Tuesday, July 23, 2019
Narcissism is the Modern Word for the Description of a "Fool" in the Bible
Narcissists spend more time talking about people rather than speaking with them to come to an understanding. Narcissists have no desire to understand others they love their lies.
Perhaps the fear of having to admit their own bad attitude is too much for them, they cannot bring themselves to apologize or admit their own sin.
Proverbs 18:2
"A fool takes no pleasure in understanding, but only in expressing his opinion."
Proverbs 1:7
"The fear of the Lord is the beginning of knowledge; fools despise wisdom and instruction."
Proverbs 18:6
"A fool's lips walk into a fight, and his mouth invites a beating."
Proverbs 29:9
"If a wise man has an argument with a fool, the fool only rages and laughs, and there is no quiet."
These are difficult times we are living in, they are the end of the end. 2 Timothy 3 describes the mentalities of these end days that will grow worse before believers are taken home.
When we know the enemy we will not be fooled by his tricks and tactics. The devil is behind all that is happening, he is the destroyer of relationships and will not relent until he is thrown into the lake of fire.
Proverbs 28:26
"Whoever trusts in his own mind is a fool, but he who walks in wisdom will be delivered."
Those who walk with Christ, seeking Him for everything will not be affected by the tactics of the devil and his puppets.
Proverbs 14:7-9
"Leave the presence of a fool, for there you do not meet words of knowledge. The wisdom of the prudent is to discern his way, but the folly of fools is deceiving. Fools mock at the guilt offering, but the upright enjoy acceptance."
Perhaps the fear of having to admit their own bad attitude is too much for them, they cannot bring themselves to apologize or admit their own sin.
Proverbs 18:2
"A fool takes no pleasure in understanding, but only in expressing his opinion."
Proverbs 1:7
"The fear of the Lord is the beginning of knowledge; fools despise wisdom and instruction."
Proverbs 18:6
"A fool's lips walk into a fight, and his mouth invites a beating."
Proverbs 29:9
"If a wise man has an argument with a fool, the fool only rages and laughs, and there is no quiet."
These are difficult times we are living in, they are the end of the end. 2 Timothy 3 describes the mentalities of these end days that will grow worse before believers are taken home.
When we know the enemy we will not be fooled by his tricks and tactics. The devil is behind all that is happening, he is the destroyer of relationships and will not relent until he is thrown into the lake of fire.
Proverbs 28:26
"Whoever trusts in his own mind is a fool, but he who walks in wisdom will be delivered."
Those who walk with Christ, seeking Him for everything will not be affected by the tactics of the devil and his puppets.
Proverbs 14:7-9
"Leave the presence of a fool, for there you do not meet words of knowledge. The wisdom of the prudent is to discern his way, but the folly of fools is deceiving. Fools mock at the guilt offering, but the upright enjoy acceptance."
The Bent and Twisted Nose of the Busybody!
There is a terrible teaching that appeals to narcissistic husbands. There is a movement that makes the husband the god of the wife. There is a big difference between being a leader and being a god.
When a woman obeys a husband who is telling her to disobey God then that husband is the god over the woman usurping the authority of Christ in the woman's life.
Any woman who allows her husband to be in place of God has an idol in her life. As born again believers we desire to please our husbands everywhere we can, except when he asks us to dishonor God.
The function of the wife in obeying her husband is her choice to obey Him in obedience to God. If she disobeys God to obey a husband then God is not the authority over her, she places her husband in the place of God.
Leading is not the same as the function of a Holy God. Any man who dictates to the wife through intimidation and force is in sin against God.
1 Peter 3:7-9 "7 You husbands in the same way, live with your wives in an understanding way, as with someone weaker, since she is a woman; and show her honor as a fellow heir of the grace of life, so that your prayers will not be hindered.
8 To sum up, all of you be harmonious, sympathetic, brotherly, kindhearted, and humble in spirit;
9 not returning evil for evil or insult for insult, but giving a blessing instead; for you were called for the very purpose that you might inherit a blessing."
