You know there has been gossip when a family member takes pictures of you and your spouse separately and only post your spouse's pictures and not yours. LOL
I hear these kind of stories all the time from those who have been rejected by family members. Sadly the one rejected doesn't know why they have been rejected or ignored, but they do know how much it hurts.
When I question those who have experienced this I always have to ask, "is this person who rejected you considered a part of the "in crowd"? Do they dress like the world, play a lot, hangout in all the right venues and have friends who also are involved in all the acceptable events and activities?
Almost all of the time the answer comes back, yes, those who reject them are what I might call "the clique." These are the same kind of people who were the popular ones in high school.
Since many of us never fit into the clique we will not be considered valuable enough to be included. In fact, we are down right embarrassing to the clique, since we don't fall into all the latest fads, we don't dress like the world and we don't even think the same way.
As a believer in Christ do you find yourself disagreeing with much of what others are saying and doing? This is an indicator that you think on your own, outside of the box. When others are cooing over the need for self esteem and self exaltation, you are speaking Bibleeze. You are speaking things from the word while those who reject us are holding fast to the worldly ideas and unbiblical concepts.
I am here to encourage you!! When we are rejected by family members, treated as insignificant or strange, remember that Christ was too and all of his followers. One day we will see the love we missed on this earth turned into an eternity of nothing but love and kindness never ending.
We can be grateful that the Lord has given us social media where we can meet one another, sharing our life experiences and God's answers to them.
If you find yourself being treated with contempt and left out often, remember that the reason is not that there is something wrong with us, but that something is terribly wrong with the world. The world will love its own, they do not love those who love Christ.
John 15:18-20 "18 If the world hates you, understand that it hated Me first. 19 If you were of the world, it would love you as its own. Instead, the world hates you, because you are not of the world, but I have chosen you out of the world. 20 Remember the word that I spoke to you: ‘No servant is greater than his master.’ If they persecuted Me, they will persecute you as well; if they kept My word, they will keep yours as well.…"
Be encouraged rejected brothers and sisters God is on our side and will never leave us.
Monday, July 23, 2018
Another Characteristic of a Narcissist
Taken from an article by Preston Ni M.S.B.A.
5. Emotional Invalidation and Coercion
Although narcissists and gaslighters can be (but are not always) physically abusive, for the majority of their victims, emotional suffering is where the damage is most painfully felt. Both narcissists and gaslighters enjoy spreading and arousing negative emotions in order to feel powerful, and keep you insecure and off-balance. They habitually invalidate others’ thoughts, feelings, and priorities, showing little remorse for causing people in their lives pain. They often blame their victims for having caused their own victimization (“You wouldn’t get yelled at if you weren’t so stupid!”).
In addition, many narcissists and gaslighters have unpredictable mood swings and are prone to emotional drama — you never know what might displease them and set them off. They become upset at any signs of independence and self-affirmation (“Who do you think you are!?”). They turn agitated if you disagree with their views or fail to meet their expectations. As mentioned earlier, they are sensitive to criticism, but quick to judge others. By keeping you down and making you feel inferior, they boost their fragile ego, and feel more reassured about themselves.
5. Emotional Invalidation and Coercion
Although narcissists and gaslighters can be (but are not always) physically abusive, for the majority of their victims, emotional suffering is where the damage is most painfully felt. Both narcissists and gaslighters enjoy spreading and arousing negative emotions in order to feel powerful, and keep you insecure and off-balance. They habitually invalidate others’ thoughts, feelings, and priorities, showing little remorse for causing people in their lives pain. They often blame their victims for having caused their own victimization (“You wouldn’t get yelled at if you weren’t so stupid!”).
In addition, many narcissists and gaslighters have unpredictable mood swings and are prone to emotional drama — you never know what might displease them and set them off. They become upset at any signs of independence and self-affirmation (“Who do you think you are!?”). They turn agitated if you disagree with their views or fail to meet their expectations. As mentioned earlier, they are sensitive to criticism, but quick to judge others. By keeping you down and making you feel inferior, they boost their fragile ego, and feel more reassured about themselves.
A Characteristic of the Narcissist
Taken from an article written by Preston Ni M.S.B.A.
2. Rarely Admit Flaws and Are Highly Aggressive When Criticized
Many narcissists and gaslighters have thin skin and can react poorly when called to account for their negative behavior. When challenged, the narcissist is likely to either fight (e.g., temper tantrum, excuse-making, denial, blame, hypersensitivity, etc.) or take flight (bolt out the door, avoidance, silent treatment, sulking resentment, or other forms of passive-aggression). The gaslighter nearly always resorts to escalation by doubling or tripling down on their false accusations or coercions, to intimidate or oppress their opponent. Many gaslighters view relationships as inherently competitive rather than collaborative; a zero-sum game where one is either a winner or a loser, on top or at the bottom. “Offense is the best defense” is a mantra for many gaslighters, which also represents their aggressive method of relating to people.
