Saturday, December 22, 2018
Ignore the Accusations and Keep Speaking
The Holy Spirit is the Focus
Next time someone accuse you of "saying that in a mean way", simply ask them again, "what did you think of what was said." The fact that more times than not they will refuse to engage in the subject matter while continuing to rage at our character flaws, tells us they are angry that the Holy Spirit convicted their heart.
There is a favored manipulation that has become common, that is to accuse others of a mean act when they did not act in a mean way. The hearer just didn't like hearing truth so the bomb inside of them exploded.
Manipulation was widely used by the devil as he deceived Eve in the garden. He was able to convince a child of God to dishonor and disobey God to elevate self.
This same tactic is happening today. When Christ in you tells you to speak the truth, the devil will not like that and use many tricks to make the reaction of others to be vitriolic while attempting to guilt the one who spoke truth.
We live in a culture now that watches someone get angry and interprets that as "someone must have made them angry." The truth is that no one makes another person angry. When there is anger it is a demonstration of what was already hidden inside of the angry person.
Believers are lied against continually these days. The angry culture will accuse us of things we never did or intended to make us become angry. We don't have to be angry, we can consider the source, that is the devil and leave him and his flying monkeys to the Lord.
Romans 12:18-19 "…18If it is possible on your part, live at peace with everyone. 19Do not avenge yourselves, beloved, but leave room for God’s wrath. For it is written: “Vengeance is Mine; I will repay, says the Lord.” "
God never said we would be at peace with everyone, He said "as far as it is possible." That means that it will not always be possible to be at peace with wicked stubborn men. We will make sure we did no revenge and we spoke as led by the Holy Spirit, the fault of the lack of peace is on the angry one, not on the one who spoke from God.
Noah and Lot were both hated in their times. We can expect the same thing in our time.
Matthew 10"21-23 "…21 Brother will betray brother to death, and a father his child; children will rise against their parents and have them put to death. 22 You will be hated by everyone on account of My name, but the one who perseveres to the end will be saved. 23 When they persecute you in one town, flee to the next. Truly I tell you, you will not reach all the towns of Israel before the Son of Man comes."
If our witness depended on our own delivery then these scriptures would not be accurate. We share the truth because we love God more than anyone else. We share the truth because we care about the fate of those we speak to, this is the love God was speaking about.
God was not speaking about the gooy friendly happiness to manipulate people into becoming a Christian as so many think. The love of God brings sinners to their knees in repentance because of the power of God's Word. Its not about our delivery, its not about us at all, it about speaking truth and allowing the Holy Spirit to convict hearts.
There is a favored manipulation that has become common, that is to accuse others of a mean act when they did not act in a mean way. The hearer just didn't like hearing truth so the bomb inside of them exploded.
Manipulation was widely used by the devil as he deceived Eve in the garden. He was able to convince a child of God to dishonor and disobey God to elevate self.
This same tactic is happening today. When Christ in you tells you to speak the truth, the devil will not like that and use many tricks to make the reaction of others to be vitriolic while attempting to guilt the one who spoke truth.
We live in a culture now that watches someone get angry and interprets that as "someone must have made them angry." The truth is that no one makes another person angry. When there is anger it is a demonstration of what was already hidden inside of the angry person.
Believers are lied against continually these days. The angry culture will accuse us of things we never did or intended to make us become angry. We don't have to be angry, we can consider the source, that is the devil and leave him and his flying monkeys to the Lord.
Romans 12:18-19 "…18If it is possible on your part, live at peace with everyone. 19Do not avenge yourselves, beloved, but leave room for God’s wrath. For it is written: “Vengeance is Mine; I will repay, says the Lord.” "
God never said we would be at peace with everyone, He said "as far as it is possible." That means that it will not always be possible to be at peace with wicked stubborn men. We will make sure we did no revenge and we spoke as led by the Holy Spirit, the fault of the lack of peace is on the angry one, not on the one who spoke from God.
