Monday, February 13, 2017

Indulged Children Turn into Unhappy Adults

Immature adults were indulged children. Once a child has grown into an adult after being taught to think of himself first, there is no helping them to learn better. They have become hard wired to automatically think of themselves and become enraged when anyone suggests differently.

It takes becoming born again for their hearts to be changed into loving, empathetic and kind human beings.

Only in Christ will our thoughts be directed to toward God and others before ourselves.

1 Corinthians 2:15-16 "…15 The spiritual man judges all things, but he himself is not subject to anyone’s judgment. 16“For who has known the mind of the Lord, so as to instruct Him?” But we have the mind of Christ."

2 Corinthians 5:16-18 "…16 So from now on we regard no one according to the flesh. Although we once regarded Christ in this way, we do so no longer. 17 Therefore if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation. The old has passed away. Behold, the new has come! 18 All this is from God, who reconciled us to Himself through Christ and gave us the ministry of reconciliation:…"


Immature Adults Were Indulged Children

I get so weary of the modern ideas that have been spawned from psychology and the pleasure seeking mentality that has take this country captive.

People are waiting longer to get married and divorcing more than ever before. Getting older doesn't make someone wiser.

Waiting to get married only delays the maturing process. Marriage teaches us things we could not learn until we do it. Working out struggles is easier when we have never been alone independently of a family structure.

I was engaged to my husband at 16, we remained separate until he finished college and we married at 18. We have been married now for almost 46 years.

There are people in their 40's now who act like children in terms of their maturity level. They are selfish, hyper sensitive to correction or criticism and unreasonable, all because they have been told all their lives that they don't have to do what they don't want to and that if anyone expects anything from them, that person is mean.

Mature young people who have had responsibilities and challenges are happier than the immature ones, who have spent their life playing.

Young marriages have a better chance of remaining married all their lives because they are more pliable and grow up together.

Our culture fosters break ups because we teach independence and personal freedom rather than the idea of working together for the good of others.

We should be raising our children for marriage and responsibility their entire lives until they are mature enough to handle being someone's spouse.

The purpose of childhood is not to make memories and play, it is to grow a child into an adult one day so they might enjoy responsibility and unselfishness. Within the training for adulthood the children will have memories, much better ones than those who have done nothing but play and serve self.

Have you noticed that very young children love to work, putting away their toys, helping mom put away the dishes, the things they are capable of, after that as they grow older they enjoy having chores that give them a sense of accomplishment. Their confidence level is greater when they have many work experiences.

Too much play creates lazy selfish children who have no direction or vision for their life. These children are bored out of their minds, often leading to immorality and crime not to mention disrespectful behavior.

Colossians 3:17 And whatever you do, in word or deed, do everything in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through him.

Colossians 3:23-24 Work willingly at whatever you do, as though you were working for the Lord rather than for people. Remember that the Lord will give you an inheritance as your reward, and that the Master you are serving is Christ.

1 Corinthians 10:31 Whether therefore ye eat, or drink, or whatsoever ye do, do all to the glory of God.

Romans 12:11-12 Never be lazy, but work hard and serve the Lord enthusiastically. Rejoice in our confident hope. Be patient in trouble, and keep on praying.

There is greater joy in reaching adulthood when the children have been taught to think of others above themselves.

Read the Word, it's all in there!!!!

God Knows Your Heart?

My answer to those who justify their sin by saying; "God knows my heart", is this:

"Yes God knows your rebellious heart, that you don't care about loving and obeying Him, His blessing is not on you, no matter how prosperous you feel right now. Your spirit will continue down the spiral until you confess your sin.

John 14:15 "14 If you ask Me anything in My name, I will do it. 15 If you love Me, you will keep My commandments. 16 And I will ask the Father, and He will give you another Advocate to be with you forever."

Answered prayer is conditional to obedience to Him. Christ will not answer the prayers of those who are in opposition to His instruction, even if and especially if they are born again believers.

Christ will discipline those who are saved, to bring them back into submission to Him.

John 9:31 "31 We know that God does not listen to sinners, but He does listen to the one who worships Him and does His will."

