There is a false humanistic teaching that newly married couples should delay having their children until they have their fun first. This is not from God but from the devil.
Let's take a look at why it is not of God. God designed a couple who love one another to create a family. The family is the stability of the home and society.
When one is self-focused and fun-focused they will not be inclined toward the lessons and joy of accomplishment in relationships, because their desire for adventure will overpower any needs of others that develop relationships.
Just two generations ago many women were excited to start their home and their life with their husbands. They loved the thought of the job of homemaking. They were created, productive, and happy.
I probably could not count the number of times I have been minimized or mocked for making the choice to stay at home, as so many other homemakers have experienced.
There is plenty of creativity to be expressed in the home, only those who lack creativity complain about how boring it is, they must have a boss telling them what to do in order to feel fulfilled.
The homemaker is the CEO of the household, if she is a creative person there are not enough hours in the day to accomplish all that she will be doing.
Proverbs 31 is an excellent expose on the life of the homemaker. Not only does she have excellence in her job she is seen in the community as being an asset to her husband. Because she does her job well her husband is respected in the city gates.
Ladies never allow the feminists to discourage you in your dedication to your home. Those who think you must be stupid because you work there think that because they do not do much in their home when they are there. They are "projecting" their own attitudes on to you. They are to be ignored and even pitied for their lack of understanding concerning homemaking.
Description of a Worthy Woman From God's Mouth to our Ears
10 An excellent wife, who can find her?
For her worth is far above jewels.
11 The heart of her husband trusts in her,
And he will have no lack of gain.
12 She does him good and not evil
All the days of her life.
13 She looks for wool and linen,
And works with her hands in delight.
14 She is like merchant ships;
She brings her food from afar.
15 And she rises while it is still night
And gives food to her household,
And portions to her attendants.
16 She considers a field and buys it;
From her earnings, she plants a vineyard.
17 She surrounds her waist with strength
And makes her arms strong.
18 She senses that her profit is good;
Her lamp does not go out at night.
19 She stretches out her hands to the distaff,
And her hands grasp the spindle.
20 She extends her hand to the poor,
And she stretches out her hands to the needy.
21 She is not afraid of the snow for her household,
For all her household are clothed with scarlet.
22 She makes coverings for herself;
Her clothing is fine linen and purple.
23 Her husband is known in the gates,
When he sits among the elders of the land.
24 She makes linen garments and sells them,
And supplies belts to the tradesmen.
25 Strength and dignity are her clothing,
And she smiles at the future.
26 She opens her mouth in wisdom,
And the teaching of kindness is on her tongue.
27 She watches over the activities of her household,
And does not eat the bread of idleness."
28 Her rise up and bless her;
Her husband also, and he praises her, saying:
29 “Many daughters have done nobly,
But you excel them all.”
30 Charm is deceitful and beauty is vain,
But a woman who fears the Lord, she shall be praised.
31 Give her the product of her hands,
And let her works praise her in the gates."
The Proverbs 31 woman does not leave her home 8 hours a day every day leaving her children for others to raise. She makes things and sells them but her home is her base and she is deeply attentive to the needs of all those who live there.
In order to do this big job well one must be there all the time. It must be a priority above all else.
She does not need a "paycheck" from a boss who is not her husband, she is content to be her own boss. This job was given to her by God, not by her husband. She does this job to glorify God and in so doing her husband and family are blessed.
Those who mock homemaking do not understand the fulfilling and blessed career of the dedicated homemaker. They have been brainwashed by feminists who think they cannot have value unless they leave the God-ordained career God gave them, that is the home, everything in it, and all the people there.
The devil has done a bang-up job destroying the family by removing the woman from the home for selfish pursuits. The feminist chased after glory and money to fit into the world. The strong homemakers followed Christ even in the face of the mockers and arrogant feminists.
Women have been made to feel useless and stupid if they do not have a career outside the home. Sadly it was because they were weak and not Spiritually minded that they allowed others to train them to be like the feminists.
If you are a homemaker, praise God you have not allowed the apostate church and the feminists who are there to embarrass you into abandoning what God gave you to do.
In my life, I have been accused of being a feminist for speaking my mind by those who are feminists. They say they are submissive but work outside the home, while keeping their mouth closed about spiritual matters, as though remaining silent makes them submissive.
Yes, submissive to angry husbands who do not want to hear the truth but unsubmissive to God Who told us to be bold about the truth.
God wrote the entire Bible to women as well as men. When God said to speak the truth boldly it was given to the women too. Those who remain silent in the face of sin are enabling that sin. So, the feminist has the glory of man for their spiritual silence as well as giving into the worlds wisdom to pursue a career outside of the career God commanded for the woman.
Being submissive to man to gain their love will end up being disobedience against God.
Colossians 2:8
"See to it that no one takes you captive by philosophy and empty deceit, according to human tradition, according to the elemental spirits of the world, and not according to Christ."
Proverbs 1:7
"The fear of the Lord is the beginning of knowledge; fools despise wisdom and instruction."
1 Corinthians 3:19
"For the wisdom of this world is folly with God. For it is written, “He catches the wise in their craftiness,”
Women and men alike ought to obey God in their careers, each having a different role and each role having a specific purpose. Neither role is more elevated than another, they are equal in God's eyes.
The feminists were not satisfied with doing their own thing, they had to have the approval of the world. They employed mocking and intimidation to those who did not do things their way.
This is a sure sign that they knew something was wrong with their thinking. Those who are confident in their own mind need not force others to think as they do, through ungodly manipulation.
Are you a homemaker? If you are, praise God, ignore the foolish feminists and continue to enjoy your creative life as you run your own home diligently.
Hallelujah, God's way is best for all.