When encountering a narcissist, it is common to think we have done something wrong, even when we had done something kind to the narcissist, they will act as though we had done something wrong.
One way to evaluate if we are the one who caused trouble, is to ask God first and then evaluate what actually happened. When I have been wrong the Holy Spirit tells me, I cannot rest until I have made it right. However, when I can't figure out what I did and the narcissist refuses to engage in conversation about what happened, then I know I probably was not at fault.
One of the tactics of a narcissist is to deliberately refuse to work something out to help us understand, they know they are guilty and they enjoy the contempt and power they receive from keeping us, in their minds, in a one down position, while holding onto their false ideas about us.
The only solution to this problem of deliberate lack of communication to fix a matter is to remove ourselves from the relationship, if this occurs on a regular basis, go to prayer and wait for God to tell us when to begin contact again.
Without HONEST communication and the DESIRE TO RECONCILE a relationship, there can be no fellowship. True friends are grieved when there is a misunderstanding and desire to make things right, especially when they have been convicted of sin against another person. A godly friend will feel terrible that things are not pleasing to their friend, or that their friend is grieving over something.
A narcissist enjoys watching their target grieve, even getting a high from it. It is a devilish response to the plight of others. The only time a narcissist will help another person, is if it makes them elevated in the eyes of onlookers. Narcissists hardly ever do covert and hidden acts of kindness, there is always an audience.
Satan can keep us continually on the defensive all the time for no good reason, by using contentious people to unnerve us. In 2 Timothy 3:1-5 God tells us clearly to disengage with these people.
2 Timothy 3:1-5
"3 But realize this, that in the last days difficult times will come.
2 For men will be lovers of self, lovers of money, boastful, arrogant, revilers, disobedient to parents, ungrateful, unholy,
3 unloving, irreconcilable, malicious gossips, without self-control, brutal, haters of good,
4 treacherous, reckless, conceited, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God,
5 holding to a form of [b]godliness, although they have denied its power; AVOID SUCH MEN AS THESE."
Proverbs 26:21 "Like charcoal to hot embers and wood to fire, So is a contentious man to kindle strife."
2 Timothy 2:23-25 "Have nothing to do with foolish, ignorant controversies; you know that they breed quarrels. And the Lord's servant must not be quarrelsome but kind to everyone, able to teach, patiently enduring evil, correcting his opponents with gentleness. God may perhaps grant them repentance leading to a knowledge of the truth,"
Proverbs 16:28 "A dishonest man spreads strife, and a whisperer separates close friends."
James 4:1-3 "What is the source of quarrels and conflicts among you? Is not the source your pleasures that wage war in your members? You lust and do not have; so you commit murder. You are envious and cannot obtain; so you fight and quarrel. You do not have because you do not ask. You ask and do not receive, because you ask with wrong motives, so that you may spend it on your pleasures. "
The narcissist will also work to turn others against us by their relaying of false information based on their twisted view because of their contempt for us. Remember when Christ was accused of "claiming He was god", when He really is God. He went to the cross because evil men accused Him of things, much of them were lies against Him. They denied His good deeds much like the narcissist will deny our good deeds. The Pharisees were so full of themselves that they could not admit that there was One greater than themselves. They oppressed everyone under their authority needlessly simply to control them.
The apostles were martyred because they were believers not because they did anything wrong but because they did what was righteous.
Proverbs 26:20 "For lack of wood the fire goes out, and where there is no whisperer, quarreling ceases."
When we remove the contentious and contemptuous person from our lives the peace and joy that we were robbed of, returns in abundance.
We will encounter many more of these types as the time gets closer to the Lord's return. We do not avoid completely all people who are this way, that would be impossible, however, we do not allow them to linger in our lives continually causing problems, which only would help to validate them. We must seek the Lord in when to remove them if it is His Will.
No one learns without consequences, far too often in our culture there is no discipline for bad behavior or the discipline is so mild that lessons are not learned. Because of our indulgent mentality, we have failed to teach good Christian principles while raising up monsters who are demanding and contribute little.
