Sunday, January 27, 2019
Narcissism: Second Timothy Three is Here by Gwendolyn Wehage
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Believe What You Want and Go to Hell
Our culture believes what they want to, it doesn't matter to them if there is any truth in it as long as they like it.
Forgiveness is not free there is a Requirement
This makes Biblical sense. When we are so slap happy to forgive when others are not repentant, then we are allowing the evil to grow within relationships. Without accountability and consequences for sin there is no turning from it.
Who Have You Lost?
All the apostles and Jesus Christ Himself lost nearly everyone because of Christ.
If we must compromise God's principles to keep friends, then it is better to have no friends.
When we stay with God and lose friends, God brings others but there may be a period of time when we are very much alone with God.
Paul was in the wilderness with God for three years before he began the ministry God gave him.
Are we willing to be alone with God for a time, waiting for Him to choose our friends?
I can tell you from personal experience that being alone with God can be and is wonderful. We do not miss the foolish drama, manipulations and tricks of the world.
When God is ready for us to become active again with new friends He brings them His way. It is well worth the time alone with Christ. The reward and blessing of different godly friends is more than I can express.
Keep trusting Christ even if you have to do it alone.
Psalm 30
"I will extol You, O Lord, for You have lifted me up,
And have not let my enemies rejoice over me.
2 O Lord my God,
I cried to You for help, and You healed me.
3 O Lord, You have brought up my soul from Sheol;
You have kept me alive, that I would not go down to the pit.
4 Sing praise to the Lord, you His godly ones,
And give thanks to His holy name.
5 For His anger is but for a moment,
His favor is for a lifetime;
Weeping may last for the night,
But a shout of joy comes in the morning.
6 Now as for me, I said in my prosperity,
“I will never be moved.”
7 O Lord, by Your favor You have made my mountain to stand strong;
You hid Your face, I was dismayed.
8 To You, O Lord, I called,
And to the Lord I made supplication:
9 “What profit is there in my blood, if I go down to the pit?
Will the dust praise You? Will it declare Your faithfulness?
10 “Hear, O Lord, and be gracious to me;
O Lord, be my helper.”
11 You have turned for me my mourning into dancing;
You have loosed my sackcloth and girded me with gladness,
12 That my soul may sing praise to You and not be silent.
O Lord my God, I will give thanks to You forever."
If we must compromise God's principles to keep friends, then it is better to have no friends.
When we stay with God and lose friends, God brings others but there may be a period of time when we are very much alone with God.
Paul was in the wilderness with God for three years before he began the ministry God gave him.
Are we willing to be alone with God for a time, waiting for Him to choose our friends?
I can tell you from personal experience that being alone with God can be and is wonderful. We do not miss the foolish drama, manipulations and tricks of the world.
When God is ready for us to become active again with new friends He brings them His way. It is well worth the time alone with Christ. The reward and blessing of different godly friends is more than I can express.
Keep trusting Christ even if you have to do it alone.
Psalm 30
"I will extol You, O Lord, for You have lifted me up,
And have not let my enemies rejoice over me.
2 O Lord my God,
I cried to You for help, and You healed me.
3 O Lord, You have brought up my soul from Sheol;
You have kept me alive, that I would not go down to the pit.
4 Sing praise to the Lord, you His godly ones,
And give thanks to His holy name.
5 For His anger is but for a moment,
His favor is for a lifetime;
Weeping may last for the night,
But a shout of joy comes in the morning.
6 Now as for me, I said in my prosperity,
“I will never be moved.”
7 O Lord, by Your favor You have made my mountain to stand strong;
You hid Your face, I was dismayed.
8 To You, O Lord, I called,
And to the Lord I made supplication:
9 “What profit is there in my blood, if I go down to the pit?
Will the dust praise You? Will it declare Your faithfulness?
10 “Hear, O Lord, and be gracious to me;
O Lord, be my helper.”
11 You have turned for me my mourning into dancing;
You have loosed my sackcloth and girded me with gladness,
12 That my soul may sing praise to You and not be silent.
O Lord my God, I will give thanks to You forever."
Religiosity Breed a Spirit of Superiority
I see a spirit of religiosity in most people who claim to be strong Christians today. There is a spirit of superiority in those who think they are doing everything right. Even though their attitude of superiority is sin, they think they are acting righteously by virtue of the rules that they follow.
Those who make rules based on how they wish to see life, with themselves as elevated above others, will always make false judgments.
Every judgment they make and every thing they see us do will be evaluated in terms of their own rules. When we do not follow their rules they treat us contemptuously even glorying in that contempt as though justified.
1 Peter 3:16
"Having a good conscience, so that, when you are slandered, those who revile your good behavior in Christ may be put to shame."
There is shame in the heart of those who make their own rules and torment others who do not follow them. The rules are designed to make them "feel" more righteous than they are in reality. Their rules cover up their sinful heart of pride.
When we follow Christ we can be honest about who we are and Who Christ is. When we compare ourselves with those around us we can become prideful. But when we compare ourselves to God there is no reason for a sense of superiority.
