Jesus Christ Wept Too, It's Alright to Cry

Narcissists see tears as weakness and often will double down on their rudeness when they see it. They are fools without empathy so we just ignore them and enjoy the gift of tears God gave us, just not in front of them.

 
Tears are God's gift to us, they relieve stress and cleanse the build-up of pressure over time that we hardly notice. Being controlled most of the time is necessary, however once in a while, we need to release the pressure valve to feel cleansed again.

 
God is aware of our pressure and our tears and He has no condemnation for it, in fact, it comes from Him as a gift to us.

 
Psalm 56:8
"8 You have taken account of my wanderings;
Put my tears in Your bottle.
Are they not in Your book?"
Our Lord cried tears at the most stressful time in His life.

Luke 22:44
"44 And being in agony, He was praying very fervently; and His sweat became like drops of blood, falling down upon the ground."

Jesus Christ wept when He was facing His final persecution.

 
John 11:33-34 " 33 Therefore when Jesus saw her weeping, and the Jews who came with her also weeping, He was deeply moved in spirit and was troubled 34 and He said, “Where have you laid him?” They *said to Him, “Lord, come and see.” 35 Jesus wept."

Even our Lord had empathy for a family and their loss.

 
Lacking empathy is not strength, just the opposite, it is the height of weakness and a deficiency of love.

 
Next time a narcissist looks down on your tears and empathy just remember Christ, what He went through, and His response to it.

The First Manipulation

The first act of manipulation against a human being was perpetrated by the devil in the garden with Eve when he enticed her to question God and ultimately come against the very God Who created her.

He caused Eve to believe God was bad, withholding from her and, lying to her. She began to believe the lies and distrust God and assigned to Him what was a lie.

The devil uses other people to do this to us too. His tactics have not changed, we just have a hard time recognizing it because we can not see him with our eyes, he is invisible to us.

Those who are kind and loving have a hard time believing someone is acting wickedly toward us because we are not that way with others, so we assume we must have done something wrong to deserve this ill-treatment.

When we mess up we should feel badly, confess it and continue to do better with the help of the Holy Spirit, this is what causes spiritual and emotional maturity.

However, there are many people now who hate believers and will attempt to place false guilt on those who are living for Christ. The Holy Spirit can show us what is true and what is not, we must know the Word and depend on Him. We can know if we are guilty of something or if we are not.

The devil accuses us of his own sin, confusing those who have a sensitive conscience toward God. False wordly guilt causes doubt even causing us to shrink from thinking and acting righteously.

The devil wants us to believe we are evil for doing what is right. He wants us to feel timid about speaking boldly the things of God.

Romans 8:1 "1 There is therefore now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus."

2 Corinthians 7:10 "10 For godly grief produces a repentance that leads to salvation without regret, whereas worldly grief produces death."

Romans 5:9-10 "9 Since, therefore, we have now been justified by his blood, much more shall we be saved by him from the wrath of God. 10 For if while we were enemies we were reconciled to God by the death of his Son, much more, now that we are reconciled, shall we be saved by his life."

1 Peter 2:24 "24 He himself bore our sins in his body on the tree, that we might die to sin and live to righteousness. By his wounds you have been healed."

Those who have been reconciled to Christ and changed into a new creation by Him do not live a lifestyle of anger and rudeness. It is those who live according to their own mindset and rebelliousness who accuse us of their own stuff.

Satan has always been a master of manipulation, starting fights and blaming the victim when the victim responds.

We are living in the last days right before the church will be raptured and the tribulation begins. It is as in the days of Noah when the world is full of deceit and anger sparing no one in their pursuit to be superior and powerful over others.

These facts comfort me when I know how the devil operates and how much more powerful the Holy Spirit is in protecting us against him.

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The Lies They Tell to Stave off Guilt

It is amazing!!!

 
Our Christian culture can twist everything to justify their sin. I have met several people who were grieved at the second divorce after a remarriage but embraced the first divorce from the first wife.

 
Talk about irrational!!!!

I was once told by a divorced and remarried couple that I should not correct a pastor, only the men should do that. There is no Biblical prohibition for a woman correcting men about the things of the Lord. However, there is a command not to divorce along with the command not to remarry after a divorce.

 
1 Corinthians 7:9-15
"9 But if they do not have self-control, let them marry; for it is better to marry than to burn with passion."
10 But to the married I give instructions, not I, but the Lord, that the wife is not to leave her husband 11 (but if she does leave, she must remain unmarried, or else be reconciled to her husband), and that the husband is not to divorce his wife."

Clearly, God stated that divorce is a sin and so is remarriage. Sometimes people have no control over what their spouse does but they do have control over what they do in obedience to Christ.

 
Luke 16:17-18 "17 But it is easier for heaven and earth to pass away than for a single stroke of a pen to drop out of the Law. 18 Anyone who divorces his wife and marries another woman commits adultery, and he who marries a divorced woman commits adultery."

God could not have been more clear and yet mankind who wishes to defy God but pretend they are obeying will do handsprings to justify what they want to do while twisting scripture, even adding to scripture as well as omitting God's own words to be able to sin without guilt.

 
Marriage the first time is a picture of Christ and His church, its significance is vitally important to the well-being of the church. When we negate marriage thinking it can be dissolved by man, we are denying the power of Christ to make two people into one and to make a born again believer sealed by the Holy Spirit of Christ.