2 Corinthians 12:20-21 " 20 For I am afraid that perhaps when I come I may find you to be not what I wish and may be found by you to be not what you wish; that perhaps there will be strife, jealousy, angry tempers, disputes, slanders, gossip, arrogance, disturbances;
21 I am afraid that when I come again my God may humiliate me before you, and I may mourn over many of those who have sinned in the past and not repented of the impurity, immorality and sensuality which they have practiced."
I am noticing here in 2 Corinthians that Paul wrote very boldly to the Corinthian believers, so boldly, that if spoken today, he would be summarily rejected even before he came, perhaps asked not to come.
Our culture is waxing worse and worse, if we are not aware of the tactics and manipulations we may be intimidated into silence. Let's learn the tactics of the devil, stand boldly against them and thwart them where possible through removal of ourselves from their influence.
Titus 3:10 "As for a person who stirs up division, after warning him once and then twice, have nothing more to do with him,"
Thursday, May 25, 2017
Don't Worry Just Keep Going
Don't worry about manipulators and nay sayers, just speak the truth and let go. God will take it where HE wants it to go. We like to SEE results, but we don't have to, to remain faithful to God's call, nor do we need to be validated by man to continue.
1 Corinthians 3:7-9
"7 So then neither the one who plants nor the one who waters is anything, but God who causes the growth.
8 Now he who plants and he who waters are one; but each will receive his own reward according to his own labor.
9 For we are God’s fellow workers; you are God’s field, God’s building."
1 Corinthians 3:7-9
"7 So then neither the one who plants nor the one who waters is anything, but God who causes the growth.
8 Now he who plants and he who waters are one; but each will receive his own reward according to his own labor.
9 For we are God’s fellow workers; you are God’s field, God’s building."
Excellence of Love
1 Corinthians 13
The Excellence of Love
13 If I speak with the tongues of men and of angels, but do not have love, I have become a noisy gong or a clanging cymbal.
2 If I have the gift of prophecy, and know all mysteries and all knowledge; and if I have all faith, so as to remove mountains, but do not have love, I am nothing.
3 And if I give all my possessions to feed the poor, and if I surrender my body to be burned, but do not have love, it profits me nothing.
4 Love is patient, love is kind and is not jealous; love does not brag and is not arrogant,
5 does not act unbecomingly; it does not seek its own, is not provoked, does not take into account a wrong suffered,
6 does not rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth;
7 bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
8 Love never fails; but if there are gifts of prophecy, they will be done away; if there are tongues, they will cease; if there is knowledge, it will be done away.
9 For we know in part and we prophesy in part;
10 but when the perfect comes, the partial will be done away.
11 When I was a child, I used to speak like a child, think like a child, reason like a child; when I became a man, I did away with childish things.
12 For now we see in a mirror dimly, but then face to face; now I know in part, but then I will know fully just as I also have been fully known.
13 But now faith, hope, love, abide these three; but the greatest of these is love.
The Excellence of Love
13 If I speak with the tongues of men and of angels, but do not have love, I have become a noisy gong or a clanging cymbal.
2 If I have the gift of prophecy, and know all mysteries and all knowledge; and if I have all faith, so as to remove mountains, but do not have love, I am nothing.
3 And if I give all my possessions to feed the poor, and if I surrender my body to be burned, but do not have love, it profits me nothing.
4 Love is patient, love is kind and is not jealous; love does not brag and is not arrogant,
5 does not act unbecomingly; it does not seek its own, is not provoked, does not take into account a wrong suffered,
6 does not rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth;
7 bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
8 Love never fails; but if there are gifts of prophecy, they will be done away; if there are tongues, they will cease; if there is knowledge, it will be done away.
9 For we know in part and we prophesy in part;
10 but when the perfect comes, the partial will be done away.
11 When I was a child, I used to speak like a child, think like a child, reason like a child; when I became a man, I did away with childish things.
12 For now we see in a mirror dimly, but then face to face; now I know in part, but then I will know fully just as I also have been fully known.
13 But now faith, hope, love, abide these three; but the greatest of these is love.
Flatter Earthers Have Gone Insane
Can you believe there are such a thing as "flat earthers", I am flabbergasted?
Even the word of God tell us that the earth is a circle.