Hebrews 12:5-7 "…5 And you have forgotten the exhortation that addresses you as sons: “My son, do not make light of the Lord’s discipline, or lose heart when He rebukes you. 6 For the Lord disciplines the one He loves, and He chastises everyone He receives as a son.” 7 Endure suffering as discipline; God is treating you as sons. For what son is not disciplined by his father?…"

If anyone thinks they can continue in sin without consequences, they are sadly mistaken. God will bring difficulties to those who are stubborn, refusing to obey Christ will bring trials, even lifelong trials that may never be able to be resolved.

When we confess our sin, asking for the strength to turn from them, then God will honor that prayer and begin the healing from sin. There is no healing from sin without confession of it and a desire to be changed by Christ.

1 John 1:8-10 "…8 If we say we have no sin, we deceive ourselves, and the truth is not in us. 9 If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness. 10 If we say we have not sinned, we make Him out to be a liar, and His word is not in us.…

Those who think they can live in sin and still remain in fellowship with Christ are in serious error, so much so, it may be an indication they are not born again. Yes, believers can be this way, but when the entire lifestyle is one of never confessing and even becoming angry continually at those who chastise them, there may never have been a born again experience.

If someone finds themselves arguing to continue in their sin, it would be good to challenge them to ask God if they are saved, because the fruit is bad.

2 Corinthians 13:5 " 5 Examine yourselves to see whether you are in the faith; test yourselves. Can’t you see for yourselves that Jesus Christ is in you — unless you actually fail the test? "

Matthew 7:17-19 "…17 Likewise, every good tree bears good fruit, but a bad tree bears bad fruit. 18 A good tree cannot bear bad fruit, and a bad tree cannot bear good fruit. 19 Every tree that does not bear good fruit is cut down and thrown into the fire.…"

2 Corinthians 7:9-10 "…9 And now I rejoice, not because you were made sorrowful, but because your sorrow led you to repentance. For you felt the sorrow that God had intended, and so were not harmed in any way by us. 10 Godly sorrow brings repentance that leads to salvation without regret, but worldly sorrow brings death."

Want to be right with God again? Want to get right with God for the first time?

Then the answer is to confess your sin, ask the Lord to cleanse you and watch what He will do in you. It is a miracle when the Lord changes our hearts into a new creation. We no longer think as we did nor do we want the things we did before. We are utterly and completely changed, not of our own efforts, but because of His work in us.

2 Corinthians 5:17-18 "17 Therefore if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation. The old has passed away. Behold, the new has come! 18 All this is from God, who reconciled us to Himself through Christ and gave us the ministry of reconciliation:…"

Ephesians 2:9-10 "…9 not by works, so that no one can boast. 10 For we are God’s workmanship, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance as our way of life."

When this happens we will rejoice in the new us! We do not look back to the old us except to praise God for what He has done. Then we will have a desire to share what God did for us!

Philippians 3:13
"Brothers, I do not consider that I have made it my own. But one thing I do: forgetting what lies behind and straining forward to what lies ahead,"

Hallelujah!!! Let no one attempt to take you back the memories of the old you, tell them all that is under the blood of Christ Who made you into a new person. Let God deal with those who refuse to admit to the new you. Let no one stop you from sharing what Christ did for you. Anyone who perpetually attempts to ruin your joy by accusing you of the past, smile a big smile and say, "hallelujah, that is under the blood and the Lord told me to leave the past in the past."

NOW THAT'S HOPE AND PEACE AND JOY!!!!


Narcissists are Liar and Like It

The narcissist accuses others of doing things the narcissist is doing and the others are not. Lying this way is an attempt to take the focus off of the sinner and make it appear as though the righteous one is at fault.

This tactic is becoming much more common, since lying to gain advantage is in vogue now.

It is surprising how many people are comfortable with lying, even blatantly.

Colossians 3:9 "9 Do not lie to one another, seeing that you have put off the old self 4 with its practices."

Matthew 15:19 "For out of the heart come evil thoughts, murders, adulteries, fornications, thefts, false witness, slanders."

Proverbs 12:22 "Lying lips are an abomination to the LORD, But those who deal faithfully are His delight."

