Yes, and why would anyone want to do what God hates unless God is irrelevant to them. Far too many people have the idea that God wouldn't want them to suffer in this life with someone who is difficult. If that were true then He would never have written these scriptures to us.
James 1:2-8
2 Consider it all joy, my brethren, when you encounter various trials,
3 knowing that the testing of your faith produces endurance.
4 And let endurance have its perfect result, so that you may be perfect and complete, lacking in nothing.
5 But if any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask of God, who gives to all generously and [f]without reproach, and it will be given to him.
6 But he must ask in faith without any doubting, for the one who doubts is like the surf of the sea, driven and tossed by the wind.
7 For that man ought not to expect that he will receive anything from the Lord,
8 being a double-minded man, unstable in all his ways."
Our culture often throws away opportunities to be noble and strong by bailing out of trials. When we bail out of a trial in defiance of God we miss the wonderful lessons God has for us. We gain wisdom, strength and determination from seeing through the trials with Christ beside us.
Having been married nearly 50 years now I can tell you that remaining in a marriage through the hard things progresses to an even greater bond between two people. Spoiled brats want what they want right now. Mature adults see the potential beyond the trials, often soldiering on through them to a wonderful blessing on the other side.
Even the worst trials in any marriage can be endured and resolved if we just keep seeking God in everything. Bailing out of trials to avoid pain merely leaves us weak leading to more weakness.
Those who bail out of marriages often forget one thing, they are taking themselves into the next relationship. If we have not changed then many of the same trials are going to show up in the next spouse.
Keep in mind there is no blessing from God on a re-marriage after divorce, because it is adultery as God said. You can give all the excuses in the world why God didn't mean that for you, but the reality is that He did mean it for everyone.
The problem is that most people do not seek Christ in prayer and fasting through difficult marriage relationships, they just have their tantrum, refuse to take their lumps in difficult situations and bolt. They leave no time for God to work things out and they will not evaluate themselves to see if they are part of the problem.
Do you want to obey God in marriage? If so then seek Him all the time for everything. He has the answers for you. Never go to friends and family for advice, most of them will just believe your sob story, whether it is true or not and tell you to bail out. Seek Christ only!!!!
SEEK CHRIST ONLY!!!!!!! How to do that? Resolve to obey His word, pray and fast for the Lord to work things out.
We are in a battle and we have a Supreme Commander, that is Jesus Christ. Doing what He says even if we don't understand it will bring His blessing. Also, remember that His blessing is not necessarily in this life or the way we want things. His blessing might be as simple as the great joy we have in obeying Him as well as a very close relationship to Him.
I am so glad Navy Seals don't bail out of battles while obeying those in command over them.!!! I am glad that bridge builders look at the structural plans of their endeavor while building the bridge.
Our marching orders are in the Word of God and the plans for our life are outlined there. The principles are clear the specifics will be given to us by the Holy Spirit Who lives in us.
Flying by the seat of ones pants based on momentary feelings is foolish and destructive.
Proverbs 12:14-16 "…14 By fruitful speech a man will be filled with good things, and the work of a man’s hands will reward him. 15 The way of a fool is right in his own eyes, but a wise man listens to counsel. 16 A fool’s anger is known at once, but a prudent man overlooks an insult."
“A wise man may look ridiculous in the company of fools.” Thomas Fuller
Many foolish people will attempt to counsel you to do the wrong things, ignore them.
Proverbs 18:2-3
2 A fool does not delight in understanding,
But only in revealing his own mind.
3 When a wicked man comes, contempt also comes,
And with dishonor comes scorn.
Our world doesn't know it but "dishonor comes when there is divorce and remarriage. The problem is that our world refuses to see this allowing those who do not know the Word of God to embrace the lies that life will be better if we disobey God. So they lie and pretend that God allows it. Yes, He does allow it for the "hard hearted" person.
Isaiah 32:6A
6 For a fool speaks nonsense,
And his heart inclines toward wickedness:
To practice ungodliness and to speak error against the Lord,"