Noah and Lot were both hated in their times. We can expect the same thing in our time.
Matthew 10"21-23 "…21 Brother will betray brother to death, and a father his child; children will rise against their parents and have them put to death. 22 You will be hated by everyone on account of My name, but the one who perseveres to the end will be saved. 23 When they persecute you in one town, flee to the next. Truly I tell you, you will not reach all the towns of Israel before the Son of Man comes."
If our witness depended on our own delivery then these scriptures would not be accurate. We share the truth because we love God more than anyone else. We share the truth because we care about the fate of those we speak to, this is the love God was speaking about.
God was not speaking about the gooy friendly happiness to manipulate people into becoming a Christian as so many think. The love of God brings sinners to their knees in repentance because of the power of God's Word. Its not about our delivery, its not about us at all, it about speaking truth and allowing the Holy Spirit to convict hearts.
Reject False Guilt Delivered by Narcissists
There is often false guilt over your words merely because of someone else's reaction.
We see the irrational reactions of the narcissist and think we must have done something wrong when we did not
When we begin judging ourselves on our own words and intent we no longer take seriously the false accusations in the form of negative reactions to us.
Guilty and narcissistic people will react violently to any form of disagreement or correction just because they cannot tolerate any opposition to them. Opposition to them is seen as a threat and a complete dismantling of their being. They interpret disagreement as hatred, because they feel hatred when someone disagrees and they think everyone is like them.
Saying to a narcissist, "you are wrong about that" is considered a deeply personal attack that diminishes them as having a bad character.
The false persona of a narcissist is based on the way they wish to view themselves, that is godlike. They see anyone who challenges them on any level as an enemy to be destroyed.
The manipulation of accusing us of saying something in a mean way will not work anymore on the target. We are more focused on how we said it than we were on their reactions. We are more focused on truth than we are on how others will respond to that truth.
When their reaction becomes the focus then they can affect us through false guilt.
Those walking in the Holy Spirit can tell the difference when they walk in the flesh and when they walk in the Spirit. The Spirit speaks loudly within our soul it is far different from self confidence.
Galatians 5:16-18
"16 But I say, walk by the Spirit, and you will not carry out the desire of the flesh. 17 For the flesh [a]sets its desire against the Spirit, and the Spirit against the flesh; for these are in opposition to one another, so that you may not do the things that you [b]please. 18 But if you are led by the Spirit, you are not under the Law."
Those who walk in the Spirit do not rage at any challenge, they simply answer it according to the Scriptures.
Those who walk in the flesh will fight to destroy the one they believe is coming against them. Notice that phrasing, "coming against them." The narcissist does not discuss anything to come to truth, they discuss to win and truth is not very important as long as they win or can maintain their false belief.
A win to the narcissist is demolishing their opponent, melting them to a puddle on the floor completely defeated. For the narcissist its not about truth its about who appears more powerful.
I am deeply worried about those who love arguments. Its not truth they seek, just a good fight to the death.
One cannot tell this to a narcissist, when they are discovered they execute revenge on the one they cannot control. That revenge often comes in the form of gossip against their target or simply obviously leaving them out of the loop.
The Lord has described these people in 2 Timothy 3 very vividly. They are increasing, we must know the enemy to be able to refuse to be sucked into their drama. When we know them we can avoid them with deliberately and resolve.
2 Timothy 3:1-5 2
“Difficult Times Will Come”
"3 But realize this, that in the last days difficult times will come. 2 For men will be lovers of self, lovers of money, boastful, arrogant, revilers, disobedient to parents, ungrateful, unholy, 3 unloving, irreconcilable, malicious gossips, without self-control, brutal, [a]haters of good, 4 treacherous, reckless, conceited, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God, 5 holding to a form of [b]godliness, although they have denied its power; Avoid such men as these."
