Wednesday, July 14, 2021

Forgiving God's Way

When we have been wronged no matter how serious the hurt it is a joy to forgive when the one who harmed us confesses and desires to be forgiven. It is as though the offense never happened.
If the feelings of hurt don't go away when someone asks forgiveness then the ball is in our court to choose to dismiss the bad feelings. Yes, the bad feelings can go away when someone who has hurt you wants to do better in the way that they treat you.
Praise the Lord through the power of Christ we can forgive as fully as He forgave us when we confessed to be cleansed.
Offenders can be cleansed in our minds when they are sorry.
1 John 1:9 "9 If we confess our sins, He is faithful and righteous, so that He will forgive us our sins and cleanse us from all unrighteousness."
The restoration of a relationship is a beautiful thing when done God's way.

The "Don't Judge" Mantra

For those who say "don't judge" whenever someone is exposing a false teacher or wicked person, I would like to show the silliness of this mantra.
God tells us this about judging:
Matthew 7:1-5 “Judge not, that you be not judged. For with the judgment you pronounce you will be judged, and with the measure you use it will be measured to you. Why do you see the speck that is in your brother's eye, but do not notice the log that is in your own eye? Or how can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when there is the log in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the log out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to take the speck out of your brother's eye.
Notice in the passage that says “don’t judge” the context is that we are not to judge someone for something they are doing when we are doing the same thing we are judging them for.
Notice too that God says to correct our own sin before going to correct someone else’s. Nowhere in this passage does God say never to judge at any time.
Romans 2:1 “Therefore you have no excuse, O man, every one of you who judges. For in passing judgment on another you condemn yourself, because you, the judge, practice the very same things.”
God says in this passage that we will be judged according to whether or not we judge hypocritically while doing the same sin.
In the matter of narcissism, the narcissist often accuses others of the very thing the narcissist is doing and the others are not. They do this to throw the focus off of their sin and place it on someone else. This is a devilish tactic that is used commonly in our days of apostasy.
Those who say “don’t judge” any person often do not follow their own assertion.
If we are never to judge someone in a negative way then we are also never to judge them in a positive way either. No one can know a person’s heart merely by having superficial contact with them. We cannot know the heart of celebrities no matter how good their deeds sound.
There are many people who know how to pretend in public but are raging angry people in the privacy of their own homes.
If someone is doing something good we can say that it was good but we must never say “what a good person.” If someone has done something wicked we must speak to their deeds which do often reveal who they are. The person who does good may be doing it to manipulate perception, and for the person who does evil we know this is the real them. No one who does evil could do it if they were good, and the one who does good deeds can hide their real selves to appear good. So I say stop judging superficially and stop commanding others not to judge.
The Pharisees did this very thing often. They did their good deeds to be seen by others but in their hearts, they were walking dead men.
Matthew 23:26-28 “…26 Blind Pharisee! First clean the inside of the cup and dish, so that the outside may become clean as well. 27Woe to you, scribes and Pharisees, you hypocrites! You are like whitewashed tombs, which look beautiful on the outside, but on the inside are full of dead men’s bones and every kind of impurity. 28In the same way, on the outside you appear to be righteous, but on the inside you are full of hypocrisy and wickedness.…”
So the final thought, we have been commanded to judge righteously according to God’s Word. We are also indwelt with the Holy Spirit Who shows us the heart of a man through evaluation of the Fruit of His Spirit.
John 7:24 “24 Stop judging by outward appearances, and start judging justly.”
When someone refuses to see the sin in their favorite person they are judging wrongly, they are judging someone the way they would judge a god, as perfect without flaws according to their own desired belief about them. This all by itself is sinful judging.
When we judge according to the leading of the Holy Spirit and according to God’s Word we will see things that reveal the truth.
Again; many people can manipulate our perceptions of them to appear righteous and still be Pharisees, walking dead men.
Be careful to judge righteously and through prayer. Never say “don’t judge” when someone is being exposed, that is just another way of refusing to see sin, defending a false god.
The “don’t judge” mantra is a ploy of the devil to silence anyone who is exposing sin. Do not be intimidated by this manipulative ploy.
Seek the Holy Spirit continually so as not to be sucked into the lies and bondage of the devil.

Raised with Narcissism

When we are raised in narcissism, when parents, and siblings, and their spouses act in mean ways continually, it takes the wisdom of God to see it is not good or normal.
When we are accustomed to seeing this snarky behavior as children we think there is something wrong with us when we resist being the way they are, they will punish us for speaking the truth against it.
Narcissists see correction as a personal attack rather than evaluating themselves to see if they need to change.
Proverbs 12:15-16 "15 The way of a fool is right in his own eyes, but a wise man listens to counsel. 16 A fool’s anger is known at once, but a prudent man overlooks an insult.…"
Proverbs 14:12
"There is a way that seems right to a man, but its end is the way of death."
The narcissist hates that we have moved on to better things and kinder people, they want us to be just like them. God made it clear that our constant companions will shape the way we think and ultimately the way we act.
1 Corinthians 15:33-34 "33 Do not be deceived: “Bad company corrupts good character.” 34 Sober up as you ought, and stop sinning; for some of you are ignorant of God. I say this to your shame.…"
Proverbs 19:20
"Listen to counsel and accept discipline, that you may be wise the rest of your days."
When we are determined to obey Christ we will be under attack by narcissists who want to believe we are worthless. They will twist in the wind at our Spiritual and emotional growth, it is frustrating to them. If they don't know anything about us they will develop in their own minds how they wish to think about us, all negative, and pass it on to others to gain supporters for their hate against us.
Praise the Lord that we are commanded by Him to leave the presence of those who wish to keep you in bondage to the past you left behind. They want to believe you have the character they have chosen to believe about us.
Proverbs 29:27
"An unjust man is detestable to the righteous, and one whose way is upright is detestable to the wicked."
Isaiah 66:5
"You who tremble at His word, hear the word of the LORD: "Your brothers who hate you and exclude you because of My name have said, 'Let the LORD be glorified that we may see your joy!' But they will be put to shame."
Be blessed in knowing that God allows and even commands us to choose our companions well, those who love Him, those who are full of the fruit of His Spirit.
Galatians 5:22-23
"22 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, 23 gentleness, self-control; against such things there is no law."
This fruit can be seen by discerning born again believers, you will be able to discern who has the fruit and who does not. God knows the heart and He lives in us.