Tuesday, June 3, 2025
The Disinformation of the Narcissist
A narcissist cannot be accurate about us because they base everything they think about others on how they wish to imagine them. If they don't like you, they will interpret everything wrong and bad, even when what you said and did was perfectly reasonable.
Since I have had a lot of narcissists in my life over the years, I understand that none of them know me at all but believe they do. This is true of every scapegoat; the narcissist never sees the real person, they only see people as objects to use, and if the object cannot be controlled by them, they seek to destroy them.
The gossip that has occurred over the years has solidified in the minds of gossipers and their friends who believe them, so much so that they have basically brainwashed themselves to believe untruths.
It is curious that the narcissist will never discuss anything to find out the truth. Just as Eve didn't go to God when Satan lied to her. She wanted to believe the lie. If she had gone to God He would have instructed her that the devil was trying to ruin her relationship with Him.
Satan did this with Eve in the garden, enticing her to believe something about God that was not true. God gave a rule that the first couple was allowed to enjoy the entire garden except one tree. Adam and Eve, rather than being grateful for the entire garden, yearned after what they were not supposed to have. All because the devil planted ideas in their heads that the One (God) the couple should love, and Who loved them was lying to them, withholding something they should have.
Narcissists are like this, too; they want adoration and a godlike status so much that they are willing to ruin relationships for those who do not view them as more special than anyone else.
There are clues the narcissist carries all the time that can warn us someone is like this; it doesn't take very much exposure to them to see their manipulation and attempts at intimidation. They expect to be heard but are not tolerant of anyone else being heard.
One of the main characteristics is the lack of all the fruit of the Spirit. These people are continually angry, ready to pounce at the slightest indication that we would walk our own walk and not theirs.
Galatians 5:22-23 "But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control; against such things there is no law."
Those who love themselves more than others talk more than anyone else. When others disagree, they become angry and lash out to intimidate. When they cannot control you to make you like them, they gossip to others the lies they wish to believe themselves to turn others against you.
There is a saying I have heard, I don't know who said it, but I have seen it in practice myself.
"If the narcissist cannot control you, they will attempt to control how others see you."
The best way to handle the narcissist is to stay away from them as much as possible, don't tell them anything about your life, and remove those who believe the narcissist's lies.
Narcissists will goad us into responding according to their mess. This is why it is best to ignore them, do not respond, and let your silence convict them.
Proverbs 22:24-25 "24 Do not make friends with an angry man, and do not associate with a hot-tempered man, 25 or you may learn his ways and entangle yourself in a snare."
James 1:19-20
"My beloved brothers, understand this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to anger, for man’s anger does not bring about the righteousness that God desires."
Ephesians 4:31
"Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, outcry and slander, along with every form of malice."
Colossians 3:8
"But now you must put aside all such things as these: anger, rage, malice, slander, and filthy language from your lips."
The best way to handle a narcissist is to refuse to be like them.
1 Corinthians 1533 "Do not be deceived: “Bad company corrupts good character.”
2 Timothy 2:24
"And a servant of the Lord must not be quarrelsome, but must be kind to everyone, able to teach, and forbearing."
Since I have had a lot of narcissists in my life over the years, I understand that none of them know me at all but believe they do. This is true of every scapegoat; the narcissist never sees the real person, they only see people as objects to use, and if the object cannot be controlled by them, they seek to destroy them.
The gossip that has occurred over the years has solidified in the minds of gossipers and their friends who believe them, so much so that they have basically brainwashed themselves to believe untruths.
It is curious that the narcissist will never discuss anything to find out the truth. Just as Eve didn't go to God when Satan lied to her. She wanted to believe the lie. If she had gone to God He would have instructed her that the devil was trying to ruin her relationship with Him.
Satan did this with Eve in the garden, enticing her to believe something about God that was not true. God gave a rule that the first couple was allowed to enjoy the entire garden except one tree. Adam and Eve, rather than being grateful for the entire garden, yearned after what they were not supposed to have. All because the devil planted ideas in their heads that the One (God) the couple should love, and Who loved them was lying to them, withholding something they should have.
Narcissists are like this, too; they want adoration and a godlike status so much that they are willing to ruin relationships for those who do not view them as more special than anyone else.
