Monday, March 31, 2025

Hatred Feeds on Conflict

Hatred feeds on conflict, if we return hatred with kindness the narcissist will hate that but their response will have no effect on us.
 
The goal of the arrogant narcissist is to create conflict so that you will respond badly allowing them the feeling that you deserved what they did because now you are just like them.
 
This is why God said not to "return evil for evil", and "bless those who curse you", this does not mean we remain friends with those who are rude and mean regularly, it just means when we must be in company with those who are hell-bent on causing trouble we "do not answer a fool according to their folly" and we rejoice when they leave our presence.
 
We can pray for them if we desire but are not obligated to remain friends with them.
 
We become stronger emotionally and Spiritually when we choose a higher path than those who make it the goal to ruin our soul.
 
When we do nothing in response to a troublemaker, know that God will have our back and He knows best what is His purpose in His timing. It is not weakness that does nothing, but strength.
 
Those who act maliciously set themselves on a self-destructive path that will be their punishment. We need not punish those who are unruly, God will take care of it better than we ever could.

The less we worry about who likes us or what is done to us the stronger we become, knowing that God knows every single thing even the heart of the evil rabble-rouser.

There are entire family structures that are adept at gossip and mischief-making, who thrive on drama to cause agitation in those they are jealous of or who do not fit into their family mold.
 
Those who can walk the narrow path without the need for validation of other family members will be treated with contempt merely for not being "one of them." All born-again believers experience this to some degree, they understand the scriptures that say:

Luke 21:15-17 "…15 For I will give you speech and wisdom that none of your adversaries will be able to resist or contradict. 16 You will be betrayed even by parents and brothers and relatives and friends, and some of you will be put to death. 17 And you will be hated by everyone because of My name.…"

This passage was written to the apostles but it was for us because mankind has not changed since the beginning of the world.
 
What a blessing to have the scriptures that make the end times events and human nature so vivid that we can walk uprightly through knowing the tactics of the devil and that he uses people to come against believers.
 
1 John 4:4
"4 You are from God, little children, and have overcome them; because greater is He who is in you than he who is in the world."

Edification is Far Different from Praise

What does love look like? Because mankind has a natural propensity to lean toward sin we must spend more time correcting and redirecting than we do "praising."

Praising people is not very productive because it does not challenge others to reach a higher standard. Encouragement in the Bible is prodding our brothers and sisters to continue obeying God not making people "feel" good about themselves. Feelings have little value, it is correction, instruction and discipline that brings about change in a heart that wants to follow God.

Edification is the goal of believer to believer, that we are built up in the faith, not appealing to emotions or feelings. 

Praise is not encouragement, in fact it likely and often disarms a person rather than build them up in the faith.
 
Discipline, correction, and instruction will not work on a rebellious heart, that heart must see serious life challenges in order to come to the end of themselves.
 
Revelation 3:19 Those I love, I rebuke and discipline. Therefore be earnest and repent.

Hebrews 12:6
For the Lord disciplines the one He loves, and He chastises every son He receives.”

Proverbs 3:11-12
My son, do not reject the discipline of the LORD, and do not loathe His rebuke; / for the LORD disciplines the one He loves, as does a father the son in whom he delights.

Job 5:17
Blessed indeed is the man whom God corrects; so do not despise the discipline of the Almighty.

Psalm 94:12
Blessed is the man You discipline, O LORD, and teach from Your law,

1 Corinthians 11:32
"But when we are judged by the Lord, we are being disciplined so that we will not be condemned with the world."

James 1:12
"Blessed is the man who perseveres under trial, because when he has stood the test, he will receive the crown of life that God has promised to those who love Him."

1 Peter 4:17
"For it is time for judgment to begin with the family of God; and if it begins with us, what will the outcome be for those who disobey the gospel of God?"

2 Corinthians 7:9-10
"yet now I rejoice, not because you were made sorrowful, but because your sorrow led you to repentance. For you felt the sorrow that God had intended, and so were not harmed in any way by us. Godly sorrow brings repentance that leads to salvation without regret, but worldly sorrow brings death."

Blaming Others Ruins the Soul

When we blame others we are admitting they are in control of us. When we own our own stuff we grow and change, it's under our control!

No one is in control of our behavior unless we allow it. No one makes us do anything. We are either driven by our own fear of being caught or fear of the intimidation of others.
 
Those who are easily offended are easily controlled by others. Those who are strong are not easily offended and are in charge of their own emotions and actions.
 
The weakest people are those who are continually looking for things to feel insulted or wounded. They cannot feel whole unless they are accusing others of wrong as they look down their noses at anyone who cannot be controlled by their outbursts of anger or covert rudeness.
 
Those who spend a lot of time ruminating on who has wronged them, who does not measure up and who to be jealous of are diminishing their growth remaining emotional and spiritual infants until they confess it to be cleansed.
 
