To say that someone has no choice in their salvation would also imply that we have no choices in our lives pertaining to our behavior.
It is irrational to say that we have no choice for our salvation and we will be whatever we were born to be, and then teach a child to obey commands he has no ability to obey.
There is no chance I would ever tell a child just do whatever you feel like doing, whether or not it is evil or good, because you are going to be whatever God determined you to be without a choice anyway.
It is irrational to train a child to obey God if the child has no choice to obey God. God gave us commands that we would make a choice to obey or disobey Him and our parents.
I also have to wonder why those who believe they are one of the chosen by God think they are one of those chosen. Is it merely because they decided to believe that false doctrine? What evidence do they cling to that makes them believe they are one of the chosen ones?
Romans 10:12-14 "…12 For there is no difference between Jew and Greek: The same Lord is Lord of all, and gives richly to all who call on Him, 13 for, “Everyone who calls on the name of the Lord will be saved.” 14 How then can they call on the One in whom they have not believed? And how can they believe in the One of whom they have not heard? And how can they hear without someone to preach?…"
Nothing in these passages indicates that "the chosen" are born to be saved and those not chosen born to go to hell. God clearly says that we become born again, saved from sin and hell by choosing Christ, all who want Christ will be saved.
Joshua 24:14-16 "14 Now, therefore, fear the LORD and serve Him in sincerity and truth; cast aside the gods your fathers served beyond the Euphrates and in Egypt, and serve the LORD. 15 But if it is unpleasing in your sight to serve the LORD, then choose for yourselves this day whom you will serve, whether the gods your fathers served beyond the Euphrates, or the gods of the Amorites in whose land you are living. As for me and my house, we will serve the LORD!” 16 The people replied, “Far be it from us to forsake the LORD to serve other gods!"
John 3:16 “For God so loved the world, that he gave his only Son, that whoever believes in him should not perish but have eternal life."
If we were not given a choice to follow Christ, then it is irrational to say that we deserve hell for not choosing.
My God is not one who throws people into hell for His own pleasure, just to watch them burn. That would be the devil who would do such a thing.
My God placed Himself on the cross to pay for the sins of the world because of His great love, giving everyone a chance to repent and live forever with Him in paradise.
One thing is for sure: every one I have met who has been caught up in the doctrine of Calvinism's irresistible grace has been arrogant and unteachable. I say this not only because of the way they act but also because they have determined themselves to be one of the elect merely for saying so.
2 Corinthians 13:5-6 "5 Examine yourselves to see whether you are in the faith; test yourselves. Can’t you see for yourselves that Jesus Christ is in you—unless you actually fail the test? 6 And I hope you will realize that we have not failed the test."
What is the test? This is the test!
Galatians 5:22-23 - "But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control; against such things there is no law."
This fruit can be discerned by those who have the Holy Spirit. The pretender and other unregenerate people cannot discern this fruit. In fact, they see the qualities and despise it as though it were weaknesses.
1 Corinthians 2:14 "But a natural person does not accept the things of the Spirit of God, for they are foolishness to him; and he cannot understand them, because they are spiritually discerned."
Next time someone says to you, "I am one of the elect chosen by God to be saved", ask them why they think they are!