Romans 12:3
"3 For through the grace given to me I say to everyone among you not to think more highly of himself than he ought to think; but to think so as to have sound judgment, as God has allotted to each a measure of faith."
There is a big difference between confidence and self-esteem. Those who are arrogant have high self-esteem but are in fact, lacking in confidence. No one has to act arrogantly and superior who is confident.
Those who are confident know themselves well, they are able to look at their flaws as well as their strength without a need to be superior to others.
Psalm 27:13, “I remain confident of this: I will see the goodness of the LORD in the land of the living.”
Those who lack confidence, those who are fragile emotionally as a six-year-old child would be are the most unhappy people lacking the joy of the Lord.
Humility is our friend, when we become confident in the Lord and our walk with Him we need not be arrogant.
Philippians 4:11–13
"12 I know both how to be abased, and I know how to abound: everywhere and in all things am instructed both to be full and to be hungry, both to abound and to suffer need. 13 I can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth me."
Those who are humble and confident have no need to impress anyone else or demean others to feel special. These people are focused on spiritual and emotional growth. The prideful person does not grow either emotionally or spiritually, they remain infants and continually have tantrums when they are not seen as special.
Sadly, if these arrogant types would self-reflect they would see how freeing humility and confidence is and dispose of their arrogance in favor of spiritual and emotional progress.
Many people I have met who claim to be Christian have not grown at all in their long lives, even into old age. I feel bad for them because they have no idea what they are missing while they are trapped in a life of underlying anger and frustration.
Old age is often a key to how someone lived their entire lives. Those who have not grown do not remain the same, they grow worse. They are less loving, less tolerant, less kind, and more self-absorbed. Every bad trait of these people is magnified in their elder years.
Let's not be people who have stagnated and regressed as we grow older. Let's be people who age like fine wine, the longer we live the more we love. Hallelujah!