I thought this was funny and it brought other thoughts to mind.
"If only the Bidens hadn't taken millions in bribes,
Trump wouldn't be in trouble for asking about it."
Often in our culture today the one who has boundaries and are convinced of what they believe are called names as well as excluded and maligned as "bad people."
It is impossible to reason with someone who rages when we don't agree with them. They not only become very angry they must exact revenge in various ways.
One of the favored ways is to gossip about you to the people who would normally love you. Then they call names hoping we will become angry too so they can feel justified in their angst toward us.
I understand more than ever now when God said not to answer a fool according to their folly. These people are controlled by devils who are attempting to cause doubt in God and produce ungodly reactions in us.
DON'T LET THEM DO IT!!! REMAIN STEADY AND STEADFAST NO MATTER WHAT THEY ARE DOING.
"Keep calm and carry on", is the best way. Trusting that Christ has your back, He can handle them better than we can.
Romans 12:18-19 "…18 If it is possible on your part, live at peace with everyone. 19 Do not avenge yourselves, beloved, but leave room for God’s wrath. For it is written: “Vengeance is Mine; I will repay, says the Lord.” "
The evil one wants believers to respond in anger, that is the devil's goal. Don't do it.
Friday, November 22, 2019
Tests for the Fakers
Some test for those who claim to be believers who are being considered for marriage might be the following.
A good test is to quote scripture a lot and watch the reaction.
Ask to read the Bible together, if you asked to be the one to read all the time, then this someone who is not invested in God's Word.
Ask to pray with them, if they are resistant or you are always the one praying these are also clues they are only following YOU and not Christ, to be engaged with you. When it is Christ in them they will love to do these things, even suggesting it themselves without any prompting.
There are so many fakers now there must be lots of prayer and testing before making a marriage commitment.
Anyone who asks to be intimate before marriage is one who does not love you or God and must be disqualified as a marriage partner. Get away as fast as you can. Those who do not respect you before marriage will be even worse after marriage.
We are living in perilous times, that is "ragingly insane" times. Manipulators and intimidators abound everywhere but they cannot always be easily seen. They are clever showing you what you want to see before you are married and turning into something quite the opposite after marriage.
God must show you and you must use His word to determine truth about others. When someone easily violates the scriptures and even becomes angry when you insist you be allowed to, this is not someone a born again believer should be involved with let alone marry.
An authentic born again believe is not uncomfortable with God's Word, watch the reactions, the hesitation or the desire to embrace the word.
Use the word of God as the standard for everything and watch over time the life of the one who desires to marry you. If they continually disobey God's word then run as though your life depends on it, because marriage is until death and the rest of your life with someone is a long time.
It is better to remain alone than to endure the misery of a wicked and mean spirited spouse.
A good test is to quote scripture a lot and watch the reaction.
Ask to read the Bible together, if you asked to be the one to read all the time, then this someone who is not invested in God's Word.
Ask to pray with them, if they are resistant or you are always the one praying these are also clues they are only following YOU and not Christ, to be engaged with you. When it is Christ in them they will love to do these things, even suggesting it themselves without any prompting.
There are so many fakers now there must be lots of prayer and testing before making a marriage commitment.
Anyone who asks to be intimate before marriage is one who does not love you or God and must be disqualified as a marriage partner. Get away as fast as you can. Those who do not respect you before marriage will be even worse after marriage.
We are living in perilous times, that is "ragingly insane" times. Manipulators and intimidators abound everywhere but they cannot always be easily seen. They are clever showing you what you want to see before you are married and turning into something quite the opposite after marriage.
God must show you and you must use His word to determine truth about others. When someone easily violates the scriptures and even becomes angry when you insist you be allowed to, this is not someone a born again believer should be involved with let alone marry.
An authentic born again believe is not uncomfortable with God's Word, watch the reactions, the hesitation or the desire to embrace the word.
Use the word of God as the standard for everything and watch over time the life of the one who desires to marry you. If they continually disobey God's word then run as though your life depends on it, because marriage is until death and the rest of your life with someone is a long time.
It is better to remain alone than to endure the misery of a wicked and mean spirited spouse.
The Trolls
Did you know there are trolls afoot? Yes they are the people who have blocked you but want to keep seeing what you are doing, so they go on the facebook of their friends to spy on you. ROFL (rolling on floor laughing)
These people can't confront you because they are hiding, but will work on those you know to come against you. Sort of like the wicked witch in "The Wizard of Oz", when she sent out her flying monkeys to do her dastardly deeds for her.
If a post like this makes them even angrier then the proof of their covert hatred is in their anger. However, and this is what we pray for, they will become convicted and repent from their angst against others simply because they cannot control them.
It is sin to gather information for the purpose of finding something to be angry about, as well as to be able to pass something on that turns others against them.
