If anyone says; "God knows my heart" while living in sin, the answer to this is clear, yes God knows you are not interested in what He wants or thinks.
One cannot claim to love someone and then proceed to do things that hurt them. Sin hurts the heart of God.
Ones heart inside of their soul cannot be separated from their outer actions.
Proverbs 20:11 "11 Even a young man is known by his actions— whether his conduct is pure and upright. "
Our actions, attitudes and inner soul are all inter connected. Our heart cannot be different from our actions.
Even our facial expressions, body language and speech tell what is on the inside of us.
Matthew 12:34 "34 You brood of vipers! How can you speak good things, when you are evil? For out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks."
If anger emerges from someone in an effort to control others, this is the very nature and character of the person, one of selfish ambition.
One who loves others are more interested in being a help and asset to them than he is in his own desires. Those who negate the needs of others for their own personal aggrandizement do not have love in their character.
Those who refuse to resolve problems for fear of having to admit their own wrong heart, do not love, they expose their heart by their responses to correction or accountability. No matter what they say, their actions, attitudes and body language give them away.
James 5:19-20
"My brothers, if anyone among you wanders from the truth and someone brings him back, let him know that whoever brings back a sinner from his wandering will save his soul from death and will cover a multitude of sins."
Friday, January 3, 2020
Kangaroo trying to break window to get in persons home!
How would you feel if you saw this at your window?
Narcissists and The Codependent Dance
This is why I am convinced that if we do not have to live with a narcissist whom we are not married to, we should get away or minimize contact with them. As the Bible says; "bad company corrupts good character." We really do take up the habits of those we hang around all the time. When we are with someone who pushes our buttons or disagrees with everything we believe its time to move on. It is common for the narcissist to poke at us all the time for the purpose of causing a problem. They just love problems they start that they can blame on you.
We Can See the Fruit
James 2:26
"For as the body apart from the spirit is dead, so also faith apart from works is dead."
Works are the evidence that we have been changed into a new creation, but the works themselves also are accompanied by an over all attitude change. Because our entire way of thinking is changed it affects our actions.
Those who say they are Christians but remain arrogant, unteachable and vengeful were probably never born again. Christ comes into a new believer and entirely changes the way they think.
The Holy Spirit convicts the born again believer of sinful attitudes, lifestyles and all actions. One can silence the Holy Spirit by refusing to listen to Him, but they will suffer the consequences of that silence.
1 Thessalonians 5:19
19 Do not quench (silence) the Spirit;
When the Holy Spirit stops speaking to the born again believer they can expect discipline that will bring them back to obedience.
Hebrews 12:5-7 "…5 And you have forgotten the exhortation that addresses you as sons: “My son, do not take lightly the discipline of the Lord, and do not lose heart when He rebukes you. 6 For the Lord disciplines the one He loves, and He chastises everyone He receives as a son.” 7 Endure suffering as discipline; God is treating you as sons. For what son is not disciplined by his father?…"
The born again believer will become ashamed of their sin when confronted by another believer.
However, one who fights, argues, exacts revenge and refuses to listen to correction is likely not born again.
Jeremiah 6:14-15 "…14 They have dressed the wound of My people with very little care, saying, ‘Peace, peace,’ when there is no peace at all. 15 Were they ashamed of the abomination they committed? No, they were not at all ashamed. They did not even know how to blush. So they will fall among the fallen; when I punish them, they will collapse,” says the LORD. "
In our day Christians have stopped correcting one another creating an atmosphere of rebellion against correction. Many in the church gathering are not born again but claim they are "Christians."
Matthew 7:15-20
A Tree and Its Fruit
15 “Beware of the false prophets, who come to you in sheep’s clothing, but inwardly are ravenous wolves.
16 You will know them by their fruits. Grapes are not gathered from thorn bushes nor figs from thistles, are they?
17 So every good tree bears good fruit, but the bad tree bears bad fruit.
18 A good tree cannot produce bad fruit, nor can a bad tree produce good fruit.
19 Every tree that does not bear good fruit is cut down and thrown into the fire.
20 So then, you will [c]know them by their fruits."
Galatians 5:22-23
"22 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness,
23 gentleness, self-control; against such things there is no law."
