There is a false doctrine moving through the church that a woman should obey her husband even if he commands her to do evil. This is a monstrous doctrine and not at all Biblical.
Ezekiel 3:18-20 "18 When I say to the wicked, ‘You will certainly die,’ and you do not warn him or speak out to warn the wicked from his wicked way so that he may live, that wicked person shall die for wrongdoing, but his blood I will require from your hand.
19 However, if you have warned the wicked and he does not turn from his wickedness or from his wicked way, he shall die for wrongdoing, but you have saved yourself.
20 Again, when a righteous person turns away from his righteousness and commits sin, and I place an obstacle before him, he will die; since you have not warned him, he shall die in his sin, and his righteous deeds which he has done shall not be remembered; but his blood I will require from your hand."
Remember Ananias and Sapphirah? When the wife agreed with her husband to lie, God said that they "conspired together." This means that if Sapphirah agreed to obey her husband, she too was at fault. God killed them both. God would not have killed the wife if she refused to sin with her husband; the husband alone would have taken the penalty. We know this from the story of Abigail.
Acts 5:1-11 and 1 Samuel 25
Abigail did not obey her husband to do what was wrong, she defied her husband to do what was right. and not only did God bless her, but He also killed her husband, and she became the wife of David for her protection of him.
Any time we take passages out of context in short sentences or phrases to make them say what we think works for us, it is called sin.
A woman who wants to use her husband as an excuse to avoid conflict, to obey a husband who will give her grief if she does not sin with him, is a very weak woman. She does not understand the principle of enduring hardship to remain faithful to God.
In our world, there comes a time when husbands are going to sin, but this does not mean we support it or go with him. We must support a husband whenever he does not disobey God, but not when he refuses to obey God.
Ezekiel 33:8-9 "If I say to the wicked, ‘O wicked man, you will surely die,’ but you do not speak out to dissuade him from his way, then that wicked man will die in his iniquity, yet I will hold you accountable for his blood. But if you warn the wicked man to turn from his way, and he does not turn from it, he will die in his iniquity, but you will have saved your life."
Acts 20:26-27 "Therefore I testify to you this day that I am innocent of the blood of all men. For I did not shrink back from declaring to you the whole will of God."
God also said that wives may win their husbands by their quiet and respectul lifestyle. This is not only respectful toward the husband but also toward God.
1 Peter 3:1 "In the same way, you wives, be subject to your own husbands so that even if any of them are disobedient to the word, they may be won over without a word by the behavior of their wives,"
A simple ""no, I cannot disobey God", spoken respectfully, will be what may win your husband. We will not win our husbands to God's way of thinking about Him by obeying our husbands' wickedness.
"Obeying our husband's in all things" must be measured in light of the rest of the scriptures not merely one phrase taken out of context.
Ephesians 5:22-24 "Wives and Husbands
22 Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior. 24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands."
Notice we are to submit to our husbands "as to the Lord", our Lord would never tell us to submit to sin to please any person not even our husbands.
