Monday, February 19, 2018
Tricks of the Narcissist
One of the tricks of the narcissist is to judge their target as morally deficient in some way. They will make something up based on silly and petty things if they cannot find anything real.
Satan has been using this tactic before the throne of grace every day accusing believers. It will never work, Christ is our advocate, but the devil will try anyway.
The narcissist see everything in black and white, they cannot tolerate evaluation of events, because those involved are either all perfect or all wrong, depending on who elevates them.
When we love Christ and people we will see everything in honesty. We will see the good and bad in everyone, but never treat them with contempt because they are not perfect.
The narcissist feels justified in treating shamefully anyone who disagrees with them, dares to have their own thoughts and values and worse yet, those who are brazen enough to actually correct wrong thinking based on the Bible.
As we see these things growing, we need to be learning how to avoid these people, how to refrain from responding to their attempts at angering us and allow them to be them.
Our anger toward the narcissist does nothing, it does not change them, it doesn't validate us, it is merely the trick of the devil to discredit our Christianity.
Never allow the narcissist's tactics to manipulate our feelings and our responses. The more we realize their rages or sulks are not about us at all, they are tactics to intimidate and cause false guilt.
The Devil is using the mouths of people who have no defenses against him, they are pawns in his scheme to denigrate the believer. We can pray for these people, but we do not keep them as companions, they can do much damage to us and others in our circle of friends.
Thankfully the Devil has no control over us when we are submitted to Christ.
Bitterness toward the narcissist does nothing except shoot ourselves in the head. It does not change them, it doesn't make us more in control, actually just the opposite. The more bitter and angry we become the less in control we are of our own being.
This is the secret to dealing with those who are ruled and controlled by the devil, that is that we do no revenge, we remove ourselves when possible and we pray for the Lord to work in their lives, as well as praying that the Lord will protect us from wrong thinking and bad attitudes.
Satan has been using this tactic before the throne of grace every day accusing believers. It will never work, Christ is our advocate, but the devil will try anyway.
The narcissist see everything in black and white, they cannot tolerate evaluation of events, because those involved are either all perfect or all wrong, depending on who elevates them.
When we love Christ and people we will see everything in honesty. We will see the good and bad in everyone, but never treat them with contempt because they are not perfect.
The narcissist feels justified in treating shamefully anyone who disagrees with them, dares to have their own thoughts and values and worse yet, those who are brazen enough to actually correct wrong thinking based on the Bible.
As we see these things growing, we need to be learning how to avoid these people, how to refrain from responding to their attempts at angering us and allow them to be them.
Our anger toward the narcissist does nothing, it does not change them, it doesn't validate us, it is merely the trick of the devil to discredit our Christianity.
Never allow the narcissist's tactics to manipulate our feelings and our responses. The more we realize their rages or sulks are not about us at all, they are tactics to intimidate and cause false guilt.
The Devil is using the mouths of people who have no defenses against him, they are pawns in his scheme to denigrate the believer. We can pray for these people, but we do not keep them as companions, they can do much damage to us and others in our circle of friends.
Thankfully the Devil has no control over us when we are submitted to Christ.
Bitterness toward the narcissist does nothing except shoot ourselves in the head. It does not change them, it doesn't make us more in control, actually just the opposite. The more bitter and angry we become the less in control we are of our own being.
This is the secret to dealing with those who are ruled and controlled by the devil, that is that we do no revenge, we remove ourselves when possible and we pray for the Lord to work in their lives, as well as praying that the Lord will protect us from wrong thinking and bad attitudes.
Be True to Christ Who Lives in Us
If we have to deny our own values to keep other people happy, then those people are not our friends, remove them.
Be Yourself!
Never let other people pressure you into belief systems that are not your own values and choices.
The Opening of the Eyes and Heart
When God has opened our eyes to the wrong beliefs that have been a part of our lives we begin to find ourselves standing alone without many friends.
God is opening the eyes of His authentic believers, to the many things that were nothing more than "Christian culture", not at all Biblical.
The day we see without the rose colored glasses is the day we see life in reality. It's not easy because we will lose friends because we don't do the things they do or go the places they love to go. We become not only a curiosity but also objects of contempt.
When we see the scoffing mentality of those who love their tradition more than they love God, then we must walk away and speak no more to them, they will not listen.
2 Chronicles 36:16
"but they continually mocked the messengers of God, despised His words and scoffed at His prophets, until the wrath of the LORD arose against His people, until there was no remedy."