Isaiah 40:21-22 "…21 Do you not know? Have you not heard? Has it not been declared to you from the beginning? Have you not understood from the foundations of the earth? 22 It is He who sits above the circle of the earth, And its inhabitants are like grasshoppers, Who stretches out the heavens like a curtain And spreads them out like a tent to dwell in. "
If anyone can show me a news story of someone falling off the edge of the earth please send it to me.
Anything these days to discredit creation and even claim it was from God, the devil is very busy!
It just goes to show that people are starting to believe anything simply because it is different and rebellious, without thinking it through and without praying about it.
In these last days the great deception will not be that hard to pull off.
Even the word of God tell us that the earth is a circle.
Isaiah 40:21-22 "…21 Do you not know? Have you not heard? Has it not been declared to you from the beginning? Have you not understood from the foundations of the earth? 22 It is He who sits above the circle of the earth, And its inhabitants are like grasshoppers, Who stretches out the heavens like a curtain And spreads them out like a tent to dwell in. "
If anyone can show me a news story of someone falling off the edge of the earth please send it to me.
Anything these days to discredit creation and even claim it was from God, the devil is very busy!
It just goes to show that people are starting to believe anything simply because it is different and rebellious, without thinking it through and without praying about it.
In these last days the great deception will not be that hard to pull off.
Tolerance of Sin is not Love
Love is not tolerant of bad behavior, it promotes good behavior by having boundaries.
Tolerating evil is not love! Requiring accountability to promote growth is love.
Tolerating evil is not love! Requiring accountability to promote growth is love.
Woe to the Rebellious
Isaiah 30:1-2 "1"Woe to the rebellious children," declares the LORD, "Who execute a plan, but not Mine, And make an alliance, but not of My Spirit, In order to add sin to sin; 2 Who proceed down to Egypt Without consulting Me, To take refuge in the safety of Pharaoh And to seek shelter in the shadow of Egypt! 3"Therefore the safety of Pharaoh will be your shame And the shelter in the shadow of Egypt, your humiliation.…"
The Advice of Wicked Church Leaders
If you claim to be a Christian and gave evil advice to a woman to look at pornography because her husband wanted her to do it, declaring that the woman must obey her husband no matter what he asks, even if it's illegal and wicked, then you are wicked and evil yourself, repent before it is too late for you.
The time for silence is over!!!!!
There are many women being abused emotionally and physically by their husbands while the church further abuses them by calling the woman evil for resisting the monstrous actions of their husbands. Women are not property to be used and abused by their husbands.
Ephesians 5:25
"25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself up for her,"
1 Peter 3:7-16
"7 You husbands in the same way, live with your wives in an understanding way, as with someone weaker, since she is a woman; and show her honor as a fellow heir of the grace of life, so that your prayers will not be hindered.
8 To sum up, all of you be harmonious, sympathetic, brotherly, kindhearted, and humble in spirit; 9 not returning evil for evil or insult for insult, but giving a blessing instead; for you were called for the very purpose that you might inherit a blessing.
10 For, “The one who desires life, to love and see good days,
Must keep his tongue from evil and his lips from speaking deceit.
11 “He must turn away from evil and do good;
He must seek peace and pursue it.
12 “For the eyes of the Lord are toward the righteous,
And His ears attend to their prayer,
But the face of the Lord is against those who do evil.”
13 Who is there to harm you if you prove zealous for what is good?
14 But even if you should suffer for the sake of righteousness, you are blessed. And do not fear their intimidation, and do not be troubled,
15 but sanctify Christ as Lord in your hearts, always being ready to make a defense to everyone who asks you to give an account for the hope that is in you, yet with gentleness and reverence;
16 and keep a good conscience so that in the thing in which you are slandered, those who revile your good behavior in Christ will be put to shame.
Sometimes a woman will suffer for resisting the evil that her husband demands that she do, but even worse often the woman is persecuted by the church she attends, through the wicked counsel of men with no heart and no scruples. These "religious" leaders are more about dominating and oppressing women than they are about obeying the word that tells the husbands to honor, protect and deeply love their wives.