2. Rarely Admit Flaws and Are Highly Aggressive When Criticized
Many narcissists and gaslighters have thin skin and can react poorly when called to account for their negative behavior. When challenged, the narcissist is likely to either fight (e.g., temper tantrum, excuse-making, denial, blame, hypersensitivity, etc.) or take flight (bolt out the door, avoidance, silent treatment, sulking resentment, or other forms of passive-aggression). The gaslighter nearly always resorts to escalation by doubling or tripling down on their false accusations or coercions, to intimidate or oppress their opponent. Many gaslighters view relationships as inherently competitive rather than collaborative; a zero-sum game where one is either a winner or a loser, on top or at the bottom. “Offense is the best defense” is a mantra for many gaslighters, which also represents their aggressive method of relating to people.
Hang On to Truth
So many people say they are Bible believing but violate more of God's word than they obey, even fighting to defend their false doctrine.
2 Timothy 4:2-4 "…2 Preach the word; be prepared in season and out of season; reprove, rebuke, and encourage with every form of patient instruction. 3 For the time will come when men will not tolerate sound doctrine, but with itching ears they will gather around themselves teachers to suit their own desires. 4 So they will turn their ears away from the truth and turn aside to myths.…"
Some of those myths are the acceptance of divorce and remarriage, interpreting scripture in terms of the culture instead of what God meant, self esteem, Christian yoga, the incorporation of pagan practices into the gatherings, Christians dating non-believers, one man pastorship and much more.
There is very little that goes on in the church today that resembles the first century gatherings of born again believes.
The only remedy for this is for each person to ask God for truth even if it means leaving behind things you have believed all your lives. Even if the famous educated preachers are teaching something, if the Holy Spirit is telling you something different, then you must ignore those preachers and go with the Holy Spirit.
John 16:12-14 "…12 I still have much to tell you, but you cannot yet bear to hear it. 13 However, when the Spirit of truth comes, He will guide you into all truth. For He will not speak on His own, but He will speak what He hears, and He will declare to you what is to come. 14 He will glorify Me by taking from what is Mine and disclosing it to you.…"
Jeremiah 23:16 "16 This is what the LORD Almighty says: “Do not listen to what the prophets are prophesying to you; they fill you with false hopes. They speak visions from their own minds, not from the mouth of the LORD."
Preachers today are often speaking what the hearers want to hear not what God says.
Seek God not man!!!!! Hang onto what God tells you even if everyone else around you is mocking and demeaning you.
2 Timothy 4:2-4 "…2 Preach the word; be prepared in season and out of season; reprove, rebuke, and encourage with every form of patient instruction. 3 For the time will come when men will not tolerate sound doctrine, but with itching ears they will gather around themselves teachers to suit their own desires. 4 So they will turn their ears away from the truth and turn aside to myths.…"
Some of those myths are the acceptance of divorce and remarriage, interpreting scripture in terms of the culture instead of what God meant, self esteem, Christian yoga, the incorporation of pagan practices into the gatherings, Christians dating non-believers, one man pastorship and much more.
There is very little that goes on in the church today that resembles the first century gatherings of born again believes.
The only remedy for this is for each person to ask God for truth even if it means leaving behind things you have believed all your lives. Even if the famous educated preachers are teaching something, if the Holy Spirit is telling you something different, then you must ignore those preachers and go with the Holy Spirit.
John 16:12-14 "…12 I still have much to tell you, but you cannot yet bear to hear it. 13 However, when the Spirit of truth comes, He will guide you into all truth. For He will not speak on His own, but He will speak what He hears, and He will declare to you what is to come. 14 He will glorify Me by taking from what is Mine and disclosing it to you.…"
Jeremiah 23:16 "16 This is what the LORD Almighty says: “Do not listen to what the prophets are prophesying to you; they fill you with false hopes. They speak visions from their own minds, not from the mouth of the LORD."
Preachers today are often speaking what the hearers want to hear not what God says.
Seek God not man!!!!! Hang onto what God tells you even if everyone else around you is mocking and demeaning you.
Their Flaws are their Demons
Narcissists are not just human personalities with flaws, they are demonically influenced and often controlled by demons.
2 Timothy 3:1-5 explains the traits of the end times people. They will be so vicious that they will and are now elevating self love and arrogance as a positive trait rather than something to repent over.
2 Timothy 3:1-5
"This know also, that in the last days perilous times shall come.
