When we become born again we love the Lord with all our heart soul and mind and our neighbor as ourselves.
This is why I don't believe narcissists are born again, they have little if any thought about others, they argue against the principles of God and show no real empathy toward others.
1 John 4:19-21 "…19 We love because He first loved us. 20If anyone says, “I love God,” but hates his brother, he is a liar. For anyone who does not love his brother, whom he has seen, cannot love God, whom he has not seen. 21 And we have this commandment from Him: Whoever loves God must love his brother as well.…"
John 14:15
12 Verily, verily, I say unto you, He that believeth on me, the works that I do shall he do also; and greater works than these shall he do; because I go unto my Father. 13 And whatsoever ye shall ask in my name, that will I do, that the Father may be glorified in the Son. 14 If ye shall ask any thing in my name, I will do it. 15 If ye love me, keep my commandments. 16 And I will pray the Father, and he shall give you another Comforter, that he may abide with you for ever; 17 Even the Spirit of truth; whom the world cannot receive, because it seeth him not, neither knoweth him: but ye know him; for he dwelleth with you, and shall be in you. 18 I will not leave you comfortless: I will come to you.
Those who are full of self continually, not just occasional sin that they regret, but those who cannot admit sin, rage against anyone who might suggest they have sinned, while showing attitudes of revenge against anyone who corrects them, these are the people who cannot possibly have the Holy Spirit.
The Holy Spirit convicts us of sin, torments us with guilt until we confess to be cleansed. A true believer cannot stand the thought of knowingly harming another person, they feel a compulsion to make it right to restore a relationship.
2 Corinthians 13:4-6 "…4 For He was indeed crucified in weakness, yet He lives by God’s power. And though we are weak in Him, yet by God’s power we will live with Him to serve you. 5 Examine yourselves to see whether you are in the faith; test yourselves. Can’t you see for yourselves that Jesus Christ is in you — unless you actually fail the test? 6 And I hope you will realize that we have not failed the test.…"