God shows us who these people are through various means. They will use particular verbiage that indicates they saw something on your facebook but are careful to cloak it in language that can be plausibly denied.
The blessing in all of this is our confidence in Christ that allows us to ignore the attacks.
The devils are working hard to derail those who love Christ. However he is too full of himself to realize that Christ in us sees all of this and gives us the strength and resolve to carry on in the direction Christ is leading us. These things roll off like water off a ducks back because they are not attacks against us, they are against God and He can handle it.
Psalm 28:7
"The Lord is my strength and my shield;
my heart trusts in him, and he helps me.
My heart leaps for joy,
and with my song I praise him. "
Daniel 11:32
“... but the people who know their God shall be strong, and carry out great exploits.”
2 Chronicles 16:9
"For the eyes of the Lord run to and fro throughout the whole earth, to show Himself strong on behalf of those whose heart is loyal to Him.”
Psalm 144:1
“Blessed be the Lord my Rock, who trains my hands for war, and my fingers for battle – my lovingkindness and my fortress, my high tower and my deliverer, my shield and the One in whom I take refuge, who subdues my people under me.”
2 Samuel 22:29
"For You are my lamp, O Lord; the Lord shall enlighten my darkness. For by You I can run against a troop; by my God I can leap over a wall. As for God, His way is perfect; the word of the Lord is proven; He is a shield to all who trust in Him.”
Psalm 18:32
“It is God who arms me with strength and keeps my way secure.”
Habakkuk 3:19
“The Lord GOD is my strength, And He has made my feet like hinds’ feet, And makes me walk on my high places.”
Psalm 41:12
“As for me, You uphold me in my integrity, And You set me in Your presence forever.”
Psalm 54:4
“Behold, God is my helper; The Lord is the sustainer of my soul."
These people can't confront you because they are hiding, but will work on those you know to come against you. Sort of like the wicked witch in "The Wizard of Oz", when she sent out her flying monkeys to do her dastardly deeds for her.
If a post like this makes them even angrier then the proof of their covert hatred is in their anger. However, and this is what we pray for, they will become convicted and repent from their angst against others simply because they cannot control them.
It is sin to gather information for the purpose of finding something to be angry about, as well as to be able to pass something on that turns others against them.
God shows us who these people are through various means. They will use particular verbiage that indicates they saw something on your facebook but are careful to cloak it in language that can be plausibly denied.
The blessing in all of this is our confidence in Christ that allows us to ignore the attacks.
The devils are working hard to derail those who love Christ. However he is too full of himself to realize that Christ in us sees all of this and gives us the strength and resolve to carry on in the direction Christ is leading us. These things roll off like water off a ducks back because they are not attacks against us, they are against God and He can handle it.
Psalm 28:7
"The Lord is my strength and my shield;
my heart trusts in him, and he helps me.
My heart leaps for joy,
and with my song I praise him. "
Daniel 11:32
“... but the people who know their God shall be strong, and carry out great exploits.”
2 Chronicles 16:9
"For the eyes of the Lord run to and fro throughout the whole earth, to show Himself strong on behalf of those whose heart is loyal to Him.”
Psalm 144:1
“Blessed be the Lord my Rock, who trains my hands for war, and my fingers for battle – my lovingkindness and my fortress, my high tower and my deliverer, my shield and the One in whom I take refuge, who subdues my people under me.”
2 Samuel 22:29
"For You are my lamp, O Lord; the Lord shall enlighten my darkness. For by You I can run against a troop; by my God I can leap over a wall. As for God, His way is perfect; the word of the Lord is proven; He is a shield to all who trust in Him.”
Psalm 18:32
“It is God who arms me with strength and keeps my way secure.”
Habakkuk 3:19
“The Lord GOD is my strength, And He has made my feet like hinds’ feet, And makes me walk on my high places.”
Psalm 41:12
“As for me, You uphold me in my integrity, And You set me in Your presence forever.”
Psalm 54:4
“Behold, God is my helper; The Lord is the sustainer of my soul."
Remove the Narcissist From Your Lives and Peace will Return
Narcissists love to intimidate believers by calling names, false accusations as well as through veiled threats that they will cause others to be against us.
When the narcissist cannot intimidate their target into submission through the name calling they will name drop to cause fear that they will influence others to be against us.
Things I have heard them say are "so and so agrees with me" and "I know others who are against you too." When these things don't work they will begin the gossiping campaign hoping you will go to the people to whom they gossiped and try to straighten it all out.
This tactic of name dropping and intimidation to cause fear is designed to cause you to overreact and confront everyone only making you look ridiculous. When someone does this the best thing to do is ignore them, never speak of them to anyone else except very close trusted friends whom the narcissist does not know and allow God to deal with the narcissist.
Those who use these tactics to harm their target eventually implode. They will be exposed one day, either in this life as they lose friends who can see through the nonsense, or God will deal with it in eternity.
