Ladies; when we reach the judgment we will stand before the Lord on our own. God will not justify our sin with the excuse that our husbands told us to do something.
Every woman has the responsibility to counsel her husband in the way of the Lord when he is not following Christ. If she loves him she will warn him of God's judgment and appeal to him to stop the sin.
Consider the account of Annanias and Saphira! The husband and wife were both killed because they conspired together to lie to the Holy Spirit. Perhaps things would have been different if the Saphirah had warned her husband and refused to follow him in his sin. Acts 5:1-11
I do not believe a just God would killer the wife for the sins of the husband if she refused to sin with him.
Deuteronomy 24:16
“Fathers shall not be put to death because of their children, nor shall children be put to death because of their fathers. Each one shall be put to death for his own sin."
It is against the nature of God to punish someone for another person's sin. Only Christ did this because He was and is God.
If a wife and mother does not warn her husband and children of their sins, remaining silent to pretend to be the suffering submissive wife, she will be punished for her silence.
Ezekiel 3:17-19 "…17“Son of man, I have made you a watchman for the house of Israel. Whenever you hear a word from My mouth, give them a warning from Me. 18 If I say to the wicked man, ‘You will surely die,’ but you do not warn him or speak out to warn him from his wicked way to save his life, that wicked man will die in his iniquity, and I will hold you responsible for his blood. 19 But if you warn a wicked man and he does not turn from his wickedness and his wicked way, he will die in his iniquity, but you will have saved yourself.…"
God has given the job of helper and counselor to the wife. She is responsible to help the husband through her counsel if he strays from obeying the Lord.
Read the account of Abigail to see an example of this.
1 Samuel 25
We are not responsible for anyone else's sin but we are responsible to speak the truth and refuse to sin with others.
There is a saying I used to hear years ago. "if you are in the bad crowd you are the bad crowd." If you see evil happening and do nothing then you are part of the evil. Its really that simple!!!!
It is better to take your lumps from others for obeying God than to be disciplined by God for disobeying Him.