Narcissists love to intimidate believers by calling names, false accusations as well as through veiled threats that they will cause others to be against us.
When the narcissist cannot intimidate their target into submission through the name calling they will name drop to cause fear that they will influence others to be against us.
Things I have heard them say are "so and so agrees with me" and "I know others who are against you too." When these things don't work they will begin the gossiping campaign hoping you will go to the people to whom they gossiped and try to straighten it all out.
This tactic of name dropping and intimidation to cause fear is designed to cause you to overreact and confront everyone only making you look ridiculous. When someone does this the best thing to do is ignore them, never speak of them to anyone else except very close trusted friends whom the narcissist does not know and allow God to deal with the narcissist.
Those who use these tactics to harm their target eventually implode. They will be exposed one day, either in this life as they lose friends who can see through the nonsense, or God will deal with it in eternity.
The devil is sending these people into our circles to cause discontent, worry and fighting. Narcissists love to poke at someone until they blow up in frustration and then lie to others that you blew up for no reason at all. Their tactics are many and varied but the goal is always the same, to get you to become the bad one.
God told us in His word how to deal with these people. The verses below show us to "avoid them" when we can, and to refuse to engage by not answering them.
Sometimes we answer people because we think we are having a discussion to clarify things. We think each of us is sharing our views to help with the understanding. But the narcissist is not doing this, we find out later they are merely attempting to force us into their way of thinking while using mocking, intimidation and lies to cause frustration in us.
Proverbs 28:26
"Whoever trusts in his own mind is a fool, but he who walks in wisdom will be delivered."
Proverbs 14:7-9
"Leave the presence of a fool, for there you do not meet words of knowledge. The wisdom of the prudent is to discern his way, but the folly of fools is deceiving. Fools mock at the guilt offering, but the upright enjoy acceptance."
When we discover we are dealing with this sort of person, that is the narcissist who does not care about truth but only wants to win the discussion, we must remove ourselves and stay away from them entirely if at all possible. Set your boundary, "I will not longer discuss this" and block them from all ability to reach you.
The following Scriptures tell us how to handle these narcissistic types who love their drama and hate the peace in others.
Proverbs 18:2
"A fool takes no pleasure in understanding, but only in expressing his opinion."
Proverbs 29:11
"A fool gives full vent to his spirit, but a wise man quietly holds it back."
Proverbs 1:7
"The fear of the Lord is the beginning of knowledge; fools despise wisdom and instruction."
Proverbs 18:6
"A fool's lips walk into a fight, and his mouth invites a beating."
Proverbs 29:9
"If a wise man has an argument with a fool, the fool only rages and laughs, and there is no quiet."
Proverbs 10:23
"Doing wrong is like a joke to a fool, but wisdom is pleasure to a man of understanding."
Lastly and most importantly :
Proverbs 22:10-12
"10 Drive out the scoffer, and contention will go out,
Even strife and dishonor will cease."
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