This post is about the treatment of men toward their wives because of the wrong doctrine that is becoming popular in the church. The idea that women are treated with contempt and dishonor simply because they are women. This is what the pagans do not the born again believers.
I could write all the scriptures about women submitting and obeying, but since that has been almost overdone to the point of placing nearly all the onus upon the woman for a good marriage through her hyper-submissioin, even as a child to a parent. It is in error and in need of correction.
Women should pay close attention to the mandate God has given her to obey and please her husband and men should pay close attention to his role of protecting, encouraging and honoring the wife. Each one must pay attention to the mandate given to them to be sure they are personally obeying God.
It is not for the man to beat the woman over the head with submission when the man is disobeying God through dishonoring the woman.
It is not for women to beat the man over the head with what God gave to him when the woman is not obeying God in the area that belongs to her.
If each spouse is obeying God then they will be living out the marriage as God instructed with great joy and peace. It is wrong for a spouse to focus on the duties of the other one, each one must focus on their own mandates from God.
If the husband will not obey God then the woman must speak of it and then leave it to God through prayer. If the woman is not obeying God the man must speak of it then leave it to God through prayer.
When each of us is looking to our own responsibility then it is less likely for there to be discord in the family. We are less likely to mistreat our spouse when we are focused on what we should be.
Adding to all this, if a child is judging the marriage of the parents that child is overstepping, inserting their nose where it does not belong. The child is not responsible to evaluate the marriage of their parents nor are inlaw children.
Each one must take care of their own business without judging what does not belong to them. There are so many nuances to relationships that onlookers cannot possibly know exactly what is going on with anyone.
The responsibility of the children is to honor and love their parents, not to judge their business.
Proverbs 1:8-9 "8 Listen, my son, to your father’s instruction, and do not forsake the teaching of your mother. 9 For they are a garland of grace on your head, and a pendant around your neck.
When each person pays close attention to their own stuff they will be less likely to have time to evaluate what everyone else is doing.
I have noticed in recent years that those who are in rebellion in their hearts are the ones looking to dominate and judge things that are none of their business.
Wise people understand they do not know everything about someone else's marriage or interpersonal relationships. Those who insert their nose into business that is not theirs ends up with a bent and twisted nose.
Proverbs 26:17
"17 Like one who takes a dog by the ears
Is he who passes by and [a]meddles with strife not belonging to him."
1 Thessalonians 4:10-12
"10 for indeed you do practice it toward all the brethren who are in all Macedonia. But we urge you, brethren, to excel still more, 11 and to make it your ambition to lead a quiet life and attend to your own business and work with your hands, just as we commanded you, 12 so that you will behave properly toward outsiders and not be in any need."
2 Thessalonians 3:11-13
"11 For we hear that some among you are leading an undisciplined life, doing no work at all, but acting like busybodies.
12 Now such persons we command and exhort in the Lord Jesus Christ to work in quiet fashion and eat their own bread.
13 But as for you, brethren, do not grow weary of doing good."
Exodus 23:1-2
Sundry Laws
"23 “You shall not bear a false report; do not join your hand with a wicked man to be a malicious witness.
2 You shall not follow the masses in doing evil, nor shall you testify in a dispute so as to turn aside after a multitude in order to pervert justice;"
When someone makes judgments about others when they could not possibly know all the nuances of a person's life, they are in sin.
When a woman obeys a husband who is telling her to disobey God then that husband is the god over the woman usurping the authority of Christ in the woman's life.
Any woman who allows her husband to be in place of God has an idol in her life. As born again believers we desire to please our husbands everywhere we can, except when he asks us to dishonor God.
The function of the wife in obeying her husband is her choice to obey Him in obedience to God. If she disobeys God to obey a husband then God is not the authority over her, she places her husband in the place of God.
Leading is not the same as the function of a Holy God. Any man who dictates to the wife through intimidation and force is in sin against God.