Mark 10:8-9 
"and the two shall become one flesh’; so then they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate.”

This is a spiritual union that no man can undo. It is permanent until death.
There is an old saying; "when two remarried people get into bed there are four people in the bed."

 
God said that when we become born again Christ changes us into a new creation and we are sealed with the Holy Spirit forever.

 
Ephesians 1:13-14
"13 In Him, you also, after listening to the message of truth, the gospel of your salvation—having also believed, you were sealed in Him with the Holy Spirit of the promise, 14 who is a first installment of our inheritance, in regard to the redemption of God’s own possession, to the praise of His glory."

We cannot undo what Christ did in changing us into a new creation. The butterfly can never go back to being the worm in the cocoon after emerging from it as the butterfly, our example from God in nature.

 
Ephesians 2:10
"10 For we are his workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand, that we should walk in them."

God makes two people one in marriage and He changes a born again believer into a new creation, it's all Him all the time.

 
Those who want to pretend they are a Christian on their own say so without being changed by Christ are not saved.

Those who want to pretend they have dissolved a marriage by a piece of paper by the law of the land have not dissolved it, they remain two as one with that first promise. Pretending they have a new marriage does not make it so, it is adultery just as God proclaimed in His word.

 
If you fight against this oneness principle for salvation and in marriage you fight against Christ Himself.

Helping Someone to Sin Leaves Blood on Your Hands

Proverbs 10:17 "Whoever heeds discipline shows the way to life, but whoever ignores correction leads others astray".

I find it interesting that God said in this passage that those who refuse discipline are leading others away from God by their example.

This brings a deeper meaning to the statement; "more is caught than taught."

The way we act toward others teaches more than our words. And, we will act properly in a godly manner when we head the instruction of Christ.

Those who ignore the teachings of the Bible to embrace cultural standards will lead others astray simply by doing things their own way while following the culture, it doesn't matter what they say they believe, it matters only that they live according to what is in their heart of obedience toward Christ.

I have heard "Christians" tell me they are against divorce and remarriage but support and attend the weddings of divorced people. Their actions were those of support rather than encouragement to obey God.

I have heard others also say they are against abortion but would go to the abortion clinic so the woman having one didn't have to be alone because she was going to go anyway. It really was an excuse to be liked by the woman killing her child. Perhaps if the one supporting the young mother had not gone with her the mother would have been too afraid to kill her baby and later change her mind. Perhaps a baby would have been saved if someone had not supported this act of murder.

It is not an act of love to support someone to sin. It is selfish, based on the desire to be loved by the one who is sinning. When we love Christ more than we love people we will be able to encourage others to obey Him without a need to be liked ourselves.

Even if someone becomes angry at our resolve to obey God rather than man then that anger is on them and our hands remain clean in the sight of God.

Ezekiel 3:17-19 "…17 “Son of man, I have made you a watchman for the house of Israel. Whenever you hear a word from My mouth, give them a warning from Me. 18 I say to the wicked man, ‘You will surely die,’ but you do not warn him or speak out to warn him from his wicked way to save his life, that wicked man will die in his iniquity, and I will hold you responsible for his blood. 19 But if you warn a wicked man and he does not turn from his wickedness and his wicked way, he will die in his iniquity, but you will have saved yourself.…"

We are responsible for what we support and endorse! Will we care what people think more than what God thinks? Is our codependency on people more important than God?

The Devil is Clever but Christ is More Powerful

The devil is very clever, he will entice weak-minded people into following someone because they are so friendly and bring them cookies. After all only good people who say they are Christians bring us cookies.

Where is the discernment, the searching the Bible to vet those who say they are Christians?

Our culture depends more on words and feelings than on rational reasonable and Biblical truths. When feelings are the determination for a decision there will be much error and chaos.

The devil will make us feel bad about doing what is right because of the reaction of others toward us. He will make us feel good about doing wrong things because of the encouragement of unsaved people to follow them.

Galatians 4:16-17 "…16 Have I now become your enemy by telling you the truth? 17 Those people are zealous for you, but not in a good way. Instead, they want to isolate you from us, so that you may be zealous for them."

Those who want to entice you to be like them even when they do not obey Christ, will treat disrespectfully those who do not follow them so that the onlookers will fear losing the validation of the group and likely enemy of God.

Those who are the enemy of God but claim to be Christians will attempt to isolate us from godly people through gossip and slander. They think if they can remove our support they can dominate us.

Those who use this tactic don't understand that when we walk with Christ we have no need for a "group" to validate us. We greatly enjoy those who agree with God but do not need to be validated if faced with isolation. Christ in us is better than an army of supporters.

Colossians 2:9-10 "…9For in Christ all the fullness of the Deity dwells in bodily form. 10 And you have been made complete in Christ, who is the head over every ruler and authority."

Ephesians 1:22-23

"And God put everything under His feet and made Him head over everything for the church, / which is His body, the fullness of Him who fills all in all."

Philippians 2:9-11

"Therefore God exalted Him to the highest place and gave Him the name above all names, / that at the name of Jesus every knee should bow, in heaven and on earth and under the earth, / and every tongue confess that Jesus Christ is Lord, to the glory of God the Father."

Those who love Christ and seek Him in all things will not be fooled by "good sounding" unbilibcal phrases or happy smiles, manipulation does not work on us. We are able to discern truth from error through the power of the Holy Spirit when we know His Word.

May all believers test every spirit and cling to what is right in the eyes of God.