timothy 4:2-4 "…2 Preach the word; be prepared in season and out of season; reprove, rebuke, and encourage with every form of patient instruction. 3 For the time will come when men will not tolerate sound doctrine, but with itching ears, they will gather around themselves teachers to suit their own desires. 4 So they will turn their ears away from the truth and turn aside to myths.…
Our country is not coming back. The sin is so deep and wide it will not abate.
The corruption of the government is only a surface problem. The sins in the hearts of nearly all the people are so rampant it cannot be measured.
I have Christians becoming angry at me when I quote the Bible, God's word, against divorce and remarriage as though this practice of dissolving a marriage and getting a new "hook up" is their sacred cow. They value their freedom to do what they want above God's truth. They love what God hates.
The Christians in this country do not care what God says, so He is taking the country down, step by step and day by day. Our families are destroyed, even those who do not divorce and remarry are affected because the rest of the family pressures them to accept the divorces and remarriages of others in the family. Those who are maligned and tormented by others are those who believe truth.
The sin is in the Christian church, and they will not listen to the truth. They want their wall, their economy, their freedom and their king they think will save them, but they do not want God.
Even those who say they are Bible-believing Christians disobey more of God's commands than they obey. What part of them is bible-believing?
When more Christians become embarrassed and angry at the mention of the principles of the word of God, that is our clue about how much they love Him. He is nothing more than something to say to most Christians today. He is something to run to when nothing else is working out and He is someone they use to elevate self.
There are so many Christians and non-Christians alike using the same phrases, "we are praying for you", without knowing what prayer is or to whom we must pray to be heard. There are Christians judging non-Christians as being saved because they use these phrases without any evidence that these people are born again. The superficiality of the modern church is so full, it is considered mean to warn people about things that are not of God but only appear to be so.
The terminology of the Christians is being adopted by the world but they do not mean the same things. The non-believers don't pray, they just say they will, its like a greeting to them. And, if any of them do, they believe just thinking something is a prayer, they pray to themselves or false gods, but not through Christ to the Father.
If you were to ask the unbeliever who they pray to they would say to god, but they don't know Who God is, or if He even hears. We know this by how many will speak to the dead relatives as though they can hear them. They are "praying" to their relatives and count that as praying.
If you want to test my musings to see if they are right, just talk about Christ a lot all the time everywhere and watch the responses of those hearing. It may surprise you that you will become a pariah (an outcast), someone people begin avoiding.
2 Timothy 4:2-4 "…2 Preach the word; be prepared in season and out of season; reprove, rebuke, and encourage with every form of patient instruction. 3 For the time will come when men will not tolerate sound doctrine, but with itching ears, they will gather around themselves teachers to suit their own desires. 4 So they will turn their ears away from the truth and turn aside to myths.…
The Narcissists and Their Slander
I just read an article about a woman who was being accused of neglecting her baby by putting the baby on the floor next to her feet while she sat in a chair at the airport. The mother was looking at her phone.
The accusation was that the mother was neglecting that baby even though it was happily laying on a clean blanket at its mother's feet.
This is the kind of foolishness and drama narcissists love to start. I saw the picture of the mother and the baby. The accusation was neglect, there was no neglect, the mother was right there every minute.
Narcissists cannot rest unless they are picking at someone about nothing. They can make a molehill into a mountain at the drop of a hat.
Apparently, the post was taken down and the woman gave her explanation. At one point she had been on the floor with the baby but got up to sit in the chair. The baby was quiet, maybe sleeping or happily laying there.
Sometimes I get so weary of the problems narcissists create with their relentless lust for drama at the expense of the reputations of others.
My suggestion, do not believe a narcissist unless you saw something for yourself, and even then, be sure you know all the facts before passing on anything the narcissist might say about what you think you saw.
Proverbs 20:19
"Whoever goes about slandering reveals secrets; therefore do not associate with a simple babbler."
Almost always those secrets that the narcissist has blabbered were not accurate but embellished with a much worse scenario not even close to the truth. They love to judge a person's character without enough information to be able to be accurate.
Do not listen to these narcissists and if you happen to hear before you can walk away, never repeat what you heard or even believe them.
The accusation was that the mother was neglecting that baby even though it was happily laying on a clean blanket at its mother's feet.
This is the kind of foolishness and drama narcissists love to start. I saw the picture of the mother and the baby. The accusation was neglect, there was no neglect, the mother was right there every minute.
Narcissists cannot rest unless they are picking at someone about nothing. They can make a molehill into a mountain at the drop of a hat.
Apparently, the post was taken down and the woman gave her explanation. At one point she had been on the floor with the baby but got up to sit in the chair. The baby was quiet, maybe sleeping or happily laying there.
Sometimes I get so weary of the problems narcissists create with their relentless lust for drama at the expense of the reputations of others.
My suggestion, do not believe a narcissist unless you saw something for yourself, and even then, be sure you know all the facts before passing on anything the narcissist might say about what you think you saw.
Proverbs 20:19
"Whoever goes about slandering reveals secrets; therefore do not associate with a simple babbler."
