Do not worry about those who have treated you disrespectfully and have rejected you, allow them to be them, and get on with your walk with Christ.
Proverbs 13:19-21 "…19 Desire fulfilled is sweet to the soul, but turning from evil is detestable to fools. 20 He who walks with the wise will become wise, but the companion of fools will be destroyed. 21 Disaster pursues sinners, but prosperity is the reward of the righteous."
If there has been no confession of sin tells you the narcissist has not changed but wants you to believe they did nothing wrong. The "sweet cycle" is designed to draw you back in so they can reabuse at a later time when your boundaries have been relaxed. They have no intention of changing their hearts or attitudes, they only manipulate to regain control.
Satan is at the root of all these attitudes. He has been working since the time in the garden with Eve to cause us to become distrustful of Christ and weak in our own spirit. The narcissists do not understand that we have the Spirit of Christ living in us and that the devil has no power over us unless we take our focus off of Christ.
When we focus on the antics of the narcissist it will be more about what they are doing to us than it is about Christ working through us, this is the devil's goal.
Our victory is in taking our focus off of the mean-spirited narcissist and remaining focused on our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ. When He is the focus the nonsense others do to us is null and void, it will not control us and we may even be able to laugh at the silliness of the devil and his minions. .
Psalm 37:12-14 "…12 The wicked scheme against the righteous and gnash their teeth at them, 13but the Lord laughs, seeing that their day is coming. 14 The wicked have drawn the sword and bent the bow to bring down the poor and needy, to slay those whose ways are upright."
Do not fall into the trap of believing the narcissist is a wounded soul who is just hurting others because they were hurt. We have all been hurt at times, no one has to react to the hurt by hurting others. This is why God said;
Luke 6:27:28 "27 But to those of you who will listen, I say: Love your enemies, do good to those who hate you, 28 bless those who curse you, pray for those who mistreat you. 2"
We cannot change another person but we have full control over how we act through the power of the Holy Spirit. The attacks of these last days mentalities are designed by the devil to ruin our reputation so others believe they have legitimate things against us, when the truth is they do not.
Remember Eve was convinced by the devil to distrust God and ignore His commands, the devil managed to turn Eve away from focus on God and onto her own desires and the lies of the devil.
Do not think for one moment that the devil has changed his tactics, he is still working today to turn believers' focus away from and onto the silly drama of the unsaved and even those within the church who are allowing the devil to have a foothold. Do not allow the weak believers and the unsaved to draw you into their drama. If you must remove yourselves and be alone lean to enjoy Christ when you have no one else who wants to walk with you in righteousness.
In these last days as described in 2 Timothy 3 we are going to experience more foolishness within the church than righteousness. Allow the Holy Spirit to guide you in all things no matter what the opinions of others may say, most of the time they will have the wrong answers and they will not be based on the Scriptures.
