Narcissists are gossips so they think if anyone knows anything about them others will gossip about them. They are angry on the inside and believe others are angry too.
They evaluate everything they think and do based on their own character but assign it to others when often it is not true that others are not doing what the narcissist thinks they are doing.
They assume others are the same as they are and when they discover someone is not like them they hate that person who dares to be different.
Narcissists are rude so often so they assign a bad motive to others who have good actions, because if the narcissist were doing that good deed they would be manipulating.
Control is everything to the narcissist. Their motives are always based on manipulating others so they believe others are doing the same thing.
2 Timothy 3:1-5 "3 But realize this, that in the last days difficult times will come.
2 For people will be lovers of self, lovers of money, boastful, arrogant, slanderers, disobedient to parents, ungrateful, unholy,
3 unloving, irreconcilable, malicious gossips, without self-control, brutal, haters of good, 4 treacherous, reckless, conceited, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God, 5 holding to a form of godliness although they have denied its power; avoid such people as these."
Secret keepers are full of shame over their own anger but will not admit it. They live in fear that someone will discover the real them.
The only remedy for this problem is repentance to be cleansed by Christ. They will never change until they reach the bottom and see their need for cleansing in Christ.
