http://www.biblicalresearchreports.com/divorceandremarriage.php#actorstate
The best explanation of divorce and remarriage that I have seen is contained in the above link.
When THE LORD, "makes one" no man can undo what He has done. This is a picture of THE LORDs’ Work and salvation of the believers. HE makes us a new creation when we repent and trust Christ; this can not be undone any more than the marriage covenant can be undone. They are both a work of God. Man can never change what God has done, we can only disobey Him, but we can never nullify His work. Can we change God's plan for the ages, His plan of salvation, His end times design, His judgments’ or wrath or His perfect will, never!!!! We have been tainted with our humanness and our culture as we seek to find excuses and loop holes around His will. We want to be free to do as we please without guilt, so we change what He said and pretend it is real.
Can we not see the devastation in the lives of the people in our culture from the twisting and distorting of God's Word? Divorce has ended families as we used to know them. Once children knew a father and a mother living together in one home in stability. Now we see children shuffled from a father or mother who no longer live with them. They go from home to home every other week. They do not have two homes they have no home at all. The children have multiple mothers and fathers and grandparents, but feel no sense that any of it is permanent. The non-biological parent lacks the loyalty to his step children that a bio-parent would have. There is continual dis-harmony in the so called "blended" families. They are not blended at all, but are a source of devastating insecurity and loneliness. As the child watches a step parent walk off from them, hand in hand with their "real" child, while the step child feels a sense of abandonment and lovelessness. The real parent has children by their second marriage leaving the children from the first marriage feeling left out and empty and deserted, even jealous of the child who gets to live with his real parent. These lonely children become angry, seeking love where ever they can find it, no matter what destruction it may cause to others or themselves. There is a sense of desperation in their souls.
I have not experienced divorce and remarriage myself, but have watched the carnage in other people who have lived this nightmare. They have difficulty bonding to anyone or trusting anyone. They live a life of insecurity that is nearly impossible to undo their entire lives. It is only through Christ that they can overcome the desolation that has occurred because of selfish, lazy and irresponsible parents. God does not expect families to be perfect, we all have our problems because we are human, but if we stay together working through the difficulties with Christ as our focus, we have a much better stage for secure children who learn how to turn to Christ in difficulties. Children, who see conflict and a working to resolve it, are children who can learn commitment to those people and things that matter to God.
Difficulties are not to be avoided, but to be challenged head on in prayer and commitment to the Lord first and then those we love. When we realize love is a choice and an obligation we can take our duties more seriously and meet them with resolve. We can begin obeying God in this way by first ignoring our feelings, they lie to us, then searching God's Word for His way and thirdly obeying what we find there. Knowing what is right is not enough; we must obey it for it to count.
God says: "Therefore the Lord said, 'In as much as these people draw near to Me with their mouths, and honor Me with their lips, but have removed their hearts far from Me, and their fear toward Me is taught by the commandments of men.'" Isaiah 29:13
He also says: "and in vain they worship Me, teaching as doctrines the commandments of men." Matthew 15:9
God said: "For laying aside the commandments of God, you hold the traditions of men --the washing of pitchers and cups, and many other such things you do' and He said to them, "All too well you reject the commandments of God that you may keep your tradition." Mark 7:8-9
Our teachings about divorce and remarriage in today’s modern church is nothing less than heresy. It denies Gods perfect will and work and introduces false doctrine that has destroyed the family. We must stop listening to men and begin praying for God to reveal the truth as we search His word for the answers.
There will be no hope for our country, as long as we seek men rather than God for human solutions to spiritual problems.
"But seek first the kingdom of God
Let's make this our goal and resolve.