2 For men shall be lovers of their own selves, covetous, boasters, proud, blasphemers, disobedient to parents, unthankful, unholy,
3 Without natural affection, trucebreakers, false accusers, incontinent, fierce, despisers of those that are good,
4 Traitors, heady, highminded, lovers of pleasures more than lovers of God;
5 Having a form of godliness, but denying the power thereof: from such turn away."
Many families are being influenced by the demons in their minds. This is the way the devil operated in the garden of Eden when he deceived Eve into partaking of the fruit that would be her downfall. The fruit that would cause her to lose everything. By everything I mean not only a beautiful and comfortable place to live but also her relationship with God and with her husband.
When the culture begins to defend homosexuality, trans-gender and other deviant behaviors, we know that this is the work of devils who are influencing unregenerate minds.
The people who promote and indulge in these deviant behaviors think they are having their own thoughts, but they are not! The devils are convincing people of things that are not only irrational but very destructive toward those who obey them and those in their own families.
The devil was able to destroy families through the acceptance of divorce and remarriage, through abortion, through the legalization of drugs that were once considered very dangerous are now being legalized. The devil has destroyed families and the entire culture through the teaching of self esteem.
If the devil can get people to believe good about bad things, then he has managed to turn many against God and against God's people. The most diabolical about the devil's tactics are to cause everyone to fight with one another over silly and petty, even irrational things.
One of the tactics of the devil is to divert attention away from truth in the church through the extraction of scripture from its context. Many people in the church will fight to defend that which is not truth because it justifies their desires of life.
The desire to fit into popular opinions of famous people, the desire to be accepted and elevated in the eyes of family members often motivates superficial believers to endorse sin and acts of rebellion. The thought of being rejected by family drives the superficial Christian to adopt the ways of ungodly pretenders within the church.
1 John 2:15-17
"Do not love the world or the things in the world. If anyone loves the world, the love of the Father is not in him. For all that is in the world—the desires of the flesh and the desires of the eyes and pride in possessions—is not from the Father but is from the world. And the world is passing away along with its desires, but whoever does the will of God abides forever."
When we love God above everything and everyone else we will be rejected by those who love the world, even those in the church.
Ephesians 5:11
"Take no part in the unfruitful works of darkness, but instead expose them."
Titus 2:11-12
"For the grace of God has appeared, bringing salvation for all people, training us to renounce ungodliness and worldly passions, and to live self-controlled, upright, and godly lives in the present age,"
2 Timothy 3:1-5 explains the traits of the end times people. They will be so vicious that they will and are now elevating self love and arrogance as a positive trait rather than something to repent over.
2 Timothy 3:1-5
"This know also, that in the last days perilous times shall come.
2 For men shall be lovers of their own selves, covetous, boasters, proud, blasphemers, disobedient to parents, unthankful, unholy,
3 Without natural affection, trucebreakers, false accusers, incontinent, fierce, despisers of those that are good,
4 Traitors, heady, highminded, lovers of pleasures more than lovers of God;
5 Having a form of godliness, but denying the power thereof: from such turn away."
Many families are being influenced by the demons in their minds. This is the way the devil operated in the garden of Eden when he deceived Eve into partaking of the fruit that would be her downfall. The fruit that would cause her to lose everything. By everything I mean not only a beautiful and comfortable place to live but also her relationship with God and with her husband.
When the culture begins to defend homosexuality, trans-gender and other deviant behaviors, we know that this is the work of devils who are influencing unregenerate minds.
The people who promote and indulge in these deviant behaviors think they are having their own thoughts, but they are not! The devils are convincing people of things that are not only irrational but very destructive toward those who obey them and those in their own families.
The devil was able to destroy families through the acceptance of divorce and remarriage, through abortion, through the legalization of drugs that were once considered very dangerous are now being legalized. The devil has destroyed families and the entire culture through the teaching of self esteem.
If the devil can get people to believe good about bad things, then he has managed to turn many against God and against God's people. The most diabolical about the devil's tactics are to cause everyone to fight with one another over silly and petty, even irrational things.
One of the tactics of the devil is to divert attention away from truth in the church through the extraction of scripture from its context. Many people in the church will fight to defend that which is not truth because it justifies their desires of life.
The desire to fit into popular opinions of famous people, the desire to be accepted and elevated in the eyes of family members often motivates superficial believers to endorse sin and acts of rebellion. The thought of being rejected by family drives the superficial Christian to adopt the ways of ungodly pretenders within the church.
1 John 2:15-17
"Do not love the world or the things in the world. If anyone loves the world, the love of the Father is not in him. For all that is in the world—the desires of the flesh and the desires of the eyes and pride in possessions—is not from the Father but is from the world. And the world is passing away along with its desires, but whoever does the will of God abides forever."
When we love God above everything and everyone else we will be rejected by those who love the world, even those in the church.
Ephesians 5:11
"Take no part in the unfruitful works of darkness, but instead expose them."
Titus 2:11-12
"For the grace of God has appeared, bringing salvation for all people, training us to renounce ungodliness and worldly passions, and to live self-controlled, upright, and godly lives in the present age,"
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