The devil is sending these people into our circles to cause discontent, worry and fighting. Narcissists love to poke at someone until they blow up in frustration and then lie to others that you blew up for no reason at all. Their tactics are many and varied but the goal is always the same, to get you to become the bad one.
God told us in His word how to deal with these people. The verses below show us to "avoid them" when we can, and to refuse to engage by not answering them.
Sometimes we answer people because we think we are having a discussion to clarify things. We think each of us is sharing our views to help with the understanding. But the narcissist is not doing this, we find out later they are merely attempting to force us into their way of thinking while using mocking, intimidation and lies to cause frustration in us.
Proverbs 28:26
"Whoever trusts in his own mind is a fool, but he who walks in wisdom will be delivered."
Proverbs 14:7-9
"Leave the presence of a fool, for there you do not meet words of knowledge. The wisdom of the prudent is to discern his way, but the folly of fools is deceiving. Fools mock at the guilt offering, but the upright enjoy acceptance."
When we discover we are dealing with this sort of person, that is the narcissist who does not care about truth but only wants to win the discussion, we must remove ourselves and stay away from them entirely if at all possible. Set your boundary, "I will not longer discuss this" and block them from all ability to reach you.
The following Scriptures tell us how to handle these narcissistic types who love their drama and hate the peace in others.
Proverbs 18:2
"A fool takes no pleasure in understanding, but only in expressing his opinion."
Proverbs 29:11
"A fool gives full vent to his spirit, but a wise man quietly holds it back."
Proverbs 1:7
"The fear of the Lord is the beginning of knowledge; fools despise wisdom and instruction."
Proverbs 18:6
"A fool's lips walk into a fight, and his mouth invites a beating."
Proverbs 29:9
"If a wise man has an argument with a fool, the fool only rages and laughs, and there is no quiet."
Proverbs 10:23
"Doing wrong is like a joke to a fool, but wisdom is pleasure to a man of understanding."
Lastly and most importantly :
Proverbs 22:10-12
"10 Drive out the scoffer, and contention will go out,
Even strife and dishonor will cease."
When the narcissist cannot intimidate their target into submission through the name calling they will name drop to cause fear that they will influence others to be against us.
Things I have heard them say are "so and so agrees with me" and "I know others who are against you too." When these things don't work they will begin the gossiping campaign hoping you will go to the people to whom they gossiped and try to straighten it all out.
This tactic of name dropping and intimidation to cause fear is designed to cause you to overreact and confront everyone only making you look ridiculous. When someone does this the best thing to do is ignore them, never speak of them to anyone else except very close trusted friends whom the narcissist does not know and allow God to deal with the narcissist.
Those who use these tactics to harm their target eventually implode. They will be exposed one day, either in this life as they lose friends who can see through the nonsense, or God will deal with it in eternity.
The devil is sending these people into our circles to cause discontent, worry and fighting. Narcissists love to poke at someone until they blow up in frustration and then lie to others that you blew up for no reason at all. Their tactics are many and varied but the goal is always the same, to get you to become the bad one.
God told us in His word how to deal with these people. The verses below show us to "avoid them" when we can, and to refuse to engage by not answering them.
Sometimes we answer people because we think we are having a discussion to clarify things. We think each of us is sharing our views to help with the understanding. But the narcissist is not doing this, we find out later they are merely attempting to force us into their way of thinking while using mocking, intimidation and lies to cause frustration in us.
Proverbs 28:26
"Whoever trusts in his own mind is a fool, but he who walks in wisdom will be delivered."
Proverbs 14:7-9
"Leave the presence of a fool, for there you do not meet words of knowledge. The wisdom of the prudent is to discern his way, but the folly of fools is deceiving. Fools mock at the guilt offering, but the upright enjoy acceptance."
When we discover we are dealing with this sort of person, that is the narcissist who does not care about truth but only wants to win the discussion, we must remove ourselves and stay away from them entirely if at all possible. Set your boundary, "I will not longer discuss this" and block them from all ability to reach you.
The following Scriptures tell us how to handle these narcissistic types who love their drama and hate the peace in others.
Proverbs 18:2
"A fool takes no pleasure in understanding, but only in expressing his opinion."
Proverbs 29:11
"A fool gives full vent to his spirit, but a wise man quietly holds it back."
Proverbs 1:7
"The fear of the Lord is the beginning of knowledge; fools despise wisdom and instruction."
Proverbs 18:6
"A fool's lips walk into a fight, and his mouth invites a beating."
Proverbs 29:9
"If a wise man has an argument with a fool, the fool only rages and laughs, and there is no quiet."
Proverbs 10:23
"Doing wrong is like a joke to a fool, but wisdom is pleasure to a man of understanding."
Lastly and most importantly :
Proverbs 22:10-12
"10 Drive out the scoffer, and contention will go out,
Even strife and dishonor will cease."
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