Ladies, don't fall for this mess!!!! Women are to stand up for themselves when their husband wants them to do evil. Stop listening to those who oppress you through pressure to sin simply because you are a woman. I might add too, that if a church gathering you are attending belittles you while supporting the man who is evil, then you need to get out of that group, they are not on the side of righteousness but on the side of evil.
There is an evil doctrine afoot that "guilt" women into doing evil to pacify their childish, corrupt and immoral husbands. Anyone that thinks as long as they are watching pornography between a husband and wife is alright because it is a husband and wife, think of these things:
Watching other people who are not married have immoral relations, is committing adultery against your spouse.
Matthew 5:28 "28 But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman to lust after her has already committed adultery with her in his heart. "
It is sexual immorality to wish you were the one in that film or that your wife must turn into that woman on the screen. It shows your wife that you are dissatisfied with her and that she does not measure up to your personal desires.
It is dishonoring to the wife for a man to refuse to be satisfied with just her, he demeans her, mocks her and diminishes her
person-hood by exposing her to that filth, not to mention spitting in the face of God and His principles for the marriage bed.
A man is to protect his wife from all evil in the world, not only physically but also emotionally and spiritually. Any man who will not obey God in this should be put out and required to repent. If they are a believer then they should be exposed to the body of believers with whom the woman has contact. A woman who will not expose her husband is sinning and has no love for her husband. Her love ought to be so deep that she desires for him to learn righteousness instead of indulging him in filth.
Never allow a group of people or a husband to create guilt and insecurity in you by requiring you to indulge others in evil activities. The response of a woman subjected to this ought to be to confront those who oppress her, demanding that they stop their sin. If they do not, then leave their presence and never return again. One can pray for these lost and demented souls, but one does not have to remain with them.
Acts 5:29
"29 Then Peter and the other apostles answered and said, We ought to obey God rather than men."
With a husband, those who are asked to indulge in these evil films, a woman can speak the truth to her husband, if he insists then he must be required to leave until he gets his head straight with God.
It is not loving to harm the delicate sensibilities of a woman, there is no love in these acts of domination.
2 Timothy 3:1-17
"But understand this, that in the last days there will come times of difficulty. For people will be lovers of self, lovers of money, proud, arrogant, abusive, disobedient to their parents, ungrateful, unholy, heartless, unappeasable, slanderous, without self-control, brutal, not loving good, treacherous, reckless, swollen with conceit, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God, having the appearance of godliness, but denying its power. Avoid such people. ..."
Romans 8:9
"You, however, are not in the flesh but in the Spirit, if in fact the Spirit of God dwells in you. Anyone who does not have the Spirit of Christ does not belong to him."
Isaiah 59:15
"Truth is lacking, and he who departs from evil makes himself a prey. The Lord saw it, and it displeased him that there was no justice."
John 13:35
"By this all people will know that you are my disciples, if you have love for one another.”
We are living in a day when men and women are confused about right and wrong and part of the reason is the silly and unBiblical advice of so called "church leaders." Every church leader needs to be held accountable by the congregation, if they disobey the Word in their counsel then they must be rebuke, if they refuse to listen then they must be removed.
1 Corinthians 5:11 "11 But now I am writing you not to associate with anyone who claims to be a brother but is sexually immoral or greedy, an idolater or a verbal abuser, a drunkard or a swindler. With such a man do not even eat."
The time for silence is over!!!!!
There are many women being abused emotionally and physically by their husbands while the church further abuses them by calling the woman evil for resisting the monstrous actions of their husbands. Women are not property to be used and abused by their husbands.
Ephesians 5:25
"25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself up for her,"
1 Peter 3:7-16
"7 You husbands in the same way, live with your wives in an understanding way, as with someone weaker, since she is a woman; and show her honor as a fellow heir of the grace of life, so that your prayers will not be hindered.
8 To sum up, all of you be harmonious, sympathetic, brotherly, kindhearted, and humble in spirit; 9 not returning evil for evil or insult for insult, but giving a blessing instead; for you were called for the very purpose that you might inherit a blessing.
10 For, “The one who desires life, to love and see good days,
Must keep his tongue from evil and his lips from speaking deceit.
11 “He must turn away from evil and do good;
He must seek peace and pursue it.
12 “For the eyes of the Lord are toward the righteous,
And His ears attend to their prayer,
But the face of the Lord is against those who do evil.”