Pretenders will always be angry at correction as well as any talk about "pretenders." Rather than evaluating themselves they dive deeper into anger and revenge. This is a very good sign someone is a pretender never having been changed into a new creation by Christ they will defending their sin as though it were not sin.
Romans 2:7-9 "…7 To those who by perseverance in doing good seek glory, honor, and immortality, He will give eternal life. 8 But for those who are self-seeking and who reject the truth and follow wickedness, there will be wrath and anger. 9 There will be trouble and distress for every human being who does evil, first for the Jew, then for the Greek;…"
"For as the body apart from the spirit is dead, so also faith apart from works is dead."
Works are the evidence that we have been changed into a new creation, but the works themselves also are accompanied by an over all attitude change. Because our entire way of thinking is changed it affects our actions.
Those who say they are Christians but remain arrogant, unteachable and vengeful were probably never born again. Christ comes into a new believer and entirely changes the way they think.
The Holy Spirit convicts the born again believer of sinful attitudes, lifestyles and all actions. One can silence the Holy Spirit by refusing to listen to Him, but they will suffer the consequences of that silence.
1 Thessalonians 5:19
19 Do not quench (silence) the Spirit;
When the Holy Spirit stops speaking to the born again believer they can expect discipline that will bring them back to obedience.
Hebrews 12:5-7 "…5 And you have forgotten the exhortation that addresses you as sons: “My son, do not take lightly the discipline of the Lord, and do not lose heart when He rebukes you. 6 For the Lord disciplines the one He loves, and He chastises everyone He receives as a son.” 7 Endure suffering as discipline; God is treating you as sons. For what son is not disciplined by his father?…"
The born again believer will become ashamed of their sin when confronted by another believer.
However, one who fights, argues, exacts revenge and refuses to listen to correction is likely not born again.
Jeremiah 6:14-15 "…14 They have dressed the wound of My people with very little care, saying, ‘Peace, peace,’ when there is no peace at all. 15 Were they ashamed of the abomination they committed? No, they were not at all ashamed. They did not even know how to blush. So they will fall among the fallen; when I punish them, they will collapse,” says the LORD. "
In our day Christians have stopped correcting one another creating an atmosphere of rebellion against correction. Many in the church gathering are not born again but claim they are "Christians."
Matthew 7:15-20
A Tree and Its Fruit
15 “Beware of the false prophets, who come to you in sheep’s clothing, but inwardly are ravenous wolves.
16 You will know them by their fruits. Grapes are not gathered from thorn bushes nor figs from thistles, are they?
17 So every good tree bears good fruit, but the bad tree bears bad fruit.
18 A good tree cannot produce bad fruit, nor can a bad tree produce good fruit.
19 Every tree that does not bear good fruit is cut down and thrown into the fire.
20 So then, you will [c]know them by their fruits."
Galatians 5:22-23
"22 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness,
23 gentleness, self-control; against such things there is no law."
Pretenders will always be angry at correction as well as any talk about "pretenders." Rather than evaluating themselves they dive deeper into anger and revenge. This is a very good sign someone is a pretender never having been changed into a new creation by Christ they will defending their sin as though it were not sin.
Romans 2:7-9 "…7 To those who by perseverance in doing good seek glory, honor, and immortality, He will give eternal life. 8 But for those who are self-seeking and who reject the truth and follow wickedness, there will be wrath and anger. 9 There will be trouble and distress for every human being who does evil, first for the Jew, then for the Greek;…"
The Narcissist vs The Humble Born Again Believer
Narcissists are very good at accusing others of what the narcissists are doing and the others are not. the reason for this is because they believe everyone is just like them.
The narcissist lies on a regular basis so they believe others are lying when they are not.
The narcissist has a grandiose view of their own physical health so they will think others are lying when they are in pain or having a problem of any sort. Often they feel bothered when someone near them is ill or has a need. You will find them never available for those in need unless it elevates them in some way.
The narcissist will never do a kind act unless it can be seen by or boasted of to others. They expect grandiose adulation whenever they do a good deed.
The Bible is very clear that our good deeds should be done without fanfare. If we make a point of informing others of our good deeds then we have lost a reward in heaven.