There are clues the narcissist carries all the time that can warn us someone is like this; it doesn't take very much exposure to them to see their manipulation and attempts at intimidation. They expect to be heard but are not tolerant of anyone else being heard.
One of the main characteristics is the lack of all the fruit of the Spirit. These people are continually angry, ready to pounce at the slightest indication that we would walk our own walk and not theirs.
Galatians 5:22-23 "But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control; against such things there is no law."
Those who love themselves more than others talk more than anyone else. When others disagree, they become angry and lash out to intimidate. When they cannot control you to make you like them, they gossip to others the lies they wish to believe themselves to turn others against you.
There is a saying I have heard, I don't know who said it, but I have seen it in practice myself.
"If the narcissist cannot control you, they will attempt to control how others see you."
The best way to handle the narcissist is to stay away from them as much as possible, don't tell them anything about your life, and remove those who believe the narcissist's lies.
Narcissists will goad us into responding according to their mess. This is why it is best to ignore them, do not respond, and let your silence convict them.
Proverbs 22:24-25 "24 Do not make friends with an angry man, and do not associate with a hot-tempered man, 25 or you may learn his ways and entangle yourself in a snare."
James 1:19-20
"My beloved brothers, understand this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to anger, for man’s anger does not bring about the righteousness that God desires."
Ephesians 4:31
"Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, outcry and slander, along with every form of malice."
Colossians 3:8
"But now you must put aside all such things as these: anger, rage, malice, slander, and filthy language from your lips."
The best way to handle a narcissist is to refuse to be like them.
1 Corinthians 1533 "Do not be deceived: “Bad company corrupts good character.”
2 Timothy 2:24
"And a servant of the Lord must not be quarrelsome, but must be kind to everyone, able to teach, and forbearing."
The World is Full of Lies, Trust in Christ Alone
Since we know there are more lies on the internet than there is truth, we can ignore it while deliberately being skeptical. Only a fool believes everything they see and hear.
Proverbs 14:15-16 "15 The simple man believes every word, but the prudent man watches his steps. 16 A wise man fears and turns from evil, but a fool is careless and reckless.…"
We are living in the days of intense and constant deception. These are the conditions of the days right before Christ takes out His church.
If something we see or hear has nothing to do with our walk with Christ and does not pertain to us, we must leave it alone. So many people are looking for articles and videos on the internet for things they like to believe, causing fear and discontent in them that do not glorify Christ.
Ephesians 5:15-17
Pay careful attention, then, to how you walk, not as unwise but as wise, / redeeming the time, because the days are evil. Therefore, do not be foolish, but understand what the Lord’s will is."
God never told us to search for the bad to be able to know it. My question is, "Why would I want to know something that I can't change and has nothing to do with me?"
God placed us each in our own corner of the world to do what He wants us to do; this is where we need to focus. Not information just to know stuff, but remain absorbed in the gospel and living out our walk with Christ in our own communities.
I like to pursue the web for news of Israel because it pertains to prophecy, even then I have to be led by the Holy Spirit on what to believe. God gave us the end times situations and events outlined in the Bible to show us that we can believe the Bible. It is helpful in witnessing Christ to those who see all these things but don't know why is happening.
Personally, I don't want my head filled with garbage that only sticks there when I don't want to have filthy thoughts about the goings on in the world.
Proverbs 4:23: "Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.".
The ugly problems of the world stick like glue in our heads, causing fear and resentment. Filling our minds with filth just to know about it is a form of gossip.
Matthew 10:16
"Behold, I am sending you out like sheep among wolves; therefore be as shrewd as snakes and as innocent as doves."
Ephesians 5:10-12 "…10 Test and prove what pleases the Lord. 11 Have no fellowship with the fruitless deeds of darkness, but rather expose them. 12 For it is shameful even to mention what the disobedient do in secret."
If it is shameful to even mention the details of evil in the world, then we ought to abstain from them. We can't avoid knowing some things because others talk about them, but we can refrain from looking for them on the internet.
Our calling is the gospel and living quiet lives; the witness of our peace and kindness will say volumes to those who see a world falling apart while we remain steady and calm.
