Narcissists Know they are being Unkind

Narcissists know they are treating their target disrespectfully. If they didn't know they would listen when told how disrespectful they are and perhaps even be more careful next time.

However, instead of correcting their attitude they rage in anger or the vulnerable narcissist will cry as though they are the victim.

One thing they never do is admit or apologize for their disrespect and disregard.

God intended for us to tell the truth to one another so that we can grow and change. Very few people grow and change because no one is telling them their flaws that need correcting.

The narcissist is claiming flaws in others that really belong to themselves. They lay all their bad attitudes and disrespectful ways at the feet of others who do not act the way the narcissist does.

Because of the nature of narcissism and their need to be superior, they must always come out on top, ahead of the class, and never wrong in any given situation.

Born-again believers apologize often over the smallest matters because they hate hurting others. Narcissists don't care if they agitate and demean others, in fact, it is food for them.

Narcissists will only feign compassion or caring when it offers them something, as soon as it no longer works for them they will quickly revert to their old angry selves.

Narcissists are angry on the inside all the time without realizing it. They are easily offended because of this ever-present resentment. No one blows up at minor things unless there is already vexation raging inside. Fear dominates the heart of the narcissist.

Proverbs 22:24-25 " 24 Do not make friends with an angry man and do not associate with a hot-tempered man, 25 or you may learn his ways and entangle yourself in a snare.…"

Proverbs 29:22-27

"An angry man stirs up strife, And a hot-tempered man abounds in transgression. A man’s pride will bring him low, But a humble spirit will obtain honor. He who is a partner with a thief hates his own life; He hears the oath but tells nothing. The fear of man brings a snare, But he who trusts in the LORD will be exalted. Many seek the ruler’s favor, But justice for man comes from the LORD. An unjust man is abominable to the righteous, And he who is upright in the way is abominable to the wicked."

God always contrasts the wicked with the righteous so that we can see a clear difference between the ways of Christ and the ways of the devil.

Expect the Devil to Come Against You with his Tricks

From Apply God's Word Video:

"1. A person with demonic influence will use lies that lead to unrighteous living.

2. A person with demonic influence will be marked by never-ending conflict.

3. A person with demonic influence will do whatever they can to distract you and pull you away from God.

4. A person with demonic influence will seek to diminish your love for other people." Unquote

Expect to have every trick leveled against you if you are walking with Christ, AND expect those doing it to be those you might have expected to love you.

Drama is a favored tactic of the devil. people becoming irritated and even angry over the silliest things that could normally be easily ignored or should have been no problem at all.

The purpose of these attacks of silly drama is to distract us from God. The devil wants to drag us into nonsense that will ruin our character or our influence as believers.

If your walk with Christ has been diminished when in company with those who love their drama and superior attitude it is time to limit time with them if not total no-contact.

Those who love Christ and walk on the same path with us will encourage us to love others in God's way. They will not be constantly questioning everything to find out what to criticize but will share in love their thoughts openly to encourage in the ways of God.

It is important to remember that modern Christianity trains its people they must never walk away from someone, but Christ tells us in His word those people we should walk away from.

2 Timothy 3:1-5, Proverbs 22:24-25. Proverbs 17:4, Psalm 1, Proverbs 4:14, Proverbs 16:17-33.

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1Dorla Patterson

Jesus Christ never argued with a fool!

Matthew 7:6 "Do not give what is holy to dogs, and do not throw your pearls before pigs, or they will trample them under their feet, and turn and tear you to pieces."

Proverbs 9:8

"Do not rebuke a mocker, or he will hate you; rebuke a wise man, and he will love you."

Proverbs 23:9

"Do not speak to a fool, for he will despise the wisdom of your words."

Proverbs 26:4

"Do not answer a fool according to his folly, or you yourself will be like him."

Matthew 15:26

"But Jesus replied, "It is not right to take the children's bread and toss it to the dogs."

We are the children and the dogs are those who are scoffers and mockers.

Revelation 22:15

"But outside are the dogs, the sorcerers, the sexually immoral, the murderers, the idolaters, and everyone who loves and practices falsehood."

Matthew 10:14,15

"And whosoever shall not receive you, nor hear your words, when ye depart out of that house or city, shake off the dust of your feet…"

We always have love in our hearts for anyone, however, we do them and ourselves no good by tolerating ungodly foolishness. As we shake the dust from our feet, we pray for their salvation.

Hallelujah for the freedom we have in Christ. We are not in bondage to the reactions or antics of others, because we are a bondservent of Christ.

Do Not Continue with a Foolish Arguer

There will be those who are arguers, they love to keep a discussion about nothing going forever. Once you realize what is happening allow them to have the last word and exit the conversation with them and speak to the others who are watching.

