When I see believers "claiming things" from God as though He is a puppet on a string, it reminds me of what it feels like for our children to speak to us in condescending tones as though we are the child and they are the adult.
There should be such reverence for God that we are fearful to speak to Him in any other tone than meekly obedient.
If we sought after the Lord, the way our dogs follow us, looking up at us for all their needs, trusting us for all their protections and unquestioningly remaining with us no matter what, we would understand Who Christ is!
Most believers I know treat Christ like He has a responsibility to us rather than us having a responsibility to Him.
We owe Christ every thing, our attitude ought to be seeking Him for His will, not commanding Him what He should do.
Hebrews 10:31 "It is a terrifying thing to fall into the hands of the living God."
How Narcissists think:
All narcissists must have the right to express their opinion but rage when we speak ours if it differs with theirs.
It is important to remember this, because if the narc rages, it is not because we did anything worthy of rage, it is merely a tactic to unnerve their target. In their minds they have won if they have managed to intimidate and silence their target.
Liberalism is this kind of animal, pushing their ideas down our throats through punitive actions and laws. They freely say anything they want but are completely intolerant of an apposing viewpoint.
They accuse their opponents of doing what they are doing but their opponents are not, lying is completely acceptable to these types.
This tactic of overt intimidation through calculated rage is common in families. Many years ago it was considered rude and very few people would do it, there was a measure of respect for a person even if we disagreed on something. Now, almost all disagreement is met with hate and verbal violence.
We are living in an age where bad is good and good is bad, as the scripture describes a condition of the end times.
If we are informed, equipped with knowledge and the help of the Holy Spirit we can remain calm, emotionally unaffected by the attacks and strong enough to clearly state our views without wavering.
When we are not taking anything personally knowing that we are fighting against a spiritual enemy not a physical one, we will not feel compelled to defend ourselves, let God do that while we peacefully and unexcitedly speak no matter what the reaction.
What a tranquility comes over us when we don't have to "win" as the narc believes they have to do. Our mission is to speak truth in love, while the narc is a mass of upturned soul, we ought to feel sorry for them, they have to work hard to keep in top position in their own minds. They depend on others cooperating and validating them. As a believer, we don't have to impress anyone, we merely trust Christ and leave Him with the results.
Praise the Lord that we don't have to be special or top man in anything, Christ is our all! Serving Him knowing we are nothing is the best place to be, we have nothing to prove for ourselves, we are free from all encumbrance of self!
The Pandora's box of evil has been unleashed in our culture and there is no way to put is back.
2 Timothy 3:1-7
Divorce and remarriage,
Same sex marriage,
Legalization of mind altering drugs,
Teaching of wicked immoral acts being taught to our children,
Movies that promote excessive and gruesome violence and every other sin,
Children bossing their parents while the parents cower at the voice of their children,
Self esteem taught in every institution in this country including the apostate church,
Excessive use of prescription drugs, often when not necessary,
Over indulgence in food, alcohol and pleasure of every kind,
Punishing truth tellers through the loss of job or business,
Disrespect for parents on every level,
One parent families are becoming more common than marriage,
Shacking up is completely accepted as normal and nature as is pregnancy outside of marriage,
No sense of honor or respect for elders or anyone in authority,
Anarchy everywhere!
In short, the celebration of every sin, the defense of the wicked while demeaning the righteous is popular now everywhere.
AND WE THINK WE CAN TURN THIS AROUND BY EDUCATING SOMEONE!
It is impossible to educate the unteachable. Even those who claim to be believers defend many of the sins, if not all , listed.
Romans16:17-18
"17 Now I urge you, brethren, keep your eye on those who cause dissensions and hindrances contrary to the teaching which you learned, and turn away from them.
18 For such men are slaves, not of our Lord Christ but of their own appetites; and by their smooth and flattering speech they deceive the hearts of the unsuspecting."
One of the tactics of narcissism is to use the mean/nice cycle! They will be nice to you as long as you obey them, but when they see you are not being controlled by them, they will be mean again to beat you into submission.
It is a favorite tactic of apostates these days to accuse you of meanness, the very thing they are doing but you are not. When we see this tactic as an ongoing pattern with someone, we need to withdraw from them knowing we cannot believe them.
Jeremiah 12:6
"“For even your brothers and the household of your father,
Even they have dealt treacherously with you, Even they have cried aloud after you.
Do not believe them, although they may say nice things to you.”
I read on a placard this week a touching story of a little girl and her dolly, I don't remember the author nor have I been able to find it again, but I would like to relay the story as I remember it, it made such an impact on me for a couple of reasons. I will put it in quotes to indicate that it was not me that wrote the story. I can't even remember if I posted it on my own timeline, even though I thought about doing it.
"There was a little girl holding a tattered and dirty little doll. She was weeping uncontrollably. Her mother saw her in the yard, concerned for her little girl she rushed to find out what was the matter.
The mother asked the little girl what was wrong. Replying with big tears rolling down her face she said , "it's my dolly." The mother looked at the tattered and dirty doll, one arm slightly torn off and hair missing on it's head and replied, "oh honey it's alright, I'll clean the dolly up, fix her hair and arm to make her just like new."
The little girl looked at her mommy and said, "but mommy I love my doll, I'm not upset that she is a little broken, I love her just like she is. Perplexed the mother asked, "then what is the matter."
The little girl bowed her head in sadness and said, "Mommy, I have loved on this doll, I take care of her, keep her safe and take her with me everywhere I go, I love her all the time, but Mommy, she never loves me back. She doesn't even see me or know who I am."
Isn't this the way we treat God, He gives us everything necessary in this life, while offering everything magnificent for eternity, even His own life, His love is immense, even to the point of death, but most will not love Him back.
AND, those who don't love Christ can't love anyone beyond what they can provide for them. Many if not most worldly friendships are based on what others can proved for us, whether it be physical needs, gifts or just the pleasure of praise from them. Many people will discard friends merely because they are no longer useful to them.
The best friendships are the ones when we are loved just because! These friendships are based on mutual give and take. When the friendship is reciprocal, pleasing the other person is our pleasure. Making our friend feel safe and appreciated delights us. Those who use people to elevate themselves have no love, they do not love others and they do not love God.
Evidence of Godly love in someones life is that they deeply care about others, it is not show to impress others, but a genuine concern for others, even when we will get nothing out of it.
1 John 3:14 "We know that we have passed out of death into life, because we love the brethren. He who does not love abides in death."
Romans 12:10 "Be devoted to one another in brotherly love; give preference to one another in honor;"