Matthew 7:6
"Do not give what is holy to dogs, and do not throw your pearls before swine, or they will trample them under their feet, and turn and tear you to pieces."
2 Peter 3:3
"Know this first of all, that in the last days mockers will come with their mocking, following after their own lusts,"
We are living in the times of 2 Timothy 3. We will be accused of being negative, but in our hearts we are full of joy, able to speak truth about what is going on without being devastated by what we see. We hate what we see, we wish our loved ones would have eyes to see, but we have no power to make them see. God must do His work His way as we move on down the road to the next person who may listen.
Matthew 10:13-15 "…13 If the home is worthy, let your peace rest on it; if it is not, let your peace return to you. 14 And if anyone will not welcome you or heed your words, shake the dust off your feet when you leave that home or town. 15 Truly I tell you, it will be more bearable for Sodom and Gomorrah on the day of judgment than for that town.…"
God is opening the eyes of His authentic believers, to the many things that were nothing more than "Christian culture", not at all Biblical.
The day we see without the rose colored glasses is the day we see life in reality. It's not easy because we will lose friends because we don't do the things they do or go the places they love to go. We become not only a curiosity but also objects of contempt.
When we see the scoffing mentality of those who love their tradition more than they love God, then we must walk away and speak no more to them, they will not listen.
2 Chronicles 36:16
"but they continually mocked the messengers of God, despised His words and scoffed at His prophets, until the wrath of the LORD arose against His people, until there was no remedy."
Matthew 7:6
"Do not give what is holy to dogs, and do not throw your pearls before swine, or they will trample them under their feet, and turn and tear you to pieces."
2 Peter 3:3
"Know this first of all, that in the last days mockers will come with their mocking, following after their own lusts,"
We are living in the times of 2 Timothy 3. We will be accused of being negative, but in our hearts we are full of joy, able to speak truth about what is going on without being devastated by what we see. We hate what we see, we wish our loved ones would have eyes to see, but we have no power to make them see. God must do His work His way as we move on down the road to the next person who may listen.
Matthew 10:13-15 "…13 If the home is worthy, let your peace rest on it; if it is not, let your peace return to you. 14 And if anyone will not welcome you or heed your words, shake the dust off your feet when you leave that home or town. 15 Truly I tell you, it will be more bearable for Sodom and Gomorrah on the day of judgment than for that town.…"
Ignorantly Arguing Semantics
The word "trinity" is not in the English Bible either but the concept is clearly there in the original languages. The word "rapture" means "snatching away" in the original language, therefore the meaning of the world "rapture" is the same as the concept of "snatching away."
None of our words in the English Bible are in the original languages, they were written in Greek and Hebrew. We can only translate into our own words the original Bible meanings because most people do not read Greek or Hebrew.
The English language does not have Greek and Hebrew words in it, so we have to transfer the meaning from those languages to our own. It is more important to get the meanings and concepts right.
Anyone who wants to use the silly excuse that a particular word we use to describe a Biblical concept, is not in the Bible, then they are ignorantly arguing semantics.
None of our words in the English Bible are in the original languages, they were written in Greek and Hebrew. We can only translate into our own words the original Bible meanings because most people do not read Greek or Hebrew.
The English language does not have Greek and Hebrew words in it, so we have to transfer the meaning from those languages to our own. It is more important to get the meanings and concepts right.
Anyone who wants to use the silly excuse that a particular word we use to describe a Biblical concept, is not in the Bible, then they are ignorantly arguing semantics.
The Look of a Godly Person
Godly people do not use threats and guilt to manipulate others. Godly people are all about love, they will simply tell the truth to help, while showing kindness as they share their views.
It is not the love of God that motivates someone to intimidate, devalue and demean others.
John 8:32
"And you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free.”
Proverbs 28:13
"Whoever conceals his transgressions will not prosper, but he who confesses and forsakes them will obtain mercy."
Psalm 5:6
"You destroy those who speak lies; the Lord abhors the bloodthirsty and deceitful man."
Ephesians 4:25
"Therefore, having put away falsehood, let each one of you speak the truth with his neighbor, for we are members one of another."
It is not the love of God that motivates someone to intimidate, devalue and demean others.
John 8:32
"And you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free.”
Proverbs 28:13
"Whoever conceals his transgressions will not prosper, but he who confesses and forsakes them will obtain mercy."
Psalm 5:6
"You destroy those who speak lies; the Lord abhors the bloodthirsty and deceitful man."
Ephesians 4:25
"Therefore, having put away falsehood, let each one of you speak the truth with his neighbor, for we are members one of another."
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