Sin Never Dissipates it Only Grows

The farther one get away from the sin without repenting the more sin grows in the unrepentant heart.

One cannot ignore sin without it multiplying like a creeping mold. Ignoring it merely solidifies a rebellious and contemptuous attitude in the one who is resistant to submission to Christ.

We can expect to see more sin, more contempt and greater resistance to obedience while someone remains unrepentant.

Galatians 5:9-10 "9 A little yeast leavens the whole batch of dough. 10 I am confident in the Lord that you will take no other view. The one who is troubling you will bear the judgment, whoever he may be.…"

Hidden unrepentant sin will eventually creep out into the open for all to see, if not in this life absolutely in eternity.

Jeremiah 23:24 "…23 "Am I a God who is near," declares the LORD, "And not a God far off? 24"Can a man hide himself in hiding places So I do not see him?" declares the LORD. "Do I not fill the heavens and the earth?" declares the LORD. 25 "I have heard what the prophets have said who prophesy falsely in My name, saying, 'I had a dream, I had a dream!'…"


Our Nature Doesn't Change, It Just Emerges.

If we are faking good character in our younger years, the evil will come out in our aged years.

If we are genuine in our love in our younger years then we will continue that pattern in our elder years.

Whatever our character all our life, will be what strengthens and remains in our elder years.

If someone is friendly and phony in the flesh all their lives, they will become more irritable in their aged years, because they no longer have the strength to keep up the pretense.

Those who are loving and kind in their nature, genuinely so during their life, will remain that way in their elder years.


The Rebellious Heart Refuses to Learn

When the rebellious heart doesn't want to hear truth, they attack what we said, claiming it's legalism. When they cannot attack legitimately what we said and know it, they attack the way we said it.

The rebellious heart will discredit us any way they can, not realizing that God is watching it all and one day they will be accountable for it.

John 3:19-20 "…19 And this is the verdict: The Light has come into the world, but men loved darkness more than light, because their deeds were evil. 20 Everyone who does evil hates the Light, and does not come into the Light for fear that his deeds will be exposed. "


No Do-overs After Death

We are NOT called to teach our parents or to rebuke them, only to serve them. God said "honor father and mother", what it does not say is "only if they are kind and sweet." LOL

I know all about this in my many years of living with and visits to my narcissistic parents. I learned to continue to love them even when they didn't love me.....you know what that did? It made me at peace when they passed with no regrets. Because....when they are gone there are no "do-overs."

May the Lord Help the Narcissist

John 3:20-21 "20 Everyone who does evil hates the Light, and does not come into the Light for fear that his deeds will be exposed. 21 But whoever practices the truth comes into the Light, so that it may be clearly seen that what he has done has been accomplished in God.”…"

A narcissist hates to discuss anything directly, using manipulation and intimidation to control the emotions and reactions of others, they are continually on guard waiting for the moment when they will have to use these tools on their belt.

Subtlety allows the narcissist to live in the realm of "plausible deniability." They can demonstrate such subtlety that when asked to explain their unkind behavior they will readily deny they did or said anything wrong.

This is the reason one feels they are walking on egg shells constantly with the narcissist. There is never a sense of openness and one never knows when the next covert attitude or action will emerge. Happy smiles and loving embraces are absent from the every day existence of the narcissist. There is always an underlying stance of gloom when in their presence, unless they are in the spotlight.

We know when these things are happening, there is an evil cloud of gloom over any conversation or interaction with a narcissist. There is never a sense of genuineness, light-hearted joy is absent from an encounter with a narcissist.

The need to be best, first and most is so strong with the narcissist that they tread very lightly in revealing truth about themselves, so much so that they will accuse others of making them walk on egg shells, when it is they that create this environment for others.

The narcissist does not share personal information or admit to flaws or struggles in themselves because they believe that others will judge them the way they judge others for even the slightest imperfection.

They are dedicated to displaying a persona that is perfect without any flaws. The Narcissist has a tendency to be harsh and legalistic, even though the things they judge others for are things they do themselves, probably because they do the same things they believe others are doing them too.