Almost always those secrets that the narcissist has blabbered were not accurate but embellished with a much worse scenario not even close to the truth. They love to judge a person's character without enough information to be able to be accurate.
Do not listen to these narcissists and if you happen to hear before you can walk away, never repeat what you heard or even believe them.
The Foolishness of the Narcissist
Some of the people who call others names are really describing themselves. Narcissists believe everyone is like them. They know they are liars so they call others liars. They know they have a mean spirit so they call others mean. No one must be better than them, so they assign to others what they are and the others are not.
I was once told I seemed angry. I was not angry but the person talking to me was folding his arms, his face was turning red and he had one leg folded over the other swinging it. He had an angry look on his face along with all these other gyrations. His response was so classic of a narcissist I could hardly believe what I was seeing. He was accusing me of what he felt and I did not.
The purpose of these accusations is to cause us to become angry at the injustice so the narcissist can say "see I was right, you are angry."
We are seeing more of these tactics in our day. The best way to answer someone like this is calmly, "you are describing yourself" and then walk away.
If the narcissist can get you to act the same way they are acting they count themselves as having proven that you are no different from them. The narcissist knows they are nasty people but don't want to admit it, so they assign their own traits to the one for whom they have contempt.
Narcissists hate truth and they had to admit anything negative or that needs improvement about themselves. This is why they must bring down anyone who acts in kind and truthful ways. Bringing the decent person down to their level makes them feel two things, one; is powerful and two; someone to blame for their bad character and behavior.
There is no reason to fear the narcissist, they are pitful characters with continual bad feelings. They must goad others into bad behavior so they can feel better about themselves. When we know they are in a constant conviction of their sin and sadness at their character we can be less reactive and more compassionate.
This does not mean we should coddle them or stay in company with them, it just means that we may not feel angry at them but rather sorrow for them. After all, it is misery to walk around desperately needing to elevate self to feel of value.
Those who love God know they are nothing special, only Christ is special. We have no need to be anything but what we are, that is someone who has trusted Christ and walk in His love.
1 Corinthians 6:10-11 "…10 nor thieves, nor the greedy, nor drunkards, nor verbal abusers, nor swindlers, will inherit the kingdom of God. 11 And that is what some of you WERE. But you were washed, you were sanctified, you were justified, in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and by the Spirit of our God. 1"
As born again believers we know what we were, dead in sin before we came to Christ. After that we knew that He is our righteousness, we walk with Him. He continually cleanses us, redirects us and counsels us. We depend on Him, not ourselves.
John 16:13-14 "13 However, when the Spirit of truth comes, He will guide you into all truth. He will not speak on His own, but He will speak what He hears, and He will declare to you what is to come. 14 He will glorify Me by taking from what is Mine and disclosing it to you.…"
1 John 1:6-8 "…6 If we say we have fellowship with Him yet walk in the darkness, we lie and do not practice the truth. 7 But if we walk in the light as He is in the light, we have fellowship with one another, and the blood of Jesus His Son cleanses us from all sin. 8 If we say we have no sin, we deceive ourselves, and the truth is not in us.…"
Every time a born again believer confesses a sin they admit they are in need of cleansing. Then Christ will do what we ask, to become more holy by that cleansing.
God will not cleanse us of something we refuse to admit is a problem. He will allow consequences in our life until we confess to be cleansed.
1 John 1:9 "1 John 1:9
"9 If we confess our sins, He is faithful and righteous to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness."
See that tiny little very big word; "IF." We must confess to be cleansed.
It is not beneficial to anyone to become like the narcissist by responding in kind. "In-kind" means to act in response the way they are hoping we will, the way they would react to any criticism, in anger and shock.
Being led by Christ is a wonderful place to be, we have no need to prove ourselves, we can admit when we are wrong, we can evaluate criticism and pray that God will show us. Pride cannot be a part of the born again believers' life. Pride is at the root of every human problem. The devil instilled pride in Eve in the garden and has been whispering in the ears of every person after that until this very day.
Titus 3:9-11 "9But avoid foolish controversies, genealogies, arguments, and quarrels about the law because these things are pointless and worthless. 10 Reject a divisive man after a first and second admonition, 11 knowing that such a man is corrupt and sinful; he is self-condemned.…"
Divisive people are those who cannot stand to appear wrong, they fight over the silliest things. Reject friends for not elevating them as special and are a continual problem wherever they go.
God says to rebuke then and then avoid them. We are to seek to live in peace with all men. That doe snot mean we give up our standards to appease those who are fighters, it means to avoid the trouble makers who love their fights.
Proverbs 16:3-4 "…3 A whip for the horse, a bridle for the donkey, and a rod for the backs of fools! 4 Do not answer a fool according to his folly, or you yourself will be like him. "
When we answer back to those who love to fight, we give them one more thing to fight with, they love it. Silence truly is golden when dealing with a narcissist. More information is food for the narcissist it drives their hunger for conflict.