13 Who is there to harm you if you prove zealous for what is good?
14 But even if you should suffer for the sake of righteousness, you are blessed. And do not fear their intimidation, and do not be troubled,
15 but sanctify Christ as Lord in your hearts, always being ready to make a defense to everyone who asks you to give an account for the hope that is in you, yet with gentleness and reverence;
16 and keep a good conscience so that in the thing in which you are slandered, those who revile your good behavior in Christ will be put to shame.
Sometimes a woman will suffer for resisting the evil that her husband demands that she do, but even worse often the woman is persecuted by the church she attends, through the wicked counsel of men with no heart and no scruples. These "religious" leaders are more about dominating and oppressing women than they are about obeying the word that tells the husbands to honor, protect and deeply love their wives.
Ladies, don't fall for this mess!!!! Women are to stand up for themselves when their husband wants them to do evil. Stop listening to those who oppress you through pressure to sin simply because you are a woman. I might add too, that if a church gathering you are attending belittles you while supporting the man who is evil, then you need to get out of that group, they are not on the side of righteousness but on the side of evil.
There is an evil doctrine afoot that "guilt" women into doing evil to pacify their childish, corrupt and immoral husbands. Anyone that thinks as long as they are watching pornography between a husband and wife is alright because it is a husband and wife, think of these things:
Watching other people who are not married have immoral relations, is committing adultery against your spouse.
Matthew 5:28 "28 But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman to lust after her has already committed adultery with her in his heart. "
It is sexual immorality to wish you were the one in that film or that your wife must turn into that woman on the screen. It shows your wife that you are dissatisfied with her and that she does not measure up to your personal desires.
It is dishonoring to the wife for a man to refuse to be satisfied with just her, he demeans her, mocks her and diminishes her
person-hood by exposing her to that filth, not to mention spitting in the face of God and His principles for the marriage bed.
A man is to protect his wife from all evil in the world, not only physically but also emotionally and spiritually. Any man who will not obey God in this should be put out and required to repent. If they are a believer then they should be exposed to the body of believers with whom the woman has contact. A woman who will not expose her husband is sinning and has no love for her husband. Her love ought to be so deep that she desires for him to learn righteousness instead of indulging him in filth.
Never allow a group of people or a husband to create guilt and insecurity in you by requiring you to indulge others in evil activities. The response of a woman subjected to this ought to be to confront those who oppress her, demanding that they stop their sin. If they do not, then leave their presence and never return again. One can pray for these lost and demented souls, but one does not have to remain with them.
Acts 5:29
"29 Then Peter and the other apostles answered and said, We ought to obey God rather than men."
With a husband, those who are asked to indulge in these evil films, a woman can speak the truth to her husband, if he insists then he must be required to leave until he gets his head straight with God.
It is not loving to harm the delicate sensibilities of a woman, there is no love in these acts of domination.
2 Timothy 3:1-17
"But understand this, that in the last days there will come times of difficulty. For people will be lovers of self, lovers of money, proud, arrogant, abusive, disobedient to their parents, ungrateful, unholy, heartless, unappeasable, slanderous, without self-control, brutal, not loving good, treacherous, reckless, swollen with conceit, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God, having the appearance of godliness, but denying its power. Avoid such people. ..."
Romans 8:9
"You, however, are not in the flesh but in the Spirit, if in fact the Spirit of God dwells in you. Anyone who does not have the Spirit of Christ does not belong to him."
Isaiah 59:15
"Truth is lacking, and he who departs from evil makes himself a prey. The Lord saw it, and it displeased him that there was no justice."
John 13:35
"By this all people will know that you are my disciples, if you have love for one another.”
We are living in a day when men and women are confused about right and wrong and part of the reason is the silly and unBiblical advice of so called "church leaders." Every church leader needs to be held accountable by the congregation, if they disobey the Word in their counsel then they must be rebuke, if they refuse to listen then they must be removed.
1 Corinthians 5:11 "11 But now I am writing you not to associate with anyone who claims to be a brother but is sexually immoral or greedy, an idolater or a verbal abuser, a drunkard or a swindler. With such a man do not even eat."
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