Matthew 6:1-2 "1 Be careful not to perform your righteous acts before men to be seen by them. If you do, you will have no reward from your Father in heaven. 2 So when you give to the needy, do not sound a trumpet before you, as the hypocrites do in the synagogues and on the streets, to be honored by men. Truly I tell you, they already have their full reward.…"
There are many lovely unsung people who have served God faithfully all their lives with almost no one knowing it. In fact the narcissists will see their good deeds and call them foolish. The narcissists will also often claim the others do not do good deeds. The man or woman of God has such love for God and others that they do not parade their good deeds in front of mankind.
The narcissist, because of self focus does not realize their boasting about helping someone else hurts the one they help. It makes them feel like a means to an end and an object being used for the self glory of the server.
The most genuine acts of love and kindness are those no one knows about, the ones that were done out of God's love without an agenda for self glorification.
Perhaps many loving people will have rewards in heaven they did not expect because they were not looking for them, they were merely caring deeply about someone without any thought of gaining anything for themselves.
On several occasions in my life I have experienced those who boast about their good deeds. I cannot express the discomfort I felt as I listened to their boasting. Perhaps there was discomfort because I had no way of knowing if what they were telling me was actually true. Many people who boast embellish the stories they tell so they come out the special one.
It is not bad to share with a close friend the things we are doing, especially if they will pray and support what God is telling us to do. However it is entirely another thing to boast to just anyone to gain praise from them.
If we are still becoming excited about our good deeds then there is more work needed in us. Those who do good deeds to please God don't think about what they do, they are too focused on the need of the person to spend any time on how good they feel about themselves. True servers are too focused on the needs of others to notice their own feelings.
Matthew 6:5
"And when you pray, do not be like the hypocrites. For they love to pray standing in the synagogues and on the street corners to be seen by men. Truly I tell you, they already have their full reward."
The narcissist lies on a regular basis so they believe others are lying when they are not.
The narcissist has a grandiose view of their own physical health so they will think others are lying when they are in pain or having a problem of any sort. Often they feel bothered when someone near them is ill or has a need. You will find them never available for those in need unless it elevates them in some way.
The narcissist will never do a kind act unless it can be seen by or boasted of to others. They expect grandiose adulation whenever they do a good deed.
The Bible is very clear that our good deeds should be done without fanfare. If we make a point of informing others of our good deeds then we have lost a reward in heaven.
Matthew 6:1-2 "1 Be careful not to perform your righteous acts before men to be seen by them. If you do, you will have no reward from your Father in heaven. 2 So when you give to the needy, do not sound a trumpet before you, as the hypocrites do in the synagogues and on the streets, to be honored by men. Truly I tell you, they already have their full reward.…"
There are many lovely unsung people who have served God faithfully all their lives with almost no one knowing it. In fact the narcissists will see their good deeds and call them foolish. The narcissists will also often claim the others do not do good deeds. The man or woman of God has such love for God and others that they do not parade their good deeds in front of mankind.
The narcissist, because of self focus does not realize their boasting about helping someone else hurts the one they help. It makes them feel like a means to an end and an object being used for the self glory of the server.
The most genuine acts of love and kindness are those no one knows about, the ones that were done out of God's love without an agenda for self glorification.
Perhaps many loving people will have rewards in heaven they did not expect because they were not looking for them, they were merely caring deeply about someone without any thought of gaining anything for themselves.
On several occasions in my life I have experienced those who boast about their good deeds. I cannot express the discomfort I felt as I listened to their boasting. Perhaps there was discomfort because I had no way of knowing if what they were telling me was actually true. Many people who boast embellish the stories they tell so they come out the special one.
It is not bad to share with a close friend the things we are doing, especially if they will pray and support what God is telling us to do. However it is entirely another thing to boast to just anyone to gain praise from them.
If we are still becoming excited about our good deeds then there is more work needed in us. Those who do good deeds to please God don't think about what they do, they are too focused on the need of the person to spend any time on how good they feel about themselves. True servers are too focused on the needs of others to notice their own feelings.
Matthew 6:5
"And when you pray, do not be like the hypocrites. For they love to pray standing in the synagogues and on the street corners to be seen by men. Truly I tell you, they already have their full reward."
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