Romans 3:23
"23 For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God;"
2 Corinthians 10:12 "For we are not bold to class or compare ourselves with some of those who commend themselves; but when they measure themselves by themselves and compare themselves with themselves, they are without understanding."
Those who love to feel superior know they are not, the very reason for the harsh rules and attitude that refuses to understand others or even God. Stay away from these people, they will influence to do things their way instead of God's way. And, even worse they will seek to make us like them.
Do we want to be like Christ or another human being who thinks they are superior?
Those who make rules based on how they wish to see life, with themselves as elevated above others, will always make false judgments.
Every judgment they make and every thing they see us do will be evaluated in terms of their own rules. When we do not follow their rules they treat us contemptuously even glorying in that contempt as though justified.
1 Peter 3:16
"Having a good conscience, so that, when you are slandered, those who revile your good behavior in Christ may be put to shame."
There is shame in the heart of those who make their own rules and torment others who do not follow them. The rules are designed to make them "feel" more righteous than they are in reality. Their rules cover up their sinful heart of pride.
When we follow Christ we can be honest about who we are and Who Christ is. When we compare ourselves with those around us we can become prideful. But when we compare ourselves to God there is no reason for a sense of superiority.
Romans 3:23
"23 For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God;"
2 Corinthians 10:12 "For we are not bold to class or compare ourselves with some of those who commend themselves; but when they measure themselves by themselves and compare themselves with themselves, they are without understanding."
Those who love to feel superior know they are not, the very reason for the harsh rules and attitude that refuses to understand others or even God. Stay away from these people, they will influence to do things their way instead of God's way. And, even worse they will seek to make us like them.
Do we want to be like Christ or another human being who thinks they are superior?
Responses to Correction or Instruction Tell a Lot about Us!
When someone blows up in anger, we are witnessing the real them. The kind, joyful persona that they display in public is not the real them. The real them is the one that explodes when they don't like what has been said or what has been discovered about them. There is an angry person who resides inside of the narcissist, it ruminates, hides and explodes when it no longer can stand that someone might see the real them.
I have been accused by a couple of people of writing about them. I have not mentioned names. So why would they think it is about them unless they recognize themselves in the writing?
We live in a world full of "snowflakes" as our generation has been known to call them. They are hyper-sensitive to correction, so much so that even a minor correction is enough to cause these snowflakes to destroy a relationship.
There is an increasing level of disrespect for those who speak truth. When we speak truth we are seen as mean and intolerant, when those who do evil are the ones who are mean and intolerant.
Truth heals while helping one prosper spiritually and emotionally. Lies that flatter bring ruin, only solidifying the sin that dwells in those who are resistant to correction.
Helpful counsel is seen as rude in our day. When we attempt to counsel someone in a way that will bring learning and improvement we are accused of interfering, even though the narcissist allows themselves to counsel anyone at any time without regard to respect or honor.
Proverbs 12:1-2 "1 Whoever loves discipline loves knowledge, but he who hates correction is stupid. 2 The good man obtains favor from the LORD, but the LORD condemns a man who devises evil."
The narcissist who desires to dominate and control others is the most unhappy and joyless person. Lacking the ability to be confident about their life, they work to destroy those who are confident in the Lord, those who know where they're going and what is truth.
Jealous of all those who practice goodness, the narcissist employs the tactics of the devil to bring down anyone who will, in their mind, outshine them.
Those who love Christ are not concerned with being better than others, they simply want to live out their lives with Christ as their head. Everything for the born again follower of Christ is about Him. Every single thing!!!!
The narcissist wants everything to be about themselves, they are the god in their own life. Their hope is that everyone else will see them as god too. They do not fear God, nor do they have respect and honor for anyone else.
Those who understand honor and respect will be that way toward everyone all the time. The fact that the narcissist picks and chooses who to honor while demonstrating disrespect to those they don't like, is the evidence that God is not first in their life if He is there at all.
Proverbs 29:8-10 "8 Mockers inflame a city, but the wise turn away anger. 9 If a wise man goes to court with a fool, there will be raving and laughing with no resolution. 10 Men of bloodshed hate a blameless man, but the upright care for his life.…"
When the unrighteous hate a blameless man they will attempt to accuse the blameless of what they are doing but the blameless are not doing.
Proverbs 18:2
"A fool takes no pleasure in understanding, but only in expressing his opinion."
Proverbs 1:7
"The fear of the Lord is the beginning of knowledge; fools despise wisdom and instruction."
Our group of friends says a lot about who we are! When we desire godly friends who keep us challenged in holiness then that says something important about us. If our friends are superficial, grandiose and worldly, that also says something about us. We choose friends who are like us!
As I once heard another friend say; "if we are in the bad crowd, then we are the bad crowd."
Seek the Lord with all your heart and those who are wicked will fall away from us. As we grow in holiness those who love the Lord will be drawn to us. Sometimes we have to spend a period of time alone without friends because lovely godly friends are not easy to find in this world right before the rapture.