2 Timothy 4:2-4 "…2 Preach the word; be prepared in season and out of season; reprove, rebuke, and encourage with every form of patient instruction. 3 For the time will come when men will not tolerate sound doctrine, but with itching ears they will gather around themselves teachers to suit their own desires. 4 So they will turn their ears away from the truth and turn aside to myths.…"
Proverbs 18:2
"A fool takes no pleasure in understanding, but only in expressing his opinion."
Proverbs 29:11
"A fool gives full vent to his spirit, but a wise man quietly holds it back."
Proverbs 28:26
"Whoever trusts in his own mind is a fool, but he who walks in wisdom will be delivered."
We see the irrational reactions of the narcissist and think we must have done something wrong when we did not
When we begin judging ourselves on our own words and intent we no longer take seriously the false accusations in the form of negative reactions to us.
Guilty and narcissistic people will react violently to any form of disagreement or correction just because they cannot tolerate any opposition to them. Opposition to them is seen as a threat and a complete dismantling of their being. They interpret disagreement as hatred, because they feel hatred when someone disagrees and they think everyone is like them.
Saying to a narcissist, "you are wrong about that" is considered a deeply personal attack that diminishes them as having a bad character.
The false persona of a narcissist is based on the way they wish to view themselves, that is godlike. They see anyone who challenges them on any level as an enemy to be destroyed.
The manipulation of accusing us of saying something in a mean way will not work anymore on the target. We are more focused on how we said it than we were on their reactions. We are more focused on truth than we are on how others will respond to that truth.
When their reaction becomes the focus then they can affect us through false guilt.
Those walking in the Holy Spirit can tell the difference when they walk in the flesh and when they walk in the Spirit. The Spirit speaks loudly within our soul it is far different from self confidence.
Galatians 5:16-18
"16 But I say, walk by the Spirit, and you will not carry out the desire of the flesh. 17 For the flesh [a]sets its desire against the Spirit, and the Spirit against the flesh; for these are in opposition to one another, so that you may not do the things that you [b]please. 18 But if you are led by the Spirit, you are not under the Law."
Those who walk in the Spirit do not rage at any challenge, they simply answer it according to the Scriptures.
Those who walk in the flesh will fight to destroy the one they believe is coming against them. Notice that phrasing, "coming against them." The narcissist does not discuss anything to come to truth, they discuss to win and truth is not very important as long as they win or can maintain their false belief.
A win to the narcissist is demolishing their opponent, melting them to a puddle on the floor completely defeated. For the narcissist its not about truth its about who appears more powerful.
I am deeply worried about those who love arguments. Its not truth they seek, just a good fight to the death.
One cannot tell this to a narcissist, when they are discovered they execute revenge on the one they cannot control. That revenge often comes in the form of gossip against their target or simply obviously leaving them out of the loop.
The Lord has described these people in 2 Timothy 3 very vividly. They are increasing, we must know the enemy to be able to refuse to be sucked into their drama. When we know them we can avoid them with deliberately and resolve.
2 Timothy 3:1-5 2
“Difficult Times Will Come”
"3 But realize this, that in the last days difficult times will come. 2 For men will be lovers of self, lovers of money, boastful, arrogant, revilers, disobedient to parents, ungrateful, unholy, 3 unloving, irreconcilable, malicious gossips, without self-control, brutal, [a]haters of good, 4 treacherous, reckless, conceited, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God, 5 holding to a form of [b]godliness, although they have denied its power; Avoid such men as these."
2 Timothy 4:2-4 "…2 Preach the word; be prepared in season and out of season; reprove, rebuke, and encourage with every form of patient instruction. 3 For the time will come when men will not tolerate sound doctrine, but with itching ears they will gather around themselves teachers to suit their own desires. 4 So they will turn their ears away from the truth and turn aside to myths.…"
Proverbs 18:2
"A fool takes no pleasure in understanding, but only in expressing his opinion."
Proverbs 29:11
"A fool gives full vent to his spirit, but a wise man quietly holds it back."
