Many women face the dilemma of being married to a man who will not lead his family on any level. The wives in these marriages, have often asked their husbands to lead, but to no avail. Sadly many of these women are judged as usuring, when they have desired and even begged their husbands to lead but they would not.
When the wives would stop leading there would be no spiritual interaction in the home at all. The devastating effects of total lack of spiritual guidance over time is too great for them, they begin to lead again, hoping against hope that the little that they can do would make a difference in their children's lives, for the Lord
Many women have experience contempt on the part of their children, it is natural for unregenerate children to favor the spouse who requires nothing from them. There are no rules, no chastisements and little instruction in anything except academics.
Men lead automatically, without trying, either for God or against Him. Whichever way the father goes the children will follow.
Some ladies have seen success in the hearts of their children from their teaching, however most have seen rebellion in the hearts of their children no matter what they do, when the husband will not lead or when the father leads them in worldly thinking and worldly pleasures.
Especially when the father displays subtle or outward demonstrations of contempt for his wife's Biblical instruction, there will be dissention on the part of the children. An attitude of contempt that follows into adulthood.
When the father acts as though he is irritated at the spiritual bent of his wife, even in subtle ways, the children learn to be the same toward their mother.
Proverbs 6:20 "My son, observe the commandment of your father And do not forsake the teaching of your mother;"
Proverbs 1:8 "My son, hear the instruction of thy father, and forsake not the law of thy mother:"
God gave children two parents for a reason, the law of the mother is just as important as the instruction of the father. Notice that God tells the children to listen to the instruction of the Father, but tells the children to obey the law of the Mother.
When two people work in tandem to bring the children up in the Lord, the children learn to respect and love both parents, favoritism is not an issue because the children see that the parents walk together in one life purpose and that is to glorify God in their upbringing.
When the father negates the mother, refusing to uphold her mandates for conduct in the Lord, he fosters a rebellion against authority and against the mother, in the children.
The same is true of the reverse, when the Father is trying to lead in the Lord and the Mother will not support him, it is natural for the child to gravitate toward the one who allows disobedience and rebellion.
Sadly, far too many families operate in the realm of a father that will not lead, even those who will lead but misinterpret the Word to mean the woman has no say at all, are also unbiblical and fostering rebellion against the authority of the Mother in the hearts of the children.
The mandate from God is for the children to "listen to the instruction of their father and to obey the law of their Mother." To negate one of these actions or attitudes is to bring revolt against the godly party and ultimately against the teachings of God.
When a Mother makes a rule in the house, the Father should honor that and show the children to respect and honor their Mother. When the Father instructs the children in the Lord, the Mother is to uphold that. Notice I said "in the Lord", it is impossible for a Mother to endorse ungodly teachings of the Father, it would force her to disobey God. The Mother must uphold the standards of God when the Father will not.
To understand this principle we must take it to it's extreme. If a Father teaches a child to look at filth on television in the house, the Mother must teach against this. She is the keeper and protector of the home, if she does not stand against it she is guilty of participating in the sin.
Acts 5:29 "But Peter and the apostles answered, "We must obey God rather than men."
When the Father will not listen, then the wife is to remove herself from the event and pray.
May these teachings and warnings serve to cause young people to evaluate the values of their potential spouses, that they choose wisely when they marry and pray for God to warn them of unseen attitudes before they make a life long commitment to marriage.
http://www.amazon.com/Wanting-Follow-Forced-Elizabeth-Baker/dp/0842382798
When the wives would stop leading there would be no spiritual interaction in the home at all. The devastating effects of total lack of spiritual guidance over time is too great for them, they begin to lead again, hoping against hope that the little that they can do would make a difference in their children's lives, for the Lord
Many women have experience contempt on the part of their children, it is natural for unregenerate children to favor the spouse who requires nothing from them. There are no rules, no chastisements and little instruction in anything except academics.
Men lead automatically, without trying, either for God or against Him. Whichever way the father goes the children will follow.
Some ladies have seen success in the hearts of their children from their teaching, however most have seen rebellion in the hearts of their children no matter what they do, when the husband will not lead or when the father leads them in worldly thinking and worldly pleasures.
Especially when the father displays subtle or outward demonstrations of contempt for his wife's Biblical instruction, there will be dissention on the part of the children. An attitude of contempt that follows into adulthood.
When the father acts as though he is irritated at the spiritual bent of his wife, even in subtle ways, the children learn to be the same toward their mother.
Proverbs 6:20 "My son, observe the commandment of your father And do not forsake the teaching of your mother;"
Proverbs 1:8 "My son, hear the instruction of thy father, and forsake not the law of thy mother:"
God gave children two parents for a reason, the law of the mother is just as important as the instruction of the father. Notice that God tells the children to listen to the instruction of the Father, but tells the children to obey the law of the Mother.
When two people work in tandem to bring the children up in the Lord, the children learn to respect and love both parents, favoritism is not an issue because the children see that the parents walk together in one life purpose and that is to glorify God in their upbringing.
When the father negates the mother, refusing to uphold her mandates for conduct in the Lord, he fosters a rebellion against authority and against the mother, in the children.
The same is true of the reverse, when the Father is trying to lead in the Lord and the Mother will not support him, it is natural for the child to gravitate toward the one who allows disobedience and rebellion.
Sadly, far too many families operate in the realm of a father that will not lead, even those who will lead but misinterpret the Word to mean the woman has no say at all, are also unbiblical and fostering rebellion against the authority of the Mother in the hearts of the children.
The mandate from God is for the children to "listen to the instruction of their father and to obey the law of their Mother." To negate one of these actions or attitudes is to bring revolt against the godly party and ultimately against the teachings of God.
When a Mother makes a rule in the house, the Father should honor that and show the children to respect and honor their Mother. When the Father instructs the children in the Lord, the Mother is to uphold that. Notice I said "in the Lord", it is impossible for a Mother to endorse ungodly teachings of the Father, it would force her to disobey God. The Mother must uphold the standards of God when the Father will not.
To understand this principle we must take it to it's extreme. If a Father teaches a child to look at filth on television in the house, the Mother must teach against this. She is the keeper and protector of the home, if she does not stand against it she is guilty of participating in the sin.
Acts 5:29 "But Peter and the apostles answered, "We must obey God rather than men."
When the Father will not listen, then the wife is to remove herself from the event and pray.
May these teachings and warnings serve to cause young people to evaluate the values of their potential spouses, that they choose wisely when they marry and pray for God to warn them of unseen attitudes before they make a life long commitment to marriage.
http://www.amazon.com/Wanting-Follow-Forced-Elizabeth-Baker/dp/0842382798
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