Thursday, April 2, 2015
Children are Called to Love Not Judge Parents
Never allow grown children to interfere in your marriage. Many people who have been married a long time have children that have left the nest, their children feel some sort of entitlement to judge the marriage interfering with decisions that should be between Dad and Mom alone.
It must be made clear to adult children, when they begin to advise or speak out about the marriage of their parent, that they have crossed the line and are trespassing where they have no right to go.
There are many children who have made judgements about their parents marriages that are based on the faulty memories of a child. Often children remember events and attitudes based on the feelings they had at the time, rather than the true meaning of the event.
Since parents don't express to children what the challenges of their marriages are, the children are remembering how they felt rather than the accuracy of the situation. And there is no way a child can know what goes on with parents in private.
The best advice I can offer, is that adult children not judge a parent based on what they thought they saw, or how they felt while they were small children. Sometimes children will judge one parent as mean while the other parent was nice. Often children think that a parent who has rules and disciplines them, is the mean parent, while the lenient parent who has no rules is the nice parent.
It is best for parents to be in solidarity on discipline and training, but often this is not possible. Many parents are desiring to be pals with their children leaving most or all of the discipline and training to the other parent. When this occurs and the children grow up, the children develop their favorite parent, withholding love and encouragement from the less favored parent, even harboring contempt in their heart for the parent they cannot control.
Children who have understanding hearts will love their parents no matter how many warts they have. They will love them both equally, never attempting to come between them in their sunset years.
If you have adult children who work to divide and conquer over the marriage, it is time to explain to the children what you see happening, informing them where their place is, as children who honor, not marriage managers. If they continue to work to divide, then they must be put out of the relationship.
No where in the word does God tell children to evaluate the marriages of their parents or make sure their parents are doing what the children think they should do. Adult children are called to love their parents, not to judge or manipulate them.
Ephesians 6:1-3
"6 Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. 2 Honor your father and mother (which is the first commandment with a promise), 3 so that it may be well with you, and that you may live long on the earth."
It must be made clear to adult children, when they begin to advise or speak out about the marriage of their parent, that they have crossed the line and are trespassing where they have no right to go.
There are many children who have made judgements about their parents marriages that are based on the faulty memories of a child. Often children remember events and attitudes based on the feelings they had at the time, rather than the true meaning of the event.
Since parents don't express to children what the challenges of their marriages are, the children are remembering how they felt rather than the accuracy of the situation. And there is no way a child can know what goes on with parents in private.
The best advice I can offer, is that adult children not judge a parent based on what they thought they saw, or how they felt while they were small children. Sometimes children will judge one parent as mean while the other parent was nice. Often children think that a parent who has rules and disciplines them, is the mean parent, while the lenient parent who has no rules is the nice parent.
It is best for parents to be in solidarity on discipline and training, but often this is not possible. Many parents are desiring to be pals with their children leaving most or all of the discipline and training to the other parent. When this occurs and the children grow up, the children develop their favorite parent, withholding love and encouragement from the less favored parent, even harboring contempt in their heart for the parent they cannot control.
Children who have understanding hearts will love their parents no matter how many warts they have. They will love them both equally, never attempting to come between them in their sunset years.
If you have adult children who work to divide and conquer over the marriage, it is time to explain to the children what you see happening, informing them where their place is, as children who honor, not marriage managers. If they continue to work to divide, then they must be put out of the relationship.
No where in the word does God tell children to evaluate the marriages of their parents or make sure their parents are doing what the children think they should do. Adult children are called to love their parents, not to judge or manipulate them.
Ephesians 6:1-3
"6 Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. 2 Honor your father and mother (which is the first commandment with a promise), 3 so that it may be well with you, and that you may live long on the earth."
Pride Prevents Wisdom
The more pride we have the less we can learn. Those with great pride can have a lot of facts and knowledge about the Bible, but they will lack wisdom. Pride prevents deeper learning and impedes wisdom.
There are those who remain spiritual babies their entire lives because they are too focused on themselves.
There are those who remain spiritual babies their entire lives because they are too focused on themselves.
Signs of the Times
One of the signs of the end times is an increase in homosexual activity, not only a blatant display of it, but also persecution for believers over it. We have already seen this in the actions against bakeries for not making wedding cakes for same sex marriages.
1 Corinthians 6:9-10
"9 Or do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived; neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor [a]effeminate, nor homosexuals, 10 nor thieves, nor the covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor swindlers, will inherit the kingdom of God."
Matthew 10:22
""You will be hated by all because of My name, but it is the one who has endured to the end who will be saved."
We see the movie industry pushing the agenda of this abomination to such a degree that it is becoming common place in the news, sitcoms and movies to show acceptance of this wicked behavior. Soon believers will be discarded by their families for refusing to attend the weddings of same sex marriages. Interestingly enough, those who shout discrimination the loudest, will be those who discriminate openly and aggressively, against anyone who does not go alone with their agenda.
It is not only the acceptance of immoral behavior that is increasing but also the acceptance of the attacks from Islam on believers all over the world. There have been an increase in converts to Islam in our universities, the same people who could not be converted to Christianity and have rejected "religion" on campus, are embracing Islam.
In the news this morning I heard of Islamic factions murdering Christians in Kenya. Nearly every week now we see attacks on Christians for their faith in some part of the world. Do we really think we are going to escape it here in America?
The attacks of believers, has already begun in the form of sanctions on the businesses of Christians for not bowing to the homosexual agenda. We are watching many people jumping on this band wagon to punish anyone who does not agree with allowance for sin, even ruining their livelihood to force the culture to fear them.