Proverbs 28:26
"Whoever trusts in his own mind is a fool, but he who walks in wisdom will be delivered."
Losing our Born Again State is not Possible with God
We meet many people, especially on facebook who attempt to convince people that they are saved by their own works.
When we become born again we are sealed with the Holy Spirit of Promise we can never be lost again. We are promised eternal salvation, not temporary in case we mess up.
Ephesians 1:13-14
"13 In him you also, when you heard the word of truth, the gospel of your salvation, and believed in him, were sealed with the promised Holy Spirit, 14 who is the guarantee[a] of our inheritance until we acquire possession of it,[b] to the praise of his glory."
Ephesians 2:5-7 "…5 made us alive with Christ, even when we were dead in our trespasses. It is by grace you have been saved! 6 And God raised us up with Christ and seated us with Him in the heavenly realms in Christ Jesus, 7 in order that in the coming ages He might display the surpassing riches of His grace, demonstrated by His kindness to us in Christ Jesus."
2 Corinthians 5:16-18 "…16 So from now on we regard no one according to the flesh. Although we once regarded Christ in this way, we do so no longer. 17 Therefore if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation. The old has passed away. Behold, the new has come! 18 All this is from God, who reconciled us to Himself through Christ and gave us the ministry of reconciliation:…:
We are His workmanship. We do not become born again or stay born again because of anything we do, its in Whom we trust, that is Jesus Christ.
Ephesians 2:10
"10 For we are his workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand, that we should walk in them."
God does not throw away His children who belong to Him. He disciplines them to bring them back to obedience.
Hebrews 12:5-7 "…5 And you have forgotten the exhortation that addresses you as sons: “My son, do not make light of the Lord’s discipline, or lose heart when He rebukes you. 6 For the Lord disciplines the one He loves, and He chastises everyone He receives as a son.” 7 Endure suffering as discipline; God is treating you as sons. For what son is not disciplined by his father?…"
If anyone thinks they are living well enough to keep their own salvation, they are living in pride and must repent. If they fight to defend their works as their salvation then they are probably not born again but rather have a form of religion based on their own good works, they will not be justified in Christ.
Matthew 7:21-23 "
I Never Knew You
21 “Not everyone who says to me, ‘Lord, Lord,’ will enter the kingdom of heaven, but the one who does the will of my Father who is in heaven. 22 On that day many will say to me, ‘Lord, Lord, did we not prophesy in your name, and cast out demons in your name, and do many mighty works in your name?’ 23 And then will I declare to them, ‘I never knew you; depart from me, you workers of lawlessness.’"
When we become born again we are sealed with the Holy Spirit of Promise we can never be lost again. We are promised eternal salvation, not temporary in case we mess up.
Ephesians 1:13-14
"13 In him you also, when you heard the word of truth, the gospel of your salvation, and believed in him, were sealed with the promised Holy Spirit, 14 who is the guarantee[a] of our inheritance until we acquire possession of it,[b] to the praise of his glory."
Ephesians 2:5-7 "…5 made us alive with Christ, even when we were dead in our trespasses. It is by grace you have been saved! 6 And God raised us up with Christ and seated us with Him in the heavenly realms in Christ Jesus, 7 in order that in the coming ages He might display the surpassing riches of His grace, demonstrated by His kindness to us in Christ Jesus."
2 Corinthians 5:16-18 "…16 So from now on we regard no one according to the flesh. Although we once regarded Christ in this way, we do so no longer. 17 Therefore if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation. The old has passed away. Behold, the new has come! 18 All this is from God, who reconciled us to Himself through Christ and gave us the ministry of reconciliation:…:
We are His workmanship. We do not become born again or stay born again because of anything we do, its in Whom we trust, that is Jesus Christ.
Ephesians 2:10
"10 For we are his workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand, that we should walk in them."
God does not throw away His children who belong to Him. He disciplines them to bring them back to obedience.