The tactics of arguers are as follows:

They claim things you did not say and deny things you did say. I have had arguers claim I gave no scripture when there were several passages presented.

When they cannot win over the scriptures they will accuse us of bad character without knowing anything about us. Their aim is to cause others to distrust us, arguing nonsense and accusations are effective with some people because it brings out frustration causing them to answer silly things, and making them look silly too.

Proverbs 26:4-5 " 4 Do not answer a fool according to his folly, or you yourself will be like him. 5 Answer a fool according to his folly, lest he become wise in his own eyes.…"

Do not engage with a fool by answering every accusation, stay on the topic and exit the conversation when they continue with silly banter. The more we engage with a fool the more we end up sounding just like them.

We can stay on topic and ignore the accusations, these are tactics of the devil to draw us into foolish banter, the longer we engage with these people the less credible we become, the devil knows this and why he uses it.

Everyone I have known who loves the truth of God's Word has encountered this, the devil sends them to cause division and doubt in others who are watching, do not let him win by continuing with the fool.

Be Led by the Holy Spirit not by any Man

The whole one-man-paid-pastor system is not biblical and comes from the model of the priests in the Catholic church.

No one leading in a church gathering has authority over anyone else. The word "pastor" is not a title or a position, it is a calling and they are to lead by example and by teaching.

The only authority over the born-again believer is the Holy Spirit. If the pastor had "authority" over the people then he is usurping the authority of the Holy Spirit declaring that he is the mediator between God and man just as the priests think in the Catholic church.

We are to listen to leaders as we evaluate anything they say according to the Bible and correct them when they stray. They are not above correction and even discipline if they will not listen to their brothers and sisters in the gathering.

The problem with the one-man-paid-pastor system is that it assumes that a man educated by other men in formal schooling automatically is filled with the Spirit. This causes them to be seen by the congregation as the authority over someone else. Most do not allow the congregation to challenge them because they see themselves as above the brothers and sisters.

The only One above all the believers is the Holy Spirit of Jesus Christ Who lives in every believer.

Anyone who has the Holy Spirit has the mandate to question all things spoken by others and challenge them if they stray from Biblical teachings and most everyone does at one time or another.

1 Peter 5:2-4 "…2 Be shepherds of God’s flock that is among you, watching over them not out of compulsion, but because it is God’s will; not out of greed, but out of eagerness; 3 not lording it over those entrusted to you, but being examples to the flock. 4 And when the Chief Shepherd appears, you will receive the crown of glory that will never fade away.…"

Leaders are not enforcers, nor are they infallible, they are men who are called to speak the truth and leave the results to the Holy Spirit in every other believer. No one is above another and all are called to a ministry of one sort or another. The "pastor" does not dictate who can minister, the Holy Spirit does that.

When God said the Holy Spirit will lead us into all truth He was speaking to every born-again believer.

John 15:13 "

"But when He, the Spirit of truth, comes, He will guide you into all the truth; for He will not speak on His own, but whatever He hears, He will speak; and He will disclose to you what is to come."

Luke 12:12 "12 For at that time the Holy Spirit will teach you what you should say.”

Just as the Holy Spirit went before the apostles and disciples he goes before us now because He lives in us. We can trust His word and count on Him for understanding when we ask Him for wisdom in all matters.

James 1:4-6 "…4 Allow perseverance to finish its work, so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything. 5 Now if any of you lacks wisdom, he should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to him. 6 But he must ask in faith, without doubting, because he who doubts is like a wave of the sea, blown and tossed by the wind.…"

The Bible was written TO specific people but it was written FOR all of us. We have all become evangelists, teachers, preachers and everything else led by the Holy Spirit when He came to live in us.

Hebrews 5:12-14

"12 For though by this time you ought to be teachers, you have need again for someone to teach you the elementary principles of the actual words of God, and you have come to need milk and not solid food.

13 For everyone who partakes only of milk is unacquainted with the word of righteousness, for he is an infant.

14 But solid food is for the mature, who because of practice have their senses trained to distinguish between good and evil."

The beauty of the Holy Spirit and the Bible is that anyone who asks for wisdom can have it without the prejudices of teachers and men who love their pride. We are called to listen to the Holy Spirit first as men speak. If the Spirit warns us then we are to warn others.

1 Thessalonians 5:13-15 "14 And we urge you, brothers, to admonish the unruly, encourage the fainthearted, help the weak, and be patient with everyone. 15 Make sure that no one repays evil for evil. Always pursue what is good for one another and for all people.…"

All of the Scriptures were written for all born-again believers. We must seek Christ in us for our calling and we must speak boldly when the Holy Spirit leads us into truth.