Proverbs 16: 5 Answer a fool according to his folly, lest he become wise in his own eyes.…"
Speak truth to a fool and then answer nothing else when he attempts to fight. He deserves only the truth once when it is clear he wants to fight, reject him and walk away.
Proverbs 18:2
"A fool takes no pleasure in understanding, but only in expressing his opinion."
I was once told I seemed angry. I was not angry but the person talking to me was folding his arms, his face was turning red and he had one leg folded over the other swinging it. He had an angry look on his face along with all these other gyrations. His response was so classic of a narcissist I could hardly believe what I was seeing. He was accusing me of what he felt and I did not.
The purpose of these accusations is to cause us to become angry at the injustice so the narcissist can say "see I was right, you are angry."
We are seeing more of these tactics in our day. The best way to answer someone like this is calmly, "you are describing yourself" and then walk away.
If the narcissist can get you to act the same way they are acting they count themselves as having proven that you are no different from them. The narcissist knows they are nasty people but don't want to admit it, so they assign their own traits to the one for whom they have contempt.
Narcissists hate truth and they had to admit anything negative or that needs improvement about themselves. This is why they must bring down anyone who acts in kind and truthful ways. Bringing the decent person down to their level makes them feel two things, one; is powerful and two; someone to blame for their bad character and behavior.
There is no reason to fear the narcissist, they are pitful characters with continual bad feelings. They must goad others into bad behavior so they can feel better about themselves. When we know they are in a constant conviction of their sin and sadness at their character we can be less reactive and more compassionate.
This does not mean we should coddle them or stay in company with them, it just means that we may not feel angry at them but rather sorrow for them. After all, it is misery to walk around desperately needing to elevate self to feel of value.
Those who love God know they are nothing special, only Christ is special. We have no need to be anything but what we are, that is someone who has trusted Christ and walk in His love.
1 Corinthians 6:10-11 "…10 nor thieves, nor the greedy, nor drunkards, nor verbal abusers, nor swindlers, will inherit the kingdom of God. 11 And that is what some of you WERE. But you were washed, you were sanctified, you were justified, in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and by the Spirit of our God. 1"
As born again believers we know what we were, dead in sin before we came to Christ. After that we knew that He is our righteousness, we walk with Him. He continually cleanses us, redirects us and counsels us. We depend on Him, not ourselves.
John 16:13-14 "13 However, when the Spirit of truth comes, He will guide you into all truth. He will not speak on His own, but He will speak what He hears, and He will declare to you what is to come. 14 He will glorify Me by taking from what is Mine and disclosing it to you.…"
1 John 1:6-8 "…6 If we say we have fellowship with Him yet walk in the darkness, we lie and do not practice the truth. 7 But if we walk in the light as He is in the light, we have fellowship with one another, and the blood of Jesus His Son cleanses us from all sin. 8 If we say we have no sin, we deceive ourselves, and the truth is not in us.…"
Every time a born again believer confesses a sin they admit they are in need of cleansing. Then Christ will do what we ask, to become more holy by that cleansing.
God will not cleanse us of something we refuse to admit is a problem. He will allow consequences in our life until we confess to be cleansed.
1 John 1:9 "1 John 1:9
"9 If we confess our sins, He is faithful and righteous to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness."
See that tiny little very big word; "IF." We must confess to be cleansed.
It is not beneficial to anyone to become like the narcissist by responding in kind. "In-kind" means to act in response the way they are hoping we will, the way they would react to any criticism, in anger and shock.
Being led by Christ is a wonderful place to be, we have no need to prove ourselves, we can admit when we are wrong, we can evaluate criticism and pray that God will show us. Pride cannot be a part of the born again believers' life. Pride is at the root of every human problem. The devil instilled pride in Eve in the garden and has been whispering in the ears of every person after that until this very day.
Titus 3:9-11 "9But avoid foolish controversies, genealogies, arguments, and quarrels about the law because these things are pointless and worthless. 10 Reject a divisive man after a first and second admonition, 11 knowing that such a man is corrupt and sinful; he is self-condemned.…"
Divisive people are those who cannot stand to appear wrong, they fight over the silliest things. Reject friends for not elevating them as special and are a continual problem wherever they go.
God says to rebuke then and then avoid them. We are to seek to live in peace with all men. That doe snot mean we give up our standards to appease those who are fighters, it means to avoid the trouble makers who love their fights.
Proverbs 16:3-4 "…3 A whip for the horse, a bridle for the donkey, and a rod for the backs of fools! 4 Do not answer a fool according to his folly, or you yourself will be like him. "
When we answer back to those who love to fight, we give them one more thing to fight with, they love it. Silence truly is golden when dealing with a narcissist. More information is food for the narcissist it drives their hunger for conflict.
Proverbs 16: 5 Answer a fool according to his folly, lest he become wise in his own eyes.…"
Speak truth to a fool and then answer nothing else when he attempts to fight. He deserves only the truth once when it is clear he wants to fight, reject him and walk away.
Proverbs 18:2
"A fool takes no pleasure in understanding, but only in expressing his opinion."
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