Hebrews 12:5-7 "…5 And you have forgotten the exhortation that addresses you as sons: “My son, do not make light of the Lord’s discipline, or lose heart when He rebukes you. 6 For the Lord disciplines the one He loves, and He chastises everyone He receives as a son.” 7 Endure suffering as discipline; God is treating you as sons. For what son is not disciplined by his father?…"
If anyone thinks they are living well enough to keep their own salvation, they are living in pride and must repent. If they fight to defend their works as their salvation then they are probably not born again but rather have a form of religion based on their own good works, they will not be justified in Christ.
Matthew 7:21-23 "
I Never Knew You
21 “Not everyone who says to me, ‘Lord, Lord,’ will enter the kingdom of heaven, but the one who does the will of my Father who is in heaven. 22 On that day many will say to me, ‘Lord, Lord, did we not prophesy in your name, and cast out demons in your name, and do many mighty works in your name?’ 23 And then will I declare to them, ‘I never knew you; depart from me, you workers of lawlessness.’"
Obedience to Mother and Father
Instruction in becoming an adult begins for children at birth. A child who is left to themselves without proper instruction will remain a child all of their lives.
Proverbs 29:15-16 "15 A rod of correction imparts wisdom, but a child left to himself disgraces his mother. 16 When the wicked thrive, rebellion increases; but the righteous will see their downfall."
Exodus 20:12
“Honor your father and your mother, that your days may be long in the land that the Lord your God is giving you."
Proverbs 1:8-9
"Hear, my son, your father's instruction, and forsake not your mother's teaching, for they are a graceful garland for your head and pendants for your neck."
Ephesians 6:1-3
"Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. “Honor your father and mother” (this is the first commandment with a promise), “that it may go well with you and that you may live long in the land.”
Proverbs 10:1
"The proverbs of Solomon. A wise son makes a glad father, but a foolish son is a sorrow to his mother."
Proverbs 20:20
"If one curses his father or his mother, his lamp will be put out in utter darkness."
Those who constantly preach that a child must be allowed to be a child are basing their stance on psychology not the Bible.
Childhood is the training ground for adulthood. We have more 40 year old people who have a six year old mentality now than we have ever had.
A person who has been instructed all through childhood will not be sensitive to it when adults disagree with them. We have many if not most snowflakes these days because the children have not been chastised, corrected, instructed and expected to obey all through their growing years. When they become adults they are enraged when corrected. They have no thought of honoring their parents in the way they live or through valuing their opinion.
Those who have been excessively praised as children are hyper sensitive to disagreement, they see it as a personal attack, rather than an opportunity to learn and grow.
Our world is growing more wicked every day because the young children are being excessively praised, self absorbed they demand their own way without thought of their actions or attitudes on others.
My prayer often is that those who are raised in this monstrous fashion will see their own sinfulness, confess it and desire to be changed by Christ. Most will not, most will be angry and stubborn at the suggestion that they are not gods in their own right.
Welcome to the end times: 2 Timothy 3
Proverbs 29:15-16 "15 A rod of correction imparts wisdom, but a child left to himself disgraces his mother. 16 When the wicked thrive, rebellion increases; but the righteous will see their downfall."
Exodus 20:12
“Honor your father and your mother, that your days may be long in the land that the Lord your God is giving you."
Proverbs 1:8-9
"Hear, my son, your father's instruction, and forsake not your mother's teaching, for they are a graceful garland for your head and pendants for your neck."
Ephesians 6:1-3
"Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. “Honor your father and mother” (this is the first commandment with a promise), “that it may go well with you and that you may live long in the land.”
Proverbs 10:1
"The proverbs of Solomon. A wise son makes a glad father, but a foolish son is a sorrow to his mother."
Proverbs 20:20
"If one curses his father or his mother, his lamp will be put out in utter darkness."
Those who constantly preach that a child must be allowed to be a child are basing their stance on psychology not the Bible.
