One of the tactics of a narcissist is their ability to play the victim when we have decided not to engage in argument with them. They hate it beyond measure that they were not able to dominate a conversation or communication.
When we have boundaries and standards we have a responsibility to maintain those things for personal integrity.
When a narcissist comes along expecting to overturn standards and cross our boundaries, then is the time to walk away. There are those who feel victimized when they cannot control you. They blame you for the relationship break up because you would not allow them to hammer you with their version of events or doctrine.
When we do not allow others to have their say and believe their chosen doctrine then we have crossed the line. It is one thing to discuss a matter with a fellow believer in a calm and respectful manner and quite another to hammer someone who will not be convinced by our assertions.
We all have disagreements at times, but those who cannot stand to allow us to have our beliefs without battering and punishing us, are not respectful and are not friends we want to retain.
Thankfully we are not responsible to keep everyone as a friend. We are to evaluate the value of a friendship to see if it leads us closer to God or further away from His principles.
When we see someone playing manipulative games, using intimidation, blaming and mocking then is when it is time to exit the relationship.
We always hate it when we have to assert ourselves in relationships like this, we prefer that we did not have to do it. However reason and truth dictates that we walk on down the road when we encounter those who have nothing in mind except winning. When truth is not very important, when we are not important enough to show respect to us, then too is the time to walk down the road.
The Holy Spirit can show us who and when. We have no need to analyze anything, when the Spirit speaks then we obey. No one else can assess our relationship with others, they can only give their input based on limited understanding, ultimately it is the Holy Spirit Who must give us the answer.
Hallelujah, when we trust Christ, He does really have all the answers to everything.
John 16:13-14 "13 However, when the Spirit of truth comes, He will guide you into all truth. For He will not speak on His own, but He will speak what He hears, and He will declare to you what is to come. 14 He will glorify Me by taking from what is Mine and disclosing it to you.…"
Monday, April 22, 2019
Soylant Green is Nearly Here!
My husband and I were just listening to a news cast coming out of the state of Washington. The news was that there is a study now looking into the benefits of composting human bodies, an alternative to burial.
This is very evil, I wonder how many people will be using this compost made from human bodies to grow the vegetables they will eat.
If the governor signs the bill to allow this it will go into effect May 1st.
Things just keep getting worse all the time. I cannot think of anything more disrespectful than to use human bodies as fertilizer for plants.
Does anyone wonder anymore why I have the perspective about our region that I have?
The 10,000 person naked bike ride just 40 miles down the highway from us in Portland Oregon and now this monstrous bill to compost the bodies of human beings in our state of Washington. One has to wonder what the next abomination will be upheld as good.
Does anyone remember the movie with Charlton Heston called "Soylant Green." We are almost there folks, a time when human bodies will be used for food, cannibalism.
This is very evil, I wonder how many people will be using this compost made from human bodies to grow the vegetables they will eat.
If the governor signs the bill to allow this it will go into effect May 1st.
Things just keep getting worse all the time. I cannot think of anything more disrespectful than to use human bodies as fertilizer for plants.
Does anyone wonder anymore why I have the perspective about our region that I have?
The 10,000 person naked bike ride just 40 miles down the highway from us in Portland Oregon and now this monstrous bill to compost the bodies of human beings in our state of Washington. One has to wonder what the next abomination will be upheld as good.
Does anyone remember the movie with Charlton Heston called "Soylant Green." We are almost there folks, a time when human bodies will be used for food, cannibalism.
Avoid Nasty People Because God Said to Do it!
It is not our goal as believer to avoid nasty people to spare our own feelings. We avoid them because God told us to do so.
One cannot influence those who are contemptuous toward us and toward God. Even those who say they love God but treat others badly, are not to be our constant companions.
1 Corinthians 15: 33 "Do not be deceived: “Bad company corrupts good character.”
When we keep company on a regular basis with those who are rude eventually we take up their ways without even realizing it.
I remember a case in which someone I knew was companions with a crude person. The person who claimed to be a Christian began talking in crude ways because they were so used to their companion's way of expressing themselves. This also happens when people watch many things on TV or movies. They are unaware that they have taken on the personality of those they spend a lot of time with.
We cannot change the heart of a sinful person by acting as though we don't notice their mean actions or verbiage. God makes it clear in His word that we validate the wicked person by refusing to withdraw from them.
Isiah 26:10 "10 Though grace is shown to the wicked man, he does not learn righteousness. In the land of righteousness he acts unjustly and fails to see the majesty of the LORD. "
When we have made it clear that we follow Christ and they have rejected our choice, then it is time to move on and allow God to use someone else to influence them.
When the wicked person feels free to abuse us regularly without apology, then we know we have no influence with them anyway. Christ never remained friends with those who mocked and abused Him. He moved on to those who would listen and appreciate.
When we cannot let go of a the companionship of a wicked person we have elevated them above God. Our dependence on their companionship leaves us weak and vulnerable to their manipulations and intimidation. Even causing us to dishonor God by remaining silent to keep from starting fights. There is no value in a relationship in which someone must remain silent to appease those who love to fight.
"Two cannot walk together who are not agreed." God said this! Amos.
Ecclesiastes 4:11-12 "…11 Again, if two lie down together, they will keep warm; but how can one keep warm alone? 12 And though one may be overpowered, two can resist. Moreover, a cord of three strands is not quickly broken."
When we make our primary and constant companions those who love Christ we will grow stronger. God meant for us to have fellowship and agreement with those who are our constant companions. We think we are strong until we have been challenged by a wicked person, then is when we find out they are the ones controlling our conversation and perhaps even our life choices.
We, our companions and God should be our strong three strand cord. God is at the center of all goings on in these kind of relationships. However, when God is not at the center and someone is attempting to divert us from Christ then Satan is at the center of that relationship.
