Eject the Narcissist Who Attempts to Ruin Your Marriage

My husband and I could have named off pages of sins against each other over the years to justify splitting. Since we don't believe in divorce we worked through all of them. Now we have a great marriage of 47 years and getting better all the time.

Relatives even tried to convince my husband through favoritism that there was something wrong with me, but they failed because he has lived with me many years and knows me.

Triangulation is the term used for those who gossip to others warning them about another person without evidence of what they say.


Often the narcissist will build up in their own mind what they want to believe about their target, none of which is true, in order to justify their contempt for them.

If you are treated with contempt because you spoke the truth and the narcissist didn't like it, count it all joy that they are not in your life anymore.

Pray for God to deal with the narcissist while you move on to become the person God meant for you to be. Never allow the narcissist to interject into your marriage.

When the gossip flies and the hate progresses, it is time to move on to a new life without these destroyers of good.

Remember the feather pillow? The one someone took to the top of a high hill on a windy day and slit open to allow the feathers to fly? Yes that one! No one will ever be able to gather up all those feathers again, they have flown so far we cannot even see where they went. This is a picture of the effects of gossip.

One way to discern a gossip is the refusal to discuss their "concerns" with the one they gossip about. They even deny they gossiped when confronted.

Stay away from these people. They will accuse us of gossiping when we tell a trusted friend what was done to us, when they are the gossips. Accusing others of doing what the narcissist does but the others are not, is common.

Proverbs 19:9
"A false witness will not go unpunished, and he who breathes out lies will perish."

John 8:44
"You are of your father the devil, and your will is to do your father's desires. He was a murderer from the beginning, and has nothing to do with the truth, because there is no truth in him. When he lies, he speaks out of his own character, for he is a liar and the father of lies."

Proverbs 14:5
"A faithful witness does not lie, but a false witness breathes out lies."

The favored mindset of the narcissist is to justify their hatred by convincing themselves of things that are not true.