1 Peter 3:7-9 "7 You husbands in the same way, live with your wives in an understanding way, as with someone weaker, since she is a woman; and show her honor as a fellow heir of the grace of life, so that your prayers will not be hindered.
8 To sum up, all of you be harmonious, sympathetic, brotherly, kindhearted, and humble in spirit;
9 not returning evil for evil or insult for insult, but giving a blessing instead; for you were called for the very purpose that you might inherit a blessing."
This post is about the treatment of men toward their wives because of the wrong doctrine that is becoming popular in the church. The idea that women are treated with contempt and dishonor simply because they are women. This is what the pagans do not the born again believers.
I could write all the scriptures about women submitting and obeying, but since that has been almost overdone to the point of placing nearly all the onus upon the woman for a good marriage through her hyper-submissioin, even as a child to a parent. It is in error and in need of correction.
Women should pay close attention to the mandate God has given her to obey and please her husband and men should pay close attention to his role of protecting, encouraging and honoring the wife. Each one must pay attention to the mandate given to them to be sure they are personally obeying God.
It is not for the man to beat the woman over the head with submission when the man is disobeying God through dishonoring the woman.
It is not for women to beat the man over the head with what God gave to him when the woman is not obeying God in the area that belongs to her.
If each spouse is obeying God then they will be living out the marriage as God instructed with great joy and peace. It is wrong for a spouse to focus on the duties of the other one, each one must focus on their own mandates from God.
If the husband will not obey God then the woman must speak of it and then leave it to God through prayer. If the woman is not obeying God the man must speak of it then leave it to God through prayer.
When each of us is looking to our own responsibility then it is less likely for there to be discord in the family. We are less likely to mistreat our spouse when we are focused on what we should be.
Adding to all this, if a child is judging the marriage of the parents that child is overstepping, inserting their nose where it does not belong. The child is not responsible to evaluate the marriage of their parents nor are inlaw children.
Each one must take care of their own business without judging what does not belong to them. There are so many nuances to relationships that onlookers cannot possibly know exactly what is going on with anyone.
The responsibility of the children is to honor and love their parents, not to judge their business.
Proverbs 1:8-9 "8 Listen, my son, to your father’s instruction, and do not forsake the teaching of your mother. 9 For they are a garland of grace on your head, and a pendant around your neck.
When each person pays close attention to their own stuff they will be less likely to have time to evaluate what everyone else is doing.
I have noticed in recent years that those who are in rebellion in their hearts are the ones looking to dominate and judge things that are none of their business.
Wise people understand they do not know everything about someone else's marriage or interpersonal relationships. Those who insert their nose into business that is not theirs ends up with a bent and twisted nose.
Proverbs 26:17
"17 Like one who takes a dog by the ears
Is he who passes by and [a]meddles with strife not belonging to him."
1 Thessalonians 4:10-12
"10 for indeed you do practice it toward all the brethren who are in all Macedonia. But we urge you, brethren, to excel still more, 11 and to make it your ambition to lead a quiet life and attend to your own business and work with your hands, just as we commanded you, 12 so that you will behave properly toward outsiders and not be in any need."
2 Thessalonians 3:11-13
"11 For we hear that some among you are leading an undisciplined life, doing no work at all, but acting like busybodies.
12 Now such persons we command and exhort in the Lord Jesus Christ to work in quiet fashion and eat their own bread.
13 But as for you, brethren, do not grow weary of doing good."
Exodus 23:1-2
Sundry Laws
"23 “You shall not bear a false report; do not join your hand with a wicked man to be a malicious witness.
2 You shall not follow the masses in doing evil, nor shall you testify in a dispute so as to turn aside after a multitude in order to pervert justice;"
When someone makes judgments about others when they could not possibly know all the nuances of a person's life, they are in sin.
Ananias and Sapphira Lied
Sapphira obeyed Ananias when he told her to lie to the Holy Spirit, she obeyed her husband and yet look what God did!
