Narcissists are Convicted

Narcissists don't hate you, they hate the way you make them feel. If you elevate them they love you, if you are authentic and do not elevate them they will hate you. They will rage at the suggestion that they might not know everything and need to listen.

There is only love and hate in the narcissists realm. If we do not measure up to their idea of good which includes elevating them, then we are the object of contempt.

When we become born again not very much is about self. The narcissist is all about themselves. The authentic born again believer is able to see themselves in truth, warts as well as talents. We were not able to come to Christ unless we were broken over our sinfulness to confess it. That's why confessing is not nearly as difficult for the born again believer as it is for the narcissist. For the narcissist having to admit flaws is like a stabbing in the heart, they will not do it ever.

The narcissist cannot accept anyone who sees themselves in authenticity, the must be continually stroked to be able to function. If someone else is authentic it makes the phony narcissist very uncomfortable.

The born again believer does not have the burden of measuring up, they already know they don't measure up to Christ's standard and never could.

The narcissist sees themselves as the god of their life. They would give themselves high marks for perfection, but in order to do that they must pretend they are something they are not.

It is hard work pretending to be something one is not. Hiding is exhausting at best.

The freest life we can live is having been saved from our sin by the blood of Christ knowing that only He is righteous. Its freeing and beautiful when we can admit our flaws to move on to greater holiness. The stress of pretense does not dominate the believers life as it does the life of the narcissist.

If something is revealed about the believer they take it on the chin ready to make changes. However the narcissist struggles and fights to maintain their false persona especially when they have been discovered.

Until the narcissist is broken over their own sin and can admit it, they will not be able to grow past the bratty six year old mentality.

The narcissist can pretend kindness and compassion along with all the rest of the qualities but only because it gains them something. The born again believer loves these qualities because Christ dwells in them. The qualities come naturally without effort.

Narcissists have only their own futile human effort to demonstrate godly traits, believers have the strength of Christ and His nature to be able to effortlessly become like Him.

Colossians 3:12
"So, as those who have been chosen of God, holy and beloved, put on a heart of compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience;"

1 Peter 1:2
"according to the foreknowledge of God the Father, by the sanctifying work of the Spirit, to obey Jesus Christ and be sprinkled with His blood: May grace and peace be yours in the fullest measure."

Colossians 1:22
"yet He has now reconciled you in His fleshly body through death, in order to present you before Him holy and blameless and beyond reproach--"

Where is the Emancipation Proclamation for the Unborn!

Why have we not seen an emancipation proclamation against abortion to free them coming out of the white house? The most important issue in our country today is being ignored.

I don't care about the wall, even though I think it is a good idea.
I don't care about health care, even though it needs work.
I don't care about the economy and jobs even though it benefits all.

I care that the greatest abominations occurring in our country today are those most people are not talking about.

Some of those abominations are abortion, divorce and remarriage, shack ups, filthy movies and language, paganism celebrated in the form of astrology, yoga and much more.

The most important things are not the wall and the economy, these will fix themselves when the country repents of its sins of idolatry and murder.

You may see a temporary lull in demise of this country, but until all the rest is repented of we will continue down the slide toward immorality and ultimate rejection by God.

Think about it please!

Natural Parents and the Bond

Yes we have adopted four older children, all of whom rejected us as their parents. They saw us only as another place to live after all the foster homes. They rejected our authority, our love and were ungrateful for our provision. We have heard many testimonies like this from other adoptive parents. The anger that dwells in the older adopted children cannot be resolved with love and provision. Only Christ can resole it in their minds.

This has also applied to remarriages in which the non-bio parent is not accepted.

I have said for years that there is a spiritual connection from a natural child to their natural parent. They cannot love anyone else as a parent. Yes of course there are exceptions to this, but they are just that "exceptions."

John Wesley says this:

"The very best security that a child can sense is the love he sees between his\her real mom & dad. In covenant."

Taken From: Feeding Sheep or Amusing Goats? - Spurgeon

Feeding Sheep or Amusing Goats?
by C.H. Spurgeon

An evil is in the 'professed' camp of the Lord, so gross in its impudence, that the most shortsighted Christian can hardly fail to notice it. During the past few years this evil has developed at an alarming rate. It has worked like leaven until the whole lump ferments!

The devil has seldom done a more clever thing, than hinting to the Church that part of their mission is to provide entertainment for the people, with a view to winning them. From speaking out the gospel, the Church has gradually toned down her testimony, then winked at and excused the frivolities of the day. Then she tolerated them in her borders. Now she has adopted them under the plea of reaching the masses!

My first contention is that providing amusement for the people is nowhere spoken of in the Scriptures as a function of the Church. If it is a Christian work why did not Christ speak of it? 'Go into all the world and preach the gospel to every creature, and provide amusement for those who do not relish the gospel'.

No such words, however, are to be found. It did not seem to occur to Him. Where do entertainers come in? The Holy Spirit is silent concerning them. Were the prophets persecuted because they amused the people, or because they confronted them? The 'concert' has no martyr roll.

Again, providing amusement is in direct antagonism to the teaching and life of Christ and all His apostles. What was the attitude of the apostolic Church to the world? "You are the salt of the world", not the sugar candy; something the world will spit out, not swallow.

Had Jesus introduced more of the bright and pleasant elements into His teaching, He would have been more popular. When "many of His disciples turned back and no longer followed Him," I do not hear Him say, 'Run after these people, Peter, and tell them we will have a different style of service tomorrow; something short and attractive with little preaching. We will have a pleasant evening for the people. Tell them they will be sure to enjoy it! Be quick, Peter, we must get the people somehow!'

No! Jesus pitied sinners, sighed and wept over them, but never sought to amuse them!

In vain will the epistles be searched to find any trace of the 'gospel of amusement'. Their message is, "Therefore, come out from them and separate yourselves from them... Don't touch their filthy things..." Anything approaching amusement is conspicuous by its absence. They had boundless confidence in the gospel and employed no other weapon.

After Peter and John were locked up for preaching, the Church had a prayer meeting, but they did not pray, 'Lord, grant unto your servants that by a wise and discriminating use of innocent recreation we may show these people how happy we are'.

No! They did not cease from preaching Christ. They had no time for arranging entertainments. Scattered by persecution they went everywhere preaching the gospel. They turned the world upside down; that is the only difference from today's church.

Lastly, amusement fails to effect the end desired. Let the heavy laden who found peace through the concert not keep silent! Let the drunkard to whom the dramatic entertainment had been God's link in the chain of their conversion, stand up! There are none to answer! The mission of amusement produces no converts!

The need of the hour for today's ministry is earnest spirituality joined with Biblical doctrine, so understood and felt, that it sets men on fire.

Lord, clear the Church of all the rot and rubbish the devil has imposed on her, and bring us back to apostolic methods!