Negative People

It is really true that if you hang around negative people who are in competition with others, you will eventually become like them.

1 Corinthians 15:33 " 33 Do not be deceived: “Bad company corrupts good character.”

There have been times in my life that I found myself spending more time combating the negativity that was being thrown at me, that I found myself leaning into it all.

Want to be a person who sees things in truth and loves to be joyful, then be sure to surround yourself with those who practice and love truth.

It is not negative to proclaim something as sin or to point out a problem, it is negative to bring error and contentiousness while resisting truth.

Those who must point out error are not necessarily negative, often they are attempting to fix what is wrong, I'd call that productive and positive.

The negativity comes when others will not cooperate with those who desire a solution to a problem.

These days we live in a world that calls the problem solver the negative person, when it is the one who will not work to repair the problem who is the negative one.

We are not negative for focusing on a problem to fix it, we are problem solvers, the rub is that most people are not problem solvers when it comes to spiritual matters.

If an engineer built a bridge the way some people build their spiritual lives, the bridge would fall down with the first car to drive over it. The bridge builder who does not follow the blueprints carefully is akin to the Christian who refuses to see things in truth.

Refusing to fix problems, false doctrine, relationships and wrong attitudes only leads to destruction, just as lazy engineering leads to a dangerous bridge. We may feel alright until the results of rebellion and laziness creates a disaster that cannot be repaired.

Sadly when a problem is ignored long enough, there is no longer a solution. People become weary of dealing with foolishness, they eventually will walk away to avoid the ugliness they sense will never be any different.

1 Corinthians 3:19
"For the wisdom of this world is foolishness before God For it is written, "He is THE ONE WHO CATCHES THE WISE IN THEIR CRAFTINESS";

Jeremiah 10:21
"For the shepherds have become stupid And have not sought the LORD; Therefore they have not prospered, And all their flock is scattered.

Their Silence is Deafening

There is a tactic that the narcissist uses to further demean their target, for the purpose of controlling.

Sometimes is it almost comical, that the narcissist is so full of themselves that they believe we are going to agonize over their absence, sometimes there is that, but it does not last if the agony is not relieved.

We agonize in the beginning, but the longer it goes on, the more we are glad they are gone. Why on earth would be want to be with someone who treats us like bovine fecal matter.

Manipulation is a contemptuous mentality in order cause frustration and anger in someone else. If the manipulator can get us to be in a state of turmoil all the time, they will be able to feel superior to us.

When they see that they have had no effect, they will step up their tactics, moving on to triangulation, in which they attempt to gain allies, who will treat us in ways that mock and demean us as the narcissist was doing.

The narcissist is not content to control us, they must work at getting others to do the same. That's why it is valuable to remove ourselves not only from the narcissist but also from their flying monkeys, the ones who do the bidding of the narcissist.

When the "powers that be", during the time of Christ could not intimidate Christ and His apostles to stop preaching truth, they had nothing left to stop them so they killed them. The mental state of hatred manifested itself in the form of actual murder.

There is murder in the heart of a narcissist, hatred is their expression of murder. When they cannot get away with actually murdering us, they will do things to destroy us as a person, even if it means using others to accomplish this task.

Matthew 5:21 "21 You have heard that it was said to the ancients, ‘Do not murder,’ and anyone who murders will be subject to judgment.’ 22 But I tell you that anyone who is angry with his brother, will be subject to judgment. "