Narcissists constantly live in fear, fear of losing control of others, fear of their environment, fear of not being accepted, fear of politics, and everything else in between.
Fear is continually in the heart of the narcissist because very little of life can be controlled by us. We can only make ourselves feel in control in small ways but when you think about how many things we depend on others about, we really have very little control over our lives.
We cannot control the medical system in our country or our own health.
We cannot control whether there are groceries at the store to be able to shop for our families, we depend on those who grow the food, those who bring the food to the stores, and the owners of the stores and their prices.
We cannot control the weather, the monetary system of our country or the laws that govern us through taxes, inflation and permits we must purchase to build homes.
The list of things we cannot control is very long and yet we have learned to accept this while making ourselves believe we control what we eat and where we go and what we do by adhering to the rules all around us.
Let's be clear, if we are in Christ we have no worries because He is the one in control over all those things we cannot control. However, those who do not know Christ live in fear all the time that they will not be able to control everything in their lives. They have fooled themselves into believing they are in control when they go to the grocery store, when in fact they can only buy what the merchants decide to provide for them or the farmers grow.
The unsaved must believe they control their environment and yet the government tells them they must have licenses and permits to drive the car down the road or build a home. The government tells them the taxes they must pay as well as which roads they can drive on.
We have more freedom in America than we have ever had before but the people are becoming more fearful, angry and easily offended than I have ever seen in my lifetime. All of this is because of fear.
Born-again believers who are following hard after Christ do not have fear, frustration and violence in their hearts. They have accepted that the rules are placed there under the eye of God.
Romans 13:1-2 "1 Everyone must submit himself to the governing authorities, for there is no authority except that which is from God. The authorities that exist have been appointed by God. 2 Consequently, whoever resists authority is opposing what God has set in place, and those who do so will bring judgment on themselves.…"
A believer in Christ realized that God has allowed all governments to exist even the bad ones because He has a purpose in all that He does. For the believer, we don't always know the purpose but we have faith that God knows what He is doing.
The happiness of the narcissistic culture is only present when they are getting something they want their own way. For the born-again believer, the joy never leaves them, in fact when they do not understand or do not get what they would like they can assume God has another plan other than our personal desires and what will be best for us and others in the long run.
Proverbs 3:5-6
"5 Trust in the Lord with all your heart
And do not lean on your own understanding.
6 In all your ways acknowledge Him,
And He will make your paths straight."
