John 3:20-21 "20 Everyone who does evil hates the Light, and does not come into the Light for fear that his deeds will be exposed. 21 But whoever practices the truth comes into the Light, so that it may be clearly seen that what he has done has been accomplished in God.”…"
A narcissist hates to discuss anything directly, using manipulation and intimidation to control the emotions and reactions of others, they are continually on guard waiting for the moment when they will have to use these tools on their belt.
Subtlety allows the narcissist to live in the realm of "plausible deniability." They can demonstrate such subtlety that when asked to explain their unkind behavior they will readily deny they did or said anything wrong.
This is the reason one feels they are walking on egg shells constantly with the narcissist. There is never a sense of openness and one never knows when the next covert attitude or action will emerge. Happy smiles and loving embraces are absent from the every day existence of the narcissist. There is always an underlying stance of gloom when in their presence, unless they are in the spotlight.
We know when these things are happening, there is an evil cloud of gloom over any conversation or interaction with a narcissist. There is never a sense of genuineness, light-hearted joy is absent from an encounter with a narcissist.
The need to be best, first and most is so strong with the narcissist that they tread very lightly in revealing truth about themselves, so much so that they will accuse others of making them walk on egg shells, when it is they that create this environment for others.
The narcissist does not share personal information or admit to flaws or struggles in themselves because they believe that others will judge them the way they judge others for even the slightest imperfection.
They are dedicated to displaying a persona that is perfect without any flaws. The Narcissist has a tendency to be harsh and legalistic, even though the things they judge others for are things they do themselves, probably because they do the same things they believe others are doing them too.
Narcissists are always hypocrites, we see this in the political realm right now as well as in families.
Romans 2:1-2 "1 You therefore have no excuse, you who pass judgment on another. For on whatever grounds you judge the other, you are condemning yourself, because you who pass judgment do the same things. 2 And we know that God’s judgment against those who do such things is based on truth.…"
A relationship with a narcissist, one who is nearly completely full of self, is tedious at best. Never knowing when the next covert attack will occur because of a "narcissistic injury", will ignite their wrath, keeps the relationship at bay.
Our world is full of narcissism these days, God describes it in 2 Timothy 3. These last days are as the days of Noah, when everyone did what was right in their own eyes and no one would listen. It is rare in our generation that someone will be willing to listen to a correction to help them learn to be a better person or even to help them avoid pitfalls.
All believers embrace correction when it is Biblical and ignore that which is not Biblical. Believers who are mature in their walk do not rage at or do revenge to, anyone who corrects us. We simply evaluate the message in the light of the Word of God and accept it or dismiss it depending on it's Scriptural validity.
Those who rage and do revenge, seemingly unconcerned in their conscience about their reaction, very likely are narcissists. One of the characteristics of a narcissist is the lack of empathy and conscience that prevents them from confessing sin or making anything better though discussion. They simple do not care about anyone else, their ego and appearance to others is utmost in their estimation.
May each one evaluate their own heart to see if there be any elements within them that need to be cleansed by Christ. May those who are not born again realize their lost state and trust Christ, desiring to be cleansed by Him, becoming a new creation.
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