There is deliverance from the anger associated with gossip and misjudging others, it is through confessing it and asking God to change their character replacing the old man with the new man who is full of love, kindness, empathy and every other good thing that comes from Christ. Christ must do this in us, no one can change themselves, if they try they will fall back into the old ways when they are too feeble to continue the facade.
 
When Christ changes us we are permanently changed and He begins a work of lifelong cleansing and changing of us until He takes us home.

Just Saying Something Does Not Make it So!

I only recognize atheists as those in rebellion against God, liars who claim to not believe in Him but are choosing it knowing He exists.. Sort of like telling the woman who bore you, "You're not my mother because I don't recognize the fact."
I see the people who say they are Christians but deny much of the Bible to fit their own desires and their culture. These people are lying, when we love Him we are dedicated to His Word.

John 14:15-17 "“If you love me, you will keep my commandments. And I will ask the Father, and he will give you another Helper, to be with you forever, even the Spirit of truth, whom the world cannot receive because it neither sees him nor knows him."

When someone does not like you because you have stirred the wrath of the demons who influence them, they will pretend something is wrong with you so they don't have to listen to you. Denying things and people to justify wicked actions and attitudes is common among the apostate church.
 
Satan did this with Eve in the garden. He went after the most influential person in the marriage relationship to impact the husband.
 
Eve was the one created to be the helper to the man, to influence him when necessary and support him in his calling. Satan knew the power of the woman to sway the man, so he addressed her to disrespect God. Notice Satan didn't go to the husband, but to the wife, not because she was more easily duped, but because she was powerful in the relationship. We know that Adam, was easily manipulated because he took what the woman gave to him. Both husband and wife were easily duped by the devil, after all, Eve bought into the lie and shared it with Adam and he partook.
 
No one in the marriage was duped more than the other, they were both fooled.
This is why it is so vitally important that godly women seek God continually so that her influence in the husbands' life will reflect the will of God.
 
God created Eve to be His Spiritual and emotional advisor, when she does her job her husband will be more powerful in all that God has called him to do.
The man is not independent of the woman or the woman independent of the man, they are two sides of the same coin. When one falters the other is there to pick them up or bring them back to obedience to God.
 
The godly marriage relationship is one of leader and supporter. That support comes in many forms, it may be encouragement to keep doing what the man is doing or it may be a warning not to do what the man is planning.
 
Whatever the case, the man must obey God even if his wife does not. And, the woman must obey God when the husband will not.
 
Notice that when confronted by God those who sinned blamed others for their own sin. Adam blamed God because He gave the man the woman and Eve blamed the serpent. Both blamed others instead of taking responsibility for their own actions.
We see this all the time in human relationships, rather than humbling themselves and saying; "I did it and it was wrong", they say; "So and so made me do it." or "You caused it", or "you did something else wrong that caused me to sin."
 
All excuses and reactions in haste to protect pride are sins. There can be no cleansing from the guilt and desire to sin without confession and the resolution to not repeat the sin.
 
1 John 1:9
"9 If we confess our sins, He is faithful and righteous, so that He will forgive us our sins and cleanse us from all unrighteousness."

God will only cleanse us of sin if we admit it and desire to no longer engage in it.
Those who refuse to admit sin and continually justify it will grow weaker and more bitter as they slip deeper into depression for the weight of sin on them.
 
Sin is never resolved by ignoring it, pretending it never happened or blaming others, it always grows like a cancer eating away at all decency, kindness and empathy until there is nothing left of goodness.
 
The only way to expunge the sin from our lives is to admit it, ask God to cleanse us, and resist the devil when he attempts to influence our minds with temptations to return to sin again.
 
As we grow in holiness from the process God gave us to remove sinful desires from our hearts, we will become more Christlike and less worldly. Sin will appear darker to us than it was before because we will see more clearly to avoid it and people who would impact us to be like them.
 
This is why God told us to "avoid such people" in 2 Timothy 3, those who are full of anger, hate, and revenge so that we will not emulate them from overexposure to their attitudes and actions.
 
2 Timothy 3:1-5
Difficult Times Will Come
3 But realize this, that in the last days difficult times will come.
2 For people will be lovers of self, lovers of money, boastful, arrogant, slanderers, disobedient to parents, ungrateful, unholy,
3 unloving, irreconcilable, malicious gossips, without self-control, brutal, haters of good,
4 treacherous, reckless, conceited, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God,
5 holding to a form of godliness although they have denied its power; avoid such people as these."

There are many in these last days who say they are Christians, even knowing some Bible verses but who work against holiness and all the fruit of God's Spirit.
Galatians 5:22-23 - "But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control; against such things there is no law."

Let us confess often allowing Christ to continually grow us so that our light can shine for Him.