All you divorced and remarried people out there, please stop influencing the young people by speaking about your excuses for your actions.
We need to be developing in the young people the desire to be sacrificial and committed to their potential spouse no matter what!!!
Stop discouraging them about marriage! Many young people are not bothering to get married because they think that marriage is not a commitment, that when the going gets rough someone is going to bail out. These shack up's expect to be abandoned one day just as they were abandoned by their parents. When parents split and live apart, the children feel abandoned, no matter how many times they see their parents. There is a ripping and tearing of their security, they do not have two homes, they are homeless being a visitor at their parents homes.
The young people are already feeling abandoned by parents who couldn't stay together for the sake of the children, how could the children ever expect anyone else to love them in their imperfections, when the parent refused to accept and love their imperfect spouse.
Those who divorce are sending the message that we only stand by people if they are what we expect them to be. What if our expectations change, what if we end up finding out our spouse isn't as perfect as he/she acted when we were dating. Well, folks, that's on us, if we based our opinion of our boyfriend/girlfriend on how they treated us on an outing, then we were foolish. That made the potential spouse more about what they could give us than whether or not they displayed a character that was right for a family and it made us look ignorant because of the high opinion we have of self, that motivates us to evaluate our partner on the basis of their perfection or lack of it.
No one is perfect, get that......NO ONE IS PERFECT!!!
It is better to keep the mouth shut about divorce and remarriage excuses and begin to instill commitment and self sacrifice in our young rather than giving them a discouraging message before they even get to the altar.
When we have half of the marriages in the church today ending in divorce and almost always in remarriage, we have taught the children that leaving someone because we cannot get along, is the normal response to life. Why can these full grown adults not get alone the same way they didn't get along with a sibling or friend when they were five years old. My guess is because they were spoiled brats as children and remain spoiled brats as adults.
Sorry, there it is, eat it!
Romans 7:2-3
"For a married woman is bound by law to her husband while he lives, but if her husband dies she is released from the law of marriage. Accordingly, she will be called an adulteress if she lives with another man while her husband is alive. But if her husband dies, she is free from that law, and if she marries another man she is not an adulteress.""
We need to be developing in the young people the desire to be sacrificial and committed to their potential spouse no matter what!!!
Stop discouraging them about marriage! Many young people are not bothering to get married because they think that marriage is not a commitment, that when the going gets rough someone is going to bail out. These shack up's expect to be abandoned one day just as they were abandoned by their parents. When parents split and live apart, the children feel abandoned, no matter how many times they see their parents. There is a ripping and tearing of their security, they do not have two homes, they are homeless being a visitor at their parents homes.
The young people are already feeling abandoned by parents who couldn't stay together for the sake of the children, how could the children ever expect anyone else to love them in their imperfections, when the parent refused to accept and love their imperfect spouse.
Those who divorce are sending the message that we only stand by people if they are what we expect them to be. What if our expectations change, what if we end up finding out our spouse isn't as perfect as he/she acted when we were dating. Well, folks, that's on us, if we based our opinion of our boyfriend/girlfriend on how they treated us on an outing, then we were foolish. That made the potential spouse more about what they could give us than whether or not they displayed a character that was right for a family and it made us look ignorant because of the high opinion we have of self, that motivates us to evaluate our partner on the basis of their perfection or lack of it.
No one is perfect, get that......NO ONE IS PERFECT!!!
It is better to keep the mouth shut about divorce and remarriage excuses and begin to instill commitment and self sacrifice in our young rather than giving them a discouraging message before they even get to the altar.
When we have half of the marriages in the church today ending in divorce and almost always in remarriage, we have taught the children that leaving someone because we cannot get along, is the normal response to life. Why can these full grown adults not get alone the same way they didn't get along with a sibling or friend when they were five years old. My guess is because they were spoiled brats as children and remain spoiled brats as adults.
Sorry, there it is, eat it!
Romans 7:2-3
"For a married woman is bound by law to her husband while he lives, but if her husband dies she is released from the law of marriage. Accordingly, she will be called an adulteress if she lives with another man while her husband is alive. But if her husband dies, she is free from that law, and if she marries another man she is not an adulteress.""
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