1 Peter 5:8
"Be sober-minded; be watchful. Your adversary the devil prowls around like a roaring lion, seeking someone to devour."
John 10:10
"The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy. I came that they may have life and have it abundantly."
James 4:7
"Submit yourselves therefore to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you."
When we become bold in our living out of the life with Christ, it will chase off those who want to deter us from our walk. When they have been chased away by our "fervor" for Christ, then they will begin the smear tactics, the same ones that were used on Christ. Lies against us as well as attempts to sabotage whatever Christ is doing in us.
One of the ways they will sabotage is to make up lies about our life to make it appear as though we have not changed. They will gossip to cause others to see us the way they want them to see us. All of this does not have to cause any frustration in us. We can move on, steadily growing as God works in spite of them. God really does have our good in mind, even through these attacks. The calmer we are, the more trusting of God's purpose and protection, the more they will come against us.
They did all this to Christ and the apostles, it did not change the mission, nor did it destroy it. God is still in control all the time. His purposes in our encounters are to educate us while making us stronger.
Proverbs 29:25-26 "25 The fear of man is a snare, but whoever trusts in the LORD will be set securely on high. 26 Many seek the ruler’s favor, but a man receives justice from the LORD."
Last and very important thought: Never fear man, obey God and there will be great blessing, even if only to know that we honored and pleased God, our conscience before God is clear and powerful.
1 Peter 3:16-22
"16 and keep a good conscience so that in the thing in which you are slandered, those who revile your good behavior in Christ will be put to shame.
17 For it is better, if God should will it so, that you suffer for doing what is right rather than for doing what is wrong.
18 For Christ also died for sins once for all, the just for the unjust, so that He might bring us to God, having been put to death in the flesh, but made alive in the spirit; "
Hallelujah!!!!
One cannot influence those who are contemptuous toward us and toward God. Even those who say they love God but treat others badly, are not to be our constant companions.
1 Corinthians 15: 33 "Do not be deceived: “Bad company corrupts good character.”
When we keep company on a regular basis with those who are rude eventually we take up their ways without even realizing it.
I remember a case in which someone I knew was companions with a crude person. The person who claimed to be a Christian began talking in crude ways because they were so used to their companion's way of expressing themselves. This also happens when people watch many things on TV or movies. They are unaware that they have taken on the personality of those they spend a lot of time with.
We cannot change the heart of a sinful person by acting as though we don't notice their mean actions or verbiage. God makes it clear in His word that we validate the wicked person by refusing to withdraw from them.
Isiah 26:10 "10 Though grace is shown to the wicked man, he does not learn righteousness. In the land of righteousness he acts unjustly and fails to see the majesty of the LORD. "
When we have made it clear that we follow Christ and they have rejected our choice, then it is time to move on and allow God to use someone else to influence them.
When the wicked person feels free to abuse us regularly without apology, then we know we have no influence with them anyway. Christ never remained friends with those who mocked and abused Him. He moved on to those who would listen and appreciate.
When we cannot let go of a the companionship of a wicked person we have elevated them above God. Our dependence on their companionship leaves us weak and vulnerable to their manipulations and intimidation. Even causing us to dishonor God by remaining silent to keep from starting fights. There is no value in a relationship in which someone must remain silent to appease those who love to fight.
"Two cannot walk together who are not agreed." God said this! Amos.
Ecclesiastes 4:11-12 "…11 Again, if two lie down together, they will keep warm; but how can one keep warm alone? 12 And though one may be overpowered, two can resist. Moreover, a cord of three strands is not quickly broken."
When we make our primary and constant companions those who love Christ we will grow stronger. God meant for us to have fellowship and agreement with those who are our constant companions. We think we are strong until we have been challenged by a wicked person, then is when we find out they are the ones controlling our conversation and perhaps even our life choices.
We, our companions and God should be our strong three strand cord. God is at the center of all goings on in these kind of relationships. However, when God is not at the center and someone is attempting to divert us from Christ then Satan is at the center of that relationship.
1 Peter 5:8
"Be sober-minded; be watchful. Your adversary the devil prowls around like a roaring lion, seeking someone to devour."
John 10:10
"The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy. I came that they may have life and have it abundantly."
James 4:7
"Submit yourselves therefore to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you."
When we become bold in our living out of the life with Christ, it will chase off those who want to deter us from our walk. When they have been chased away by our "fervor" for Christ, then they will begin the smear tactics, the same ones that were used on Christ. Lies against us as well as attempts to sabotage whatever Christ is doing in us.
One of the ways they will sabotage is to make up lies about our life to make it appear as though we have not changed. They will gossip to cause others to see us the way they want them to see us. All of this does not have to cause any frustration in us. We can move on, steadily growing as God works in spite of them. God really does have our good in mind, even through these attacks. The calmer we are, the more trusting of God's purpose and protection, the more they will come against us.
They did all this to Christ and the apostles, it did not change the mission, nor did it destroy it. God is still in control all the time. His purposes in our encounters are to educate us while making us stronger.
Proverbs 29:25-26 "25 The fear of man is a snare, but whoever trusts in the LORD will be set securely on high. 26 Many seek the ruler’s favor, but a man receives justice from the LORD."
Last and very important thought: Never fear man, obey God and there will be great blessing, even if only to know that we honored and pleased God, our conscience before God is clear and powerful.
1 Peter 3:16-22
"16 and keep a good conscience so that in the thing in which you are slandered, those who revile your good behavior in Christ will be put to shame.
17 For it is better, if God should will it so, that you suffer for doing what is right rather than for doing what is wrong.
18 For Christ also died for sins once for all, the just for the unjust, so that He might bring us to God, having been put to death in the flesh, but made alive in the spirit; "
Hallelujah!!!!
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