Narcissists are always hypocrites, we see this in the political realm right now as well as in families.

Romans 2:1-2 "1 You therefore have no excuse, you who pass judgment on another. For on whatever grounds you judge the other, you are condemning yourself, because you who pass judgment do the same things. 2 And we know that God’s judgment against those who do such things is based on truth.…"

A relationship with a narcissist, one who is nearly completely full of self, is tedious at best. Never knowing when the next covert attack will occur because of a "narcissistic injury", will ignite their wrath, keeps the relationship at bay.

Our world is full of narcissism these days, God describes it in 2 Timothy 3. These last days are as the days of Noah, when everyone did what was right in their own eyes and no one would listen. It is rare in our generation that someone will be willing to listen to a correction to help them learn to be a better person or even to help them avoid pitfalls.

All believers embrace correction when it is Biblical and ignore that which is not Biblical. Believers who are mature in their walk do not rage at or do revenge to, anyone who corrects us. We simply evaluate the message in the light of the Word of God and accept it or dismiss it depending on it's Scriptural validity.

Those who rage and do revenge, seemingly unconcerned in their conscience about their reaction, very likely are narcissists. One of the characteristics of a narcissist is the lack of empathy and conscience that prevents them from confessing sin or making anything better though discussion. They simple do not care about anyone else, their ego and appearance to others is utmost in their estimation.

May each one evaluate their own heart to see if there be any elements within them that need to be cleansed by Christ. May those who are not born again realize their lost state and trust Christ, desiring to be cleansed by Him, becoming a new creation.


America Hasn't Changed!

I am flabbergasted at what some believer think are "pretty dresses." I can't even place on my facebook some of the clothing that believers are calling beautiful, simply because someone famous wrote "God Bless America across the front, while there is little material covering the back.

Because this famous person was hated by Hollywood for writing "God Bless America" on her dress, so the believers defend this immoral clothing because those there words were on that dress. I considered it a form of blasphemy for someone to dress like that while calling out to their "god", not our God, to bless America while dressed like a prostitute.

Clothing that a woman would have been arrested for wearing in public 90 years ago, is considered beautiful by the modern Christian.

In one man's lifetime we, as a culture, have become so callous that we don't even notice the immorality nearly all of the culture has accepted in Hollywood. Hollywood only exists because our culture wants what they offer.

And we think things have changed just because we have a new president who will throw up a border wall. Good Grief!!!!!

GOOD GRIEF!!!!!!!

Keep Your Eyes Upon Christ

The nation has not turned away from sin and wicked behavior. Trump has been shown to be in support of the homosexual agenda, has no qualms about divorce and remarriage, since he is on his third marriage after two affairs that ended the first two marriages. He has stated that he doesn't think there is anything he need to be sorry for, when given the gospel.

Trump is God's man in the white house, but not for the reasons everyone may think. He is accelerating the events of the end times in the middle east.

No one, as I can tell, is repenting from wickedness. The porn shops still exist, the prostitution remains and even in Trumps businesses. The liquor still flows, families are still divorcing, while 2 Timothy 3 attitudes continue to grow even more intense.

Nothing has changed much, if at all, it is all an illusion to make people think they have, but everyone I know who walks in rebellion, remains in rebellion still.

We are told in 2 Timothy 3 that the mentality of evil and selfishness would continue and accelerate, I see this now and I believe God.

We are living in the last minutes before Christ will come to remove His church. Why on earth would we think anything is going to get better.

Events will not only get worse but along with this the deception will become more clever than it has ever been. Many people will be deceived into thinking our nation is on a better road, when in fact the road will get rougher but more insidious and covert.

2 Thessalonians 2:10-12 "…10 and with every wicked deception directed against those who are perishing, because they refused the love of the truth that would have saved them. 11 For this reason, God will send them a powerful delusion so that they will believe the lie, 12 in order that judgment will come upon all who have disbelieved the truth and delighted in wickedness.…"

Matthew 24:24 "24 For false Christs and false prophets will appear and perform great signs and wonders that would deceive even the elect, if that were possible. "

Keep your eyes upon Christ, not what we think is going to happen because of a momentary lull in political proceedings.