Acts 5:1-11
"5 But a man named Ananias, with his wife Sapphira, sold a piece of property,
2 and kept back some of the price for himself, with his wife’s full knowledge, and bringing a portion of it, he laid it at the apostles’ feet.
3 But Peter said, “Ananias, why has Satan filled your heart to lie to the Holy Spirit and to keep back some of the price of the land? 4 While it remained unsold, did it not remain your own? And after it was sold, was it not under your control? Why is it that you have conceived this deed in your heart? You have not lied to men but to God.”
5 And as he heard these words, Ananias fell down and breathed his last; and great fear came over all who heard of it.
6 The young men got up and covered him up, and after carrying him out, they buried him.
7 Now there elapsed an interval of about three hours, and his wife came in, not knowing what had happened.
8 And Peter responded to her, “Tell me whether you sold the land for such and such a price?” And she said, “Yes, that was the price.”
9 Then Peter said to her, “Why is it that you have agreed together to put the Spirit of the Lord to the test? Behold, the feet of those who have buried your husband are at the door, and they will carry you out as well.”
10 And immediately she fell at his feet and breathed her last, and the young men came in and found her dead, and they carried her out and buried her beside her husband.
11 And great fear came over the whole church, and over all who heard of these things."
Ladies it is your job to speak truth to your husband, if he will not listen stop talking and go to God with the concern. If you speak truth to your husband but do not go to prayer before and after then you have neglected to consult with God for guidance.
Ananias didn't have to give all his money but he wanted to impress others with how much he gave so he lied. Impressing others I am sure became silly when he realized it only caused his death and the death of his wife.
Does anyone else notice there was no "memorial" or "funeral" for Ananias and Sapphira?
Notice too that no one warned Sapphira that her husband had died and that she was under a threat too. They allowed her to do what was really in her heart, that was to lie as she and her husband decided to do. Then she was given the consequences for her lying.
Perhaps if she had influenced her husband not to lie they would have learned how to be honest and both would have lived. Never allow another person to cause you to sin, no matter who that person is.
Acts 5:1-11
"5 But a man named Ananias, with his wife Sapphira, sold a piece of property,
2 and kept back some of the price for himself, with his wife’s full knowledge, and bringing a portion of it, he laid it at the apostles’ feet.
3 But Peter said, “Ananias, why has Satan filled your heart to lie to the Holy Spirit and to keep back some of the price of the land? 4 While it remained unsold, did it not remain your own? And after it was sold, was it not under your control? Why is it that you have conceived this deed in your heart? You have not lied to men but to God.”
5 And as he heard these words, Ananias fell down and breathed his last; and great fear came over all who heard of it.
6 The young men got up and covered him up, and after carrying him out, they buried him.
7 Now there elapsed an interval of about three hours, and his wife came in, not knowing what had happened.
8 And Peter responded to her, “Tell me whether you sold the land for such and such a price?” And she said, “Yes, that was the price.”
9 Then Peter said to her, “Why is it that you have agreed together to put the Spirit of the Lord to the test? Behold, the feet of those who have buried your husband are at the door, and they will carry you out as well.”
10 And immediately she fell at his feet and breathed her last, and the young men came in and found her dead, and they carried her out and buried her beside her husband.
11 And great fear came over the whole church, and over all who heard of these things."
Ladies it is your job to speak truth to your husband, if he will not listen stop talking and go to God with the concern. If you speak truth to your husband but do not go to prayer before and after then you have neglected to consult with God for guidance.
Ananias didn't have to give all his money but he wanted to impress others with how much he gave so he lied. Impressing others I am sure became silly when he realized it only caused his death and the death of his wife.
Does anyone else notice there was no "memorial" or "funeral" for Ananias and Sapphira?
Notice too that no one warned Sapphira that her husband had died and that she was under a threat too. They allowed her to do what was really in her heart, that was to lie as she and her husband decided to do. Then she was given the consequences for her lying.
Perhaps if she had influenced her husband not to lie they would have learned how to be honest and both would have lived. Never allow another person to cause you to sin, no matter who that person is.
