10 Nonverbal Abuse Tactics

Avoid Gossipers and Their Flying Monkeys

Those who attempt to guess what others are doing and why without really knowing the whole matter are gossips and worse they are those who repeat what they do not know as fact to those who have no business knowing in the first place.

If someone has no "need to know" something about someone else then it should not be heard by the hearer or repeated by the one who guesses.

It has been my experience that much gossip is based on what the gossiper wishes to believe about someone that is not true rather than any facts or personal involvement.

I cannot tell you the number of times I have been rejected because of a lie a gossiper told without ever inquiring of me about the truth.

Sadly there is a term now that is common, its called; "flying monkeys", these are the people who believe the gossip they hear and act in angry mean spirited ways toward the one who was maligned by the gossip.

The flying monkey's never got to the one who has been maligned to hear their side, they just enjoy the lies and repeat them to anyone else who seems interested.

2 Corinthians 12:20 says, "For I fear that when I come I may find you not such as I wish, and that you may find me not as you wish; that there may be rivalry, jealousy, fury, selfishness, slander, gossip, conceit, and disorder".

Ephesians 4:29 says, "Let no corrupt communication proceed out of your mouth, but that which is good to the use of edifying, that it may minister grace unto the hearers".

James 1:26 "26If anyone considers himself religious and yet does not bridle his tongue, he deceives his heart and his religion is worthless."

There are also those who take things they have seen out of context and twist them to mean something that was not meant and was not said to entice others to be on their side against the one they hate.

1 Corinthians 13:3-5 "…3If I give all I possess to the poor and exult in the surrender of my body, but have not love, I gain nothing. 4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no account of wrongs.…"

Many pretenders justify gossip, enjoy disrespect toward others and cannot be content just to believe their own lies they must gain supporters against the person whom they are envious of and hateful toward.

There is nothing we can do about those who gossip against us or their flying monkeys, except to avoid them as much as possible. Until they are convicted of their sin and become born again they cannot be our constant companions.

Removing all the gossipers and the flying monkeys from our lives is endorsed by God even commanded.

2 Timothy 3:1-5

Difficult Times Will Come

"3 But realize this, that in the last days difficult times will come.

2 For people will be lovers of self, lovers of money, boastful, arrogant, slanderers, disobedient to parents, ungrateful, unholy,

3 unloving, irreconcilable, malicious gossips, without self-control, brutal, [a]haters of good,

4 treacherous, reckless, conceited, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God,

5 holding to a form of godliness although they have denied its power; avoid such people as these."

Verse 5 clearly states that they even have "religion" self-righteous and rude, and that we are to "avoid such people as these."

If we obey God we will find ourselves living a much more peaceful life with those who also love Him.

Hebrews 1:9

"You have loved righteousness and hated wickedness; therefore God, Your God, has anointed You above Your companions with the oil of joy."

When we love righteousness and hate evil we will want our companions who love Christ and the things that He loves.

One of the Biggest Lies of the Pretenders in the Church Who are Led by the Devil to Deceive Many

Anyone who claims they can sin all they want after salvation was never changed into a new creation by Christ. We only become born again by coming to Christ in shame over our sinful nature wanting Him to change us. Anyone who "decides" to become a Christian is doing it in the flesh and will not be thinking like someone who has been changed by Christ.

When He changes us it is His work and He changes the way we think permanently. We can never think that old way again, it has passed away and we have become new creatures.

2 Corinthians 5:17 "

"Therefore if anyone is in Christ, this person is a new creation; the old things passed away; behold, new things have come."

Ephesians 2:10

"10 For we are his workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand, that we should walk in them."

Those who have been changed by Christ have the Holy Spirit living in them to convict them of sin so that if they do fall they have an advocate and they desire to be cleansed of that sin.

When we become born again we hate our sin and want to be cleansed.

1 John 1:9 "9 If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness."

1 John 2:1 "My little children, I am writing these things to you so that you may not sin. And if anyone sins, we have an Advocate with the Father, Jesus Christ the righteous;"

We have many pretenders in the church who may even say a lot of right things but who have never been born again.

Matthew 7:21-23 "21 “Not everyone who says to me, ‘Lord, Lord,’ will enter the kingdom of heaven, but the one who does the will of my Father who is in heaven. 22 On that day many will say to me, ‘Lord, Lord, did we not prophesy in your name, and cast out demons in your name, and do many mighty works in your name?’ 23 And then will I declare to them, ‘I never knew you; depart from me, you workers of lawlessness.’"

My heart becomes agitated every time I hear a person claiming to be a Christian, say that sin doesn't matter anymore, because we are under the blood.

This is such a lie, if sin didn't matter then why would Christ go to the cross and endure a terrible death for something that was no big deal?

Christ didn't die on that cross to allow us to be comfortable with sin, even flaunting it. He died on the cross to free us from sin and make us righteous.

Romans 6:18 in the Bible states, "You have been set free from sin and have become slaves to righteousness".

Feel free to rebuke sharply anyone who would bring the false gospel of "freedom to sin" after salvation. This is exactly what the devil would teach to remove the witnesses of Christ from the culture.

When we became born again we were completely changed by Christ, this is a witness to the world around us that He has the power to change anyone who wants to be changed by Him.

Never remain silent when a "pretender" attempts to convince you it is alright to sin after salvation. They are lying against God and denying His power to change people.

Thankful for God's Promises to Us

I am thankful I have the promise of God to one day be in heaven with all my Spiritual brothers and sisters who are also watching for His return right now.

Titus 2:13 "Looking for the blessed hope and the glorious appearing of the great God and our Savior Jesus Christ".

All those who are watching and waiting for His return are full of joy and know that everything that happens on this earth has been prophesied and has a purpose as God is in control.

Titus 2:12-14 "…12 It instructs us to renounce ungodliness and worldly passions, and to live sensible, upright, and godly lives in the present age, 13 as we await the blessed hope and glorious appearance of our great God and Savior Jesus Christ. 14 He gave Himself for us to redeem us from all lawlessness and to purify for Himself a people for His own possession, zealous for good deeds."

There is no greater hope than the return of Christ for His bride. And, the promise that all of Israel will be saved during the tribulation. God will not forsake the nation and many will trust in Christ because of the miracles He is and will be doing there.

Look to Christ and all things will then make sense.