Proverbs 28:26
"Whoever trusts in his own mind is a fool, but he who walks in wisdom will be delivered."
Proverbs 26:3-12
"A whip for the horse, a bridle for the donkey, and a rod for the back of fools. Answer not a fool according to his folly, lest you be like him yourself. Answer a fool according to his folly, lest he be wise in his own eyes. Whoever sends a message by the hand of a fool cuts off his own feet and drinks violence. Like a lame man's legs, which hang useless, is a proverb in the mouth of fools. ..."
Proverbs 10:23
"Doing wrong is like a joke to a fool, but wisdom is pleasure to a man of understanding."
Those who love the Lord love wisdom, they love the godly people and desire continual growth in holiness. But the fool hates all this, it is seen in nearly every interaction with them.
Proverbs 12:1-2 "1 Whoever loves discipline loves knowledge, but he who hates correction is stupid. 2 The good man obtains favor from the LORD, but the LORD condemns a man who devises evil.…"
Proverbs 18:2
"A fool takes no pleasure in understanding, but only in expressing his opinion."
I have been accused by a couple of people of writing about them. I have not mentioned names. So why would they think it is about them unless they recognize themselves in the writing?
We live in a world full of "snowflakes" as our generation has been known to call them. They are hyper-sensitive to correction, so much so that even a minor correction is enough to cause these snowflakes to destroy a relationship.
There is an increasing level of disrespect for those who speak truth. When we speak truth we are seen as mean and intolerant, when those who do evil are the ones who are mean and intolerant.
Truth heals while helping one prosper spiritually and emotionally. Lies that flatter bring ruin, only solidifying the sin that dwells in those who are resistant to correction.
Helpful counsel is seen as rude in our day. When we attempt to counsel someone in a way that will bring learning and improvement we are accused of interfering, even though the narcissist allows themselves to counsel anyone at any time without regard to respect or honor.
Proverbs 12:1-2 "1 Whoever loves discipline loves knowledge, but he who hates correction is stupid. 2 The good man obtains favor from the LORD, but the LORD condemns a man who devises evil."
The narcissist who desires to dominate and control others is the most unhappy and joyless person. Lacking the ability to be confident about their life, they work to destroy those who are confident in the Lord, those who know where they're going and what is truth.
Jealous of all those who practice goodness, the narcissist employs the tactics of the devil to bring down anyone who will, in their mind, outshine them.
Those who love Christ are not concerned with being better than others, they simply want to live out their lives with Christ as their head. Everything for the born again follower of Christ is about Him. Every single thing!!!!
The narcissist wants everything to be about themselves, they are the god in their own life. Their hope is that everyone else will see them as god too. They do not fear God, nor do they have respect and honor for anyone else.
Those who understand honor and respect will be that way toward everyone all the time. The fact that the narcissist picks and chooses who to honor while demonstrating disrespect to those they don't like, is the evidence that God is not first in their life if He is there at all.
Proverbs 29:8-10 "8 Mockers inflame a city, but the wise turn away anger. 9 If a wise man goes to court with a fool, there will be raving and laughing with no resolution. 10 Men of bloodshed hate a blameless man, but the upright care for his life.…"
When the unrighteous hate a blameless man they will attempt to accuse the blameless of what they are doing but the blameless are not doing.
Proverbs 18:2
"A fool takes no pleasure in understanding, but only in expressing his opinion."
Proverbs 1:7
"The fear of the Lord is the beginning of knowledge; fools despise wisdom and instruction."
Our group of friends says a lot about who we are! When we desire godly friends who keep us challenged in holiness then that says something important about us. If our friends are superficial, grandiose and worldly, that also says something about us. We choose friends who are like us!
As I once heard another friend say; "if we are in the bad crowd, then we are the bad crowd."
Seek the Lord with all your heart and those who are wicked will fall away from us. As we grow in holiness those who love the Lord will be drawn to us. Sometimes we have to spend a period of time alone without friends because lovely godly friends are not easy to find in this world right before the rapture.
Proverbs 28:26
"Whoever trusts in his own mind is a fool, but he who walks in wisdom will be delivered."
Proverbs 26:3-12
"A whip for the horse, a bridle for the donkey, and a rod for the back of fools. Answer not a fool according to his folly, lest you be like him yourself. Answer a fool according to his folly, lest he be wise in his own eyes. Whoever sends a message by the hand of a fool cuts off his own feet and drinks violence. Like a lame man's legs, which hang useless, is a proverb in the mouth of fools. ..."
Proverbs 10:23
"Doing wrong is like a joke to a fool, but wisdom is pleasure to a man of understanding."
Those who love the Lord love wisdom, they love the godly people and desire continual growth in holiness. But the fool hates all this, it is seen in nearly every interaction with them.
Proverbs 12:1-2 "1 Whoever loves discipline loves knowledge, but he who hates correction is stupid. 2 The good man obtains favor from the LORD, but the LORD condemns a man who devises evil.…"
Proverbs 18:2
"A fool takes no pleasure in understanding, but only in expressing his opinion."
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