Remember Ananias and Sappirrah?
The devil is in the business of distorting and perverting everything that God has said.
In the garden the devil went after the very thing the Lord loved, that is Eve, the human creation. Notice that the devil knew the woman was more trusting and easily deceived. He also knew that if he could deceive her, she would influence her husband.
It was God's design that the woman be the helpmate to her husband in every way, even in counseling him.
The devil knew if he could influence Eve to question God, Eve would influence Adam, her husband to also question God. I have known several women who became born again before their husband did, later to be followed by their husband.
When God made two people one in the marriage union He melded their souls together so that they would support and help one another. If the devil influenced one half of the oneness union, the other half would be likely to follow.
This is why it is so important that believers marry believers. Our love and dedication to our spouse is very strong and able to sway the decisions of the other.
The strong believer who is married to an unbeliever must remain strong even when the spouse does not follow, otherwise the non-believer will affect the walk of the believer. I have also seen cases in which the woman blindly followed the husband when he was disobedient to God, causing a turning of the whole family against the Lord.
1 Corinthians 15:33-34 "33 Do not be deceived: “Bad company corrupts good character.” 34 Sober up as you ought, and stop sinning; for some of you are ignorant of God. I say this to your shame.…"
When we are born again our allegiance is toward God first and then our spouse. If our spouse will not walk with God we must do it anyway, no matter the pressure or ill treatment from the spouse.
Those who are believers married to unbelievers can win their spouse by their devotion and obedience to their God. Serving our husbands while remaining faithful to Christ can win the husband to the Lord.
1 Peter 3:1 "In the same way, you wives, be submissive to your own husbands so that even if any of them are disobedient to the word, they may be won without a word by the behavior of their wives,"
We are to submit to our husband only when they are not asking us to disobey God.
Acts 5:29
"29 Then Peter and the other apostles answered and said, We ought to obey God rather than men."
1 Peter 4:17
"17 For it is time for judgment to begin at the household of God; and if it begins with us, what will be the outcome for those who do not obey the gospel of God?"
When we stand before the Lord He will not be asking did you do everything your spouse wanted. God will be asking "Did you obey ME."
John 14:15
“If you love me, you will keep my commandments."
John 14:23
"Jesus answered him, “If anyone loves me, he will keep my word, and my Father will love him, and we will come to him and make our home with him."
Each individual will stand before the Lord alone!
No woman will be able to use their husband as an excuse as to why they disobeyed God. No man will be able to use their wife as an excuse.
Remember Ananias and Sapphirah? The wife obeyed her husband in lying to the Holy Spirit and God killed her because of it.
In the garden the devil went after the very thing the Lord loved, that is Eve, the human creation. Notice that the devil knew the woman was more trusting and easily deceived. He also knew that if he could deceive her, she would influence her husband.
It was God's design that the woman be the helpmate to her husband in every way, even in counseling him.
The devil knew if he could influence Eve to question God, Eve would influence Adam, her husband to also question God. I have known several women who became born again before their husband did, later to be followed by their husband.
When God made two people one in the marriage union He melded their souls together so that they would support and help one another. If the devil influenced one half of the oneness union, the other half would be likely to follow.
This is why it is so important that believers marry believers. Our love and dedication to our spouse is very strong and able to sway the decisions of the other.
The strong believer who is married to an unbeliever must remain strong even when the spouse does not follow, otherwise the non-believer will affect the walk of the believer. I have also seen cases in which the woman blindly followed the husband when he was disobedient to God, causing a turning of the whole family against the Lord.
1 Corinthians 15:33-34 "33 Do not be deceived: “Bad company corrupts good character.” 34 Sober up as you ought, and stop sinning; for some of you are ignorant of God. I say this to your shame.…"
When we are born again our allegiance is toward God first and then our spouse. If our spouse will not walk with God we must do it anyway, no matter the pressure or ill treatment from the spouse.