The mentality that exists in the country today to place sanctions on those who are believers, is the same mentality that causes those in other countries to behead and chop in half, those who will not accept Islam. The hate for believers comes from the same source.....the devil himself.
Demonic activity has increased to such a degree that righteousness is very hard to find anywhere. All around us we see more and more people accepting wickedness, while those who would not do it themselves and are uncomfortable with it, remain silent out of fear.
If you want to test a "Christian" to see how deep their Christianity runs, speak truth to them using the Word of God, challenge their walk and watch what comes out. Anger and hate will spew out of the hearts and mouths of those who are pretenders. They will accuse you of all kinds of things to avoid facing their superficial phony Christianity. Pretenders are embarrassed to quote the Bible to others, they have no burden for the lost and are immersed in this world.
On the other hand a true believer will be thankful that you challenged them, they will be sure of what they believe and unshaken over the challenge. There will be joy in their hearts to be able to speak about the things of the Lord and feel blessed to encounter another true believer. Their spirit will bear witness with the spirits of every other born again blood bought believers.
The closer we get to the end of this church age, the more we will experience rejection and be accused of things that are not true. The devil is working hard to twist the minds of those who have no defense against him. Those who used to love you will turn against you. Their greatest aim will be to intimidate you into silence. Everything you do will be maligned, to discredit you.
James 1:2-7 "2 Count it all joy, my brothers,[b] when you meet trials of various kinds, 3 for you know that the testing of your faith produces steadfastness. 4 And let steadfastness have its full effect, that you may be perfect and complete, lacking in nothing.
5 If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask God, who gives generously to all without reproach, and it will be given him. 6 But let him ask in faith, with no doubting, for the one who doubts is like a wave of the sea that is driven and tossed by the wind. 7 For that person must not suppose that he will receive anything from the Lord; 8 he is a double-minded man, unstable in all his ways."
There is great joy and hope for those who walk with Christ. All these things that happen to us, are for only a short time, then we will go to our real home in heaven, where everything will be set right!!!!
I don't know about you, but I hate this world and all its wickedness, but have immense joy over what is coming.
1 Corinthians 6:9-10
"9 Or do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived; neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor [a]effeminate, nor homosexuals, 10 nor thieves, nor the covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor swindlers, will inherit the kingdom of God."
Matthew 10:22
""You will be hated by all because of My name, but it is the one who has endured to the end who will be saved."
We see the movie industry pushing the agenda of this abomination to such a degree that it is becoming common place in the news, sitcoms and movies to show acceptance of this wicked behavior. Soon believers will be discarded by their families for refusing to attend the weddings of same sex marriages. Interestingly enough, those who shout discrimination the loudest, will be those who discriminate openly and aggressively, against anyone who does not go alone with their agenda.
It is not only the acceptance of immoral behavior that is increasing but also the acceptance of the attacks from Islam on believers all over the world. There have been an increase in converts to Islam in our universities, the same people who could not be converted to Christianity and have rejected "religion" on campus, are embracing Islam.
In the news this morning I heard of Islamic factions murdering Christians in Kenya. Nearly every week now we see attacks on Christians for their faith in some part of the world. Do we really think we are going to escape it here in America?
The attacks of believers, has already begun in the form of sanctions on the businesses of Christians for not bowing to the homosexual agenda. We are watching many people jumping on this band wagon to punish anyone who does not agree with allowance for sin, even ruining their livelihood to force the culture to fear them.
The mentality that exists in the country today to place sanctions on those who are believers, is the same mentality that causes those in other countries to behead and chop in half, those who will not accept Islam. The hate for believers comes from the same source.....the devil himself.
Demonic activity has increased to such a degree that righteousness is very hard to find anywhere. All around us we see more and more people accepting wickedness, while those who would not do it themselves and are uncomfortable with it, remain silent out of fear.
If you want to test a "Christian" to see how deep their Christianity runs, speak truth to them using the Word of God, challenge their walk and watch what comes out. Anger and hate will spew out of the hearts and mouths of those who are pretenders. They will accuse you of all kinds of things to avoid facing their superficial phony Christianity. Pretenders are embarrassed to quote the Bible to others, they have no burden for the lost and are immersed in this world.
On the other hand a true believer will be thankful that you challenged them, they will be sure of what they believe and unshaken over the challenge. There will be joy in their hearts to be able to speak about the things of the Lord and feel blessed to encounter another true believer. Their spirit will bear witness with the spirits of every other born again blood bought believers.
The closer we get to the end of this church age, the more we will experience rejection and be accused of things that are not true. The devil is working hard to twist the minds of those who have no defense against him. Those who used to love you will turn against you. Their greatest aim will be to intimidate you into silence. Everything you do will be maligned, to discredit you.
James 1:2-7 "2 Count it all joy, my brothers,[b] when you meet trials of various kinds, 3 for you know that the testing of your faith produces steadfastness. 4 And let steadfastness have its full effect, that you may be perfect and complete, lacking in nothing.
5 If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask God, who gives generously to all without reproach, and it will be given him. 6 But let him ask in faith, with no doubting, for the one who doubts is like a wave of the sea that is driven and tossed by the wind. 7 For that person must not suppose that he will receive anything from the Lord; 8 he is a double-minded man, unstable in all his ways."
There is great joy and hope for those who walk with Christ. All these things that happen to us, are for only a short time, then we will go to our real home in heaven, where everything will be set right!!!!
I don't know about you, but I hate this world and all its wickedness, but have immense joy over what is coming.
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