Childhood is the training ground for adulthood. We have more 40 year old people who have a six year old mentality now than we have ever had.
A person who has been instructed all through childhood will not be sensitive to it when adults disagree with them. We have many if not most snowflakes these days because the children have not been chastised, corrected, instructed and expected to obey all through their growing years. When they become adults they are enraged when corrected. They have no thought of honoring their parents in the way they live or through valuing their opinion.
Those who have been excessively praised as children are hyper sensitive to disagreement, they see it as a personal attack, rather than an opportunity to learn and grow.
Our world is growing more wicked every day because the young children are being excessively praised, self absorbed they demand their own way without thought of their actions or attitudes on others.
My prayer often is that those who are raised in this monstrous fashion will see their own sinfulness, confess it and desire to be changed by Christ. Most will not, most will be angry and stubborn at the suggestion that they are not gods in their own right.
Welcome to the end times: 2 Timothy 3
Play Beget More Play it Never Ends
Amen to this! Children naturally play, baby animals naturally play, but that's because they are immature. Our goal as parents is to guide them into adulthood and that takes from the beginning at infancy. Children are learning, sucking up their world like a sponge, every moment ought to be a teaching moment, if they are to mature into adults. I see many adults who act like bratty six year olds because they were not taught anything but play all through their growing up years.
David Valderrama said the following
December 16 at 7:25 AM
Children should be trained to be adults. "What a crime" says this foolish and ignorant world . . . "You are destroying the only childhood they will ever have!"
To the world, childhood is the height of life's experience: "play, play, and play some more; then earn a degree, land a good paying job, and make a lot of money so the bliss of your childhood will never end!" THAT IS SATANIC! Children need training, responsibility, to accept disappointment, to be told no, not given everything they want, to respect a person's word and that their word means something; that life is about work, not playing. They need reality, not T.V. At the same time, all children need patience, not lawlessness; gentleness, not rage; to be taught by example, not mere words.
David Valderrama said the following
December 16 at 7:25 AM
Children should be trained to be adults. "What a crime" says this foolish and ignorant world . . . "You are destroying the only childhood they will ever have!"
To the world, childhood is the height of life's experience: "play, play, and play some more; then earn a degree, land a good paying job, and make a lot of money so the bliss of your childhood will never end!" THAT IS SATANIC! Children need training, responsibility, to accept disappointment, to be told no, not given everything they want, to respect a person's word and that their word means something; that life is about work, not playing. They need reality, not T.V. At the same time, all children need patience, not lawlessness; gentleness, not rage; to be taught by example, not mere words.
Your Reasonable Answer Will Be Met With Rage
When you speak truth and others don't like that truth, they often rage at you no matter what the delivery looked like. They will accuse you of not having love in saying it. Its because they don't recognize love when they see it. The mere attempt to bring truth to someone is love. Straight talk no matter how mildly spoken is despised by those who love their secrets.
When we are met with rage for telling the truth, then it is time to remove ourselves and carry on with others.
Matthew 10:13
"If the home is worthy, let your peace rest on it; if it is not, let your peace return to you."
When we are met with rage for telling the truth, then it is time to remove ourselves and carry on with others.
Matthew 10:13
"If the home is worthy, let your peace rest on it; if it is not, let your peace return to you."
Mark 6:11
"If anyone will not welcome you or listen to you, shake the dust off your feet when you leave that place, as a testimony against them."
Proverbs 15
"15 A soft answer turneth away wrath: but grievous words stir up anger."
Those that rage at you will accuse you of being the one who is angry. It is a common practice of narcissists who wish to manipulate and control through intimidation.
"If anyone will not welcome you or listen to you, shake the dust off your feet when you leave that place, as a testimony against them."
Proverbs 15
"15 A soft answer turneth away wrath: but grievous words stir up anger."
Those that rage at you will accuse you of being the one who is angry. It is a common practice of narcissists who wish to manipulate and control through intimidation.
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