Those who are believers married to unbelievers can win their spouse by their devotion and obedience to their God. Serving our husbands while remaining faithful to Christ can win the husband to the Lord.
1 Peter 3:1 "In the same way, you wives, be submissive to your own husbands so that even if any of them are disobedient to the word, they may be won without a word by the behavior of their wives,"
We are to submit to our husband only when they are not asking us to disobey God.
Acts 5:29
"29 Then Peter and the other apostles answered and said, We ought to obey God rather than men."
1 Peter 4:17
"17 For it is time for judgment to begin at the household of God; and if it begins with us, what will be the outcome for those who do not obey the gospel of God?"
When we stand before the Lord He will not be asking did you do everything your spouse wanted. God will be asking "Did you obey ME."
John 14:15
“If you love me, you will keep my commandments."
John 14:23
"Jesus answered him, “If anyone loves me, he will keep my word, and my Father will love him, and we will come to him and make our home with him."
Each individual will stand before the Lord alone!
No woman will be able to use their husband as an excuse as to why they disobeyed God. No man will be able to use their wife as an excuse.
Remember Ananias and Sapphirah? The wife obeyed her husband in lying to the Holy Spirit and God killed her because of it.
Christ is With Us All the Time
Ignore the Attacks, Speak the Truth
We can be completely unaffected by the attacks of those who do not love our God.
Perhaps even moving into an empathy for them because of their misery and lostness.
There was a day when I was more self focused, I agonized over the ill treatment from others. Now I feel sorry for them that they miss the love of the Lord and the blessing of kindness.
Do you find yourself attempting to appease and impress those who are lost without Christ? Or, do you find yourself desiring to warn them about their lost state to bring them under conviction to choose Christ?
If you are working to make people like you then you have a false gospel.
Luke 15:6-7 “And when he comes home, he calls together his friends and his neighbors, saying to them, ‘Rejoice with me, for I have found my sheep that was lost.’ Just so, I tell you, there will be more joy in heaven over one sinner who repents than over ninety-nine righteous persons who need no repentance.”
Ephesians 2:1-2 “And you were dead in the trespasses and sins in which you once walked, following the course of this world, following the prince of the power of the air, the spirit that is now at work in the sons of disobedience.”
Luke 15:31-32 “And he said to him, ‘Son, you are always with me, and all that is mine is yours. It was fitting to celebrate and be glad, for this your brother was dead, and is alive; he was lost, and is found.’”
Luke 15:4-5 “What man of you, having a hundred sheep, if he has lost one of them, does not leave the ninety-nine in the open country, and go after the one that is lost, until he finds it? And when he has found it, he lays it on his shoulders, rejoicing.”
Perhaps even moving into an empathy for them because of their misery and lostness.
There was a day when I was more self focused, I agonized over the ill treatment from others. Now I feel sorry for them that they miss the love of the Lord and the blessing of kindness.
Do you find yourself attempting to appease and impress those who are lost without Christ? Or, do you find yourself desiring to warn them about their lost state to bring them under conviction to choose Christ?
If you are working to make people like you then you have a false gospel.
Luke 15:6-7 “And when he comes home, he calls together his friends and his neighbors, saying to them, ‘Rejoice with me, for I have found my sheep that was lost.’ Just so, I tell you, there will be more joy in heaven over one sinner who repents than over ninety-nine righteous persons who need no repentance.”
Ephesians 2:1-2 “And you were dead in the trespasses and sins in which you once walked, following the course of this world, following the prince of the power of the air, the spirit that is now at work in the sons of disobedience.”
Luke 15:31-32 “And he said to him, ‘Son, you are always with me, and all that is mine is yours. It was fitting to celebrate and be glad, for this your brother was dead, and is alive; he was lost, and is found.’”
Luke 15:4-5 “What man of you, having a hundred sheep, if he has lost one of them, does not leave the ninety-nine in the open country, and go after the one that is lost, until he finds it? And when he has found it, he lays it on his shoulders, rejoicing.”
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