My goal is to encourage believers and bring the gospel to unbelievers. When they bring up the ugly things of the world, I will be able to bring their mind back to Christ and His purpose in everything. Then perhaps they will see the need to trust in Him. Agreeing with the unbeliever about the ugliness of the world won't get them to heaven. However, showing them Christ and His Word is the way we communicate hope to the unbeliever.
If Christ is our continual focus, the world will not be, it's passing away, but believers are on their way to heaven, ready to go home, but before they do, they can obey God in expressing the hope of salvation through faith in Christ before we go.
Proverbs 14:15-16 "15 The simple man believes every word, but the prudent man watches his steps. 16 A wise man fears and turns from evil, but a fool is careless and reckless.…"
We are living in the days of intense and constant deception. These are the conditions of the days right before Christ takes out His church.
If something we see or hear has nothing to do with our walk with Christ and does not pertain to us, we must leave it alone. So many people are looking for articles and videos on the internet for things they like to believe, causing fear and discontent in them that do not glorify Christ.
Ephesians 5:15-17
Pay careful attention, then, to how you walk, not as unwise but as wise, / redeeming the time, because the days are evil. Therefore, do not be foolish, but understand what the Lord’s will is."
God never told us to search for the bad to be able to know it. My question is, "Why would I want to know something that I can't change and has nothing to do with me?"
God placed us each in our own corner of the world to do what He wants us to do; this is where we need to focus. Not information just to know stuff, but remain absorbed in the gospel and living out our walk with Christ in our own communities.
I like to pursue the web for news of Israel because it pertains to prophecy, even then I have to be led by the Holy Spirit on what to believe. God gave us the end times situations and events outlined in the Bible to show us that we can believe the Bible. It is helpful in witnessing Christ to those who see all these things but don't know why is happening.
Personally, I don't want my head filled with garbage that only sticks there when I don't want to have filthy thoughts about the goings on in the world.
Proverbs 4:23: "Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.".
The ugly problems of the world stick like glue in our heads, causing fear and resentment. Filling our minds with filth just to know about it is a form of gossip.
Matthew 10:16
"Behold, I am sending you out like sheep among wolves; therefore be as shrewd as snakes and as innocent as doves."
Ephesians 5:10-12 "…10 Test and prove what pleases the Lord. 11 Have no fellowship with the fruitless deeds of darkness, but rather expose them. 12 For it is shameful even to mention what the disobedient do in secret."
If it is shameful to even mention the details of evil in the world, then we ought to abstain from them. We can't avoid knowing some things because others talk about them, but we can refrain from looking for them on the internet.
Our calling is the gospel and living quiet lives; the witness of our peace and kindness will say volumes to those who see a world falling apart while we remain steady and calm.
My goal is to encourage believers and bring the gospel to unbelievers. When they bring up the ugly things of the world, I will be able to bring their mind back to Christ and His purpose in everything. Then perhaps they will see the need to trust in Him. Agreeing with the unbeliever about the ugliness of the world won't get them to heaven. However, showing them Christ and His Word is the way we communicate hope to the unbeliever.
If Christ is our continual focus, the world will not be, it's passing away, but believers are on their way to heaven, ready to go home, but before they do, they can obey God in expressing the hope of salvation through faith in Christ before we go.
False Believers Love Their Gossip
There are false believers in this world who are just watching us, hoping we will do something they can criticize. The devil places in their heads false interpretations of what we say and do in an attempt to silence us, just as he did with Eve in the Garden when he convinced her God did something wrong and she didn't have to listen to Him.
The worst part is these types of people do not want to resolve anything; they prefer their false belief based on their jealousy and anger that resides inside of them. They have a tendency to trust those who lie rather than resolve it with the person gossiped about. Fearing the anger of the gossiper, the listener chooses the gossiper over the one gossiped about.
Sadly, these people have friends whom they speak to, convincing those people to believe what the narcissist tells them.
Remember, when we act disrespectfully toward someone because of what others have said about them, we are making a choice to believe something we have not seen for ourselves. This is gossip, and the ones who believe it are the same as those who spread it.
Proverbs 11:13 "A gossip betrays a confidence, but a trustworthy person keeps a secret."
Never confide in those who are not trustworthy. When we confess a sin or problem we have repented from, the gossip will be more than happy to spread it to whomever will listen, even if we repented and never did that sin again. They do not love anyone enough to share in their grief over sin and rejoice in the repentance. These individuals only care about being superior to others, and they achieve this by betraying a confidence.
Someone who has gossiped never repeats when they hear from the one who confided in them; they always embellish to make it sound worse, or will even make up a lie entirely to be sure the resolved problem still remains in their story.
The Pharisees lied against Christ; they asserted that Christ did His miracles by the power of the devil, causing many people to hate Him.
Matthew 12:23-25 "… 23 The crowds were astounded and asked, “Could this be the Son of David?” 24But when the Pharisees heard this, they said, “Only by Beelzebul, the prince of demons, does this man drive out demons.” 25 Knowing their thoughts, Jesus said to them, “Every kingdom divided against itself will be laid waste, and every city or household divided against itself will not stand.…"
Those who love their power over and are dedicated to controlling others will always make others look "less than", to keep people focused on them instead of what God has called them to do.
God was very clear that we are to separate ourselves from troublemakers and liars. Our desire is to walk with Christ unscathed by those who wish to deter us from our walk.
2 Corinthians 6:17
"17 Therefore, come out from their midst and be separate,” says the Lord.
“And do not touch what is unclean;
And I will welcome you."
Our purpose and goal are to grow in holiness, continually hearing from God our next marching orders. Those who don't understand our relationship with Christ will mock, demean, and reject what God has called us to undertake.
Isaiah 41:10: "So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand."
Those who attempt to derail us in our walk are insignificant; they cannot harm us even if they turn every person against us. Christ in us is greater than the devil and everyone else too.
The worst part is these types of people do not want to resolve anything; they prefer their false belief based on their jealousy and anger that resides inside of them. They have a tendency to trust those who lie rather than resolve it with the person gossiped about. Fearing the anger of the gossiper, the listener chooses the gossiper over the one gossiped about.
Sadly, these people have friends whom they speak to, convincing those people to believe what the narcissist tells them.
Remember, when we act disrespectfully toward someone because of what others have said about them, we are making a choice to believe something we have not seen for ourselves. This is gossip, and the ones who believe it are the same as those who spread it.
Proverbs 11:13 "A gossip betrays a confidence, but a trustworthy person keeps a secret."
Never confide in those who are not trustworthy. When we confess a sin or problem we have repented from, the gossip will be more than happy to spread it to whomever will listen, even if we repented and never did that sin again. They do not love anyone enough to share in their grief over sin and rejoice in the repentance. These individuals only care about being superior to others, and they achieve this by betraying a confidence.
Someone who has gossiped never repeats when they hear from the one who confided in them; they always embellish to make it sound worse, or will even make up a lie entirely to be sure the resolved problem still remains in their story.
The Pharisees lied against Christ; they asserted that Christ did His miracles by the power of the devil, causing many people to hate Him.
Matthew 12:23-25 "… 23 The crowds were astounded and asked, “Could this be the Son of David?” 24But when the Pharisees heard this, they said, “Only by Beelzebul, the prince of demons, does this man drive out demons.” 25 Knowing their thoughts, Jesus said to them, “Every kingdom divided against itself will be laid waste, and every city or household divided against itself will not stand.…"
Those who love their power over and are dedicated to controlling others will always make others look "less than", to keep people focused on them instead of what God has called them to do.
God was very clear that we are to separate ourselves from troublemakers and liars. Our desire is to walk with Christ unscathed by those who wish to deter us from our walk.
2 Corinthians 6:17
"17 Therefore, come out from their midst and be separate,” says the Lord.
“And do not touch what is unclean;
And I will welcome you."
Our purpose and goal are to grow in holiness, continually hearing from God our next marching orders. Those who don't understand our relationship with Christ will mock, demean, and reject what God has called us to undertake.
Isaiah 41:10: "So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand."
Those who attempt to derail us in our walk are insignificant; they cannot harm us even if they turn every person against us. Christ